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will not force my son to wear a t shirt and I don't think you are allowed to anyways (it slows them down). That would cause more embarrassment. The problem I have is that he is around girls but also the young female teacher will be staring at all these bare chested boys. I can't help but think she might be thinking some things when looking

I wouldn't worry about the teacher. Given all the news today about how some teachers who have been teachers for years are being accused of inappropriate behavior. The school systems are and have tightened their background searches on new hires. Also Principals keep closer eyes on new teachers

The teacher is human though and I'm sure she might appreciate a good looking young body. Heck I'm retired and I appreciate a good looking young girl. That does not mean she or I will act upon our appreciation.

I believe you are obsessing over something that doesn't exist. The same with the young girls in class. If any of them are offended by boys not wearing shirts they would take it up with there parents.

Schools that have swimming pools have been teaching swim classes for years. It is a good skill for children to have. Over the years the schools have changed with the times. At one time the classes were segregated by sex. Now they are coed. At one time the swim suits they wore would embarrass today's teenager. Just be happy the boys have to wear trunks and not spedo's and the girls must wear one piece suits.

As I said you are obsessing over nothing. Let your son be your guide.

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Were not just because of the age of the teacher but also because my son now has to be half naked in front of not only the girls in the class but this young teacher too

Your family values are your values and it is not my place to say they are right or they are wrong. What I will say is that your son is not the only boy in that class and to subject him to wear a t-shirt or cover up in anyway for no medical reason; is going to subject him to teasing and bullying.

Children are born without modesty. Modesty is something we instill in them as part of our family values. At your sons age boys generally have no problem walking around in front of girls without a t-shirt on unless they have a weight problem that makes them ashamed of their body. Of course if your son does have a problem with modesty and the teacher insists he swim without a t-shirt on; then you would have to step in.

My advice is to assure yourself that your son is not embarrassed or that not wearing a t-shirt to swim in offends his values and modesty. If he is not offended then please do not force this on him. Children can be very cruel to one another. Forcing him to wear a t-shirt during swim class will only subject to ridicule, teasing and possibly bullying by the other students. I'm sure this is not something you want your son to be subject to.

It is not fair that he be ridiculed or mistreated while in or out of school by other students that I am certain of as I am sure you are. But as parents and teachers we can only be watchful a certain amount of time. The rest of the time he must unfortunately fend for himself. Please do not put him in a position of having to do so.

This age is a very important age for all teenagers. It is time when there social interaction skills are learned and put to the test. If he is telling you he is not concerned then monitor his behavior and if nothing changes; let it be. At this it is really a time when we as parents must let our children try their wings a bit with them knowing that we will clip them if they get into trouble.

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Hi.. i was wondering how much money plumbers make per year and per month on average, i was interested in them and i was wondering if you need any special degree or study to be a plumber.
thanks!

Plumbers are considered a skilled trade. As such they can and most do make an excellent living. How much they make depends on where they live and the type of work they do and who they work for. Union plumbers make the most money and they supply all the training an apprentice will ever need. While an apprentice you work with and under the supervision of a Master Plumber while going to school in the evening. Many of the course you take in the apprentice program are college level course and earn college credit.

If you do not wish to join a union there are a number of ways to get the training you need to get the state license you need to work as a plumber. You can enroll in a technical training school. You can also find a job as an apprentice with a non union contractor and attend an industry sponsored training school. Here again while an apprentice you work with and under the supervision of a Master Plumber while going to school in the evening.

Being a plumber is not just a job, it is a profession as a plumber is a professional doing professional work for a professionals salary or earnings.

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I'm 18/f and I weigh 110lbs and I'm 5'4".
So I know that that's not underweight or dangerous.
The thing is that I lost a lot of weight when I was around 10 and used to be chubby. Since when my relationship with food is horrible. I've been losing and gaining weight every since. I never weigh more than around 113lbs so I don't gain very much. But I think about food the whole day. I think about losing weight all the time. Yet I'm unable to reach my goal. I always fail. I want to weigh around 88lbs and I know that's unhealthy but I just don't think I can ever be happy if I don't lose weight and reach that goal. I always go on pro ana diets and fail. I'm always jealous of anorexic people and I know it's horrible :( And this is just killing me. I hate myself for failing and I hate living because all I can think of is food. My mom doesn't care much because I'm not too skinny.
Do I have an eating disorder? My mom doesn't want me to seek help cause she thinks I don't need it so I'm not. I've asked her so many times if I can talk to someone but she just doesn't care so I just feel silly for actually thinking I have a problem. But I just don't know what to do anymore. Am I really okay and overreacting or do I have a problem?

While I am not a doctor, none of are. Given what you said and how you said it. In my opinion you do have a problem. Can it be classified as an eating disorder? I'm not sure but the way you stated your problem you do have what I would say an unhealthy outlook about your weight.

A weight of 88 pounds would put you grossly underweight. This would be far worse than being grossly overweight. Our bodies are designed to save the mind at all costs. If you do not eat enough to support your body then the body starts feeding upon itself. This is how we lose weight. When you get below your proper weight and the body cannot support all of the systems that keep you healthy it starts shutting down the systems it feels are not needed to support the brain.

First to shutdown are the kidneys. Then the pancreases, the liver, the lungs, then the heart and finally the brain. This is a tough way to die. I have a friend who's daughter was anorexic and died this way. I don't think she weighed more than 60 pounds when she died.

You are an adult at age 18. You do not need parental permission to see a doctor even if you are under your parents insurance. I suggest you make an appointment to see your family doctor and tell the doctor what you have told us. The doctor will most likely send you to an eating specialist who may be a psychiatrist or psychologist.

Do not let the doctors title put a label on you. Go see the doctor your doctor recommends. Right now you are healthy though with your outlook that could change rapidly.

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What dose it mean when they ask subject of special training

If this question is related to a job application or an interview question. Then they are asking what courses you have taken that might make you of value to the position you are applying for.

Some of these courses would be different types of computer courses such as CAD CAM and others including all of the Windows and Office systems. IF you have taken a technical or vocational training course this two is what they are looking for.

Generally any course that would be outside the normal course of study for high school or college. Other course that would fall into this category would be Emergency vehicle operator, EMT, Paramedic, courses you might have taken in the Military or for previous employment.

All of these things tells the prospective employer a great deal about you. Considering this question I would say you may not have much to put in this area at this time. Do not be concerned if you do not.

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at my son's and daughter's school they have swimming in PE from 8th grade to at least 10th grade in high school and the boys and girls have it together. I though this was bad enough. Wouldn't this make people feel uncomfortable? And cause distractions and goofing off among everybody? Not to mention young boys will be around with no shirts on which I think is inappropriate for young girls to be around of. My son has some stretch marks and now he has to stand half naked in front of all those girls and this will give them a chance to humiliate or tease him.

but now I find out that the teacher is also a young female that is probably about 23 or 24. I remember meeting her because she taught his health class as well. I do not feel comfortable with my son having a teacher that young and a person that young being in charge of a class that includes young boys 15-16 years old in swimming costumes.

My son keeps saying he does not care, but he is young and may not realize how wrong this is.


should I take some type of action

To try and intercede in something you son is not asking you for help with will cause him more problems then may or may not be happening in school. It has been a while since I have been in school but I do remember my PE classes. While we did not have swimming we would be, on appropriate days, outside on the track or field playing some type of game. The class would be divided up Skins VS Shirts. The girls PE class would also be outside playing field hockey or some other game.

So be it swimming or field sports the chances are high your son would be seen without his shirt at some time during a PE class. Unless he had a medical reason not to take his shirt off or not to take PE it is almost unavoidable.

As for the teachers age do not doubt her capability in managing her class. I found the younger the teacher the stricter they were. When I was in high school, a senior, one of the new teachers for that year was actually a student when I was in middle school or Junior high as we call them. She lived in town and frequented the town pool each summer. Most of us knew her and we boys drooled over her. Those of us who thought ourselves lucky to get her for senior English thought we were the luckiest seniors in school. It took only one day for us to find out we were the unluckiest as she came down on us with both feet and a sledge hammer.

I'm sure this teacher is just as qualified as my English teacher was for us. Being a PE teacher she is most probably also very fit and more than capable to handle teenage boys of your sons age.

One other thing. We are living in different times than when you or I were younger. Young people today are far more accepting of what you may consider inappropriate showing of a persons body. Manners of dress today would have had us suspended from school. Today if there is no dress code in the school a teacher of administer might and I say might say something about how it is inappropriate dress for school.

A good example of the difference between our thinking of appropriate dress is to take a look around any office. Look at how the young people dress as opposed to the older people. Are the older people right and the younger people wrong? The answer depends on who you ask.

The short answer to your question is: Do not interfere unless your son asks you too. Your interference will cause him more harm than you believe he is being exposed to.

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Hi 13/m..
So im at an international school and there is this kid my age that really gets on my nerves..he insults me and my friends..we already told the principal he got suspended once or twice, we also insult him back this year cause we dont have anything else to do..he has no friends which is probably the cause..he insulted on of my close friends yesterday and she felt very bad..I feel like beating him up but i dont want to get expelled, suspension for me is fine but not an expulsion!

Fighting solves nothing and gets both of your the type of attention you don't want. Today anything that starts in school stays in school. Meaning even if you were to go after this boy off school property, because the problem you are retaliating against started in school you can expect to be punished in school for.

Also suspensions and expulsions do not look good and college transcripts. You may be going to an International School though the college transcript information would not differ from any other school. Colleges do not like trouble makers. Suspensions for fighting, especially in high school, are big red flags to them. so saying you won't mind a suspension is something you should rethink as it could keep you out of the College or University of your choice.

The better things to do is ignore him. He is looking for attention. If you give it to him you are satisfying his need and desire for attention. Even if you were to beat him up I some weird way you would still satisfy that need.

You can as I said ignore him, this includes telling teachers and the principal of his insults, as this also satisfies his need for attention. One other thing you can do to stop his insults is to try and make friends with him. I know this would be hard for you to do but it would be the grown up thing to do.

I'm sure that since he is friendless he is also lonely. Think about how you would feel going all day through school without anyone to talk to while changing classes or anyone to have lunch with every day of the school year. It is not only lonely but it must be hard for him to sit there day in and day out and watch everyone else having fun while he sits there by himself.

No one says you have to be anything more than a school buddy to him. One thing for sure is that you will learn more about him and you just might find out he is a very interesting person. He just maybe someone you and your other friends may want to include in after school activities.

one thing for sure is if you make friends with him he will stop calling you names.

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How can i show my parents that my opinions are important and that they should be considered as well?

Have you ever heard the old expression;"Children should be seen and not heard." Some parents are old fashioned enough to believe in this expression. In todays world it is my opinion that parents who believe in it are wrong.

That being said how do you convince your parents that you have a right to your own opinions?

The biggest responsibility we as parents have is teaching our children right from wrong. Now to my mind opinions have no true right or true wrong. It is definitely okay for any two people or more to have differing opinions on any subject.

This is where the problem comes in between parent a child. The second biggest job as parents that we have is helping you grow in to an adult. Shaping your outlook, how you see things which is part of how you shape your opinions, is part of our job as parents. When a child's opinion differs greatly from that of the parents at the very least they are told they have no idea or concept of what they are talking about. To me this is wrong. This is when a discussion should be had asking the child to quantify their opinion. To do so is a teaching moment.

From this discussion both parent(s) and child can see where the child is coming from with their opinion. As I said the opinion itself is not wrong though maybe the evidence to quantify that opinion is erroneous. This is the teaching point for the parent or for the child a chance to demonstrate to the parent they have done the research to quantify their opinion and the parents evidence or thoughts or faulty.

I have taken the long way around to get to the answer to your question. In what I have written above is the answer. If your parents are not accepting of your opinion then you must quantify to them why then should. With your parents just going to them and saying you have a right to your opinion is not going to work.

You need to go to them with a conversation in mind that asks them to help you learn and grow.
I would start the conversation with something like; "mom, dad I realize you don't consider my opinions to count for anything." "What I don't understand is why." "As parents is it not your job to help me grow into an adult and is not part of being an adult having opinions of my own." "Rather than tell me my opinion is foolish or nonsense could you not help me understand why by letting me try to justify my opinion and you pointing out where my reasoning is flawed." "Wouldn't this be helping me grow."

Of course you would put that in to your own words. If your parents are the good parents I believe than to be they shouldn't be able to refuse that type of reasoning.

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I don't know what to do. i don't want people to think Im crazy. I don't think theres nothing mentally wrong with me. I don't talk to people about the voices I hear cause they won't believe me or they will tell me to ignore it. I can't ignore it, its scary and loud. I can't sleep most of the time and Im paranoid. Im always looking around me cause I think evil spirits or demons are after me. I've seen shadow people since I was 9 years old. I also saw a lady with stitched lips and eyes, she had long curly hair and pale skin, I think she was a ghost or demon. Theres also this black cloud following me in my house

I also hear people talking all day, but I don't understand what they're saying. I heard a voice tell me I was going to hell once. I hear raging screams and growling all day. Whatever it is is scaring me. the voices are so loud I can't concentrate and I start shaking with fear. I hear something screaming like its angry at me. sometimes it sounds like its in my head or sometimes it sounds like its in the room with me. sometimes when I close my eyes I hear screaming.

I get paralyzed whether Im awake or sleep and sometimes I go blind. I always feel an evil presence in the room with me. A couple of hours after I prayed one night, I heard something growling & screaming angrily at me. It was loud & scary, but no one else heard it. The shadows I see moving around my house scare me too. I feel like something is watching me all the time & I see weird things out of the corners of my eye. I even felt something jump through my body once & I could it hear it breathing loud. I've seen black matter/ a cloud floating around me. This is so scary Ive cried and I don't know what else to do

Ive been doctors and no matter what all they will say is that this isn't real and Im just hallucinating. I don't even know if a priest or church will believe me. Im scared to be alone. I think theres something spiritual after me. my mom thinks I shouldn't be scared and she thinks theres something wrong with me and she won't listen. I don't do drugs or drink

I don't know what doctors you have been to but obviously you have been to the wrong ones. If you are hallucinating you have a problem and you need proper care, medical care.

If I knew your age I could probably give you better advice as to what to do for yourself. Since you did not provide it here is what you need to do.

I can't tell you if you are crazy or not; actually the word crazy is a broad term meaning mental illness. Not all mental illness means the person is crazy as most of us define the word. To find out just what is going on in your head and to get some relief from it you need to see a Board Certified Psychiatrist.

A Board Certified Psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has done a Fellowship in psychiatry and past all the necessary requirements to be certified as a psychiatrist. In many states any doctor who has done a residency in psychiatry during his residency training can practice psychiatry. This does not make them a qualified psychiatrist especially one to deal with your problem.

Tell mom you need to and would like see a Board Certified Psychiatrist. Rather than pick one out of the phone book have mom or you can contact your local hospital for a referral to one of their staff psychiatrist. If there is a medical school near you there is usually a teaching hospital associated with the school. Contact the patient referral line at this hospital and ask to be referred to one of their staff psychiatrist. Generally these doctors besides being on staff at the hospital are also the Professors at the Medical School.

As both doctor and teacher this makes them the best doctors to see if you can get to them. The students keep these doctors on their toes as they are always trying to please them by finding out what is wrong with the patients assigned to them. As such the teacher/doctors has to stay up on all the latest techniques and treatments to diagnose and treat patients.

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im really wondering if im supposed to shave my pussy or vagina area. im really hairy and i wear a 34B and i get really irrated cause i feel like im the only one with hair their

This question falls in the category of personal desire and satisfaction. There is no must do about it.

Some women shave for personal hygiene reasons, others do so because their husbands or boyfriends have asked them too. Most women trim their pubic hair to fit beneath their bathing suits. It is really a question of personal desire.

As for men. The feeling to day is that they would like their women to have a pubic bush and some even want a full pubic area of hair. Some though ask that their girlfriend or wife shave just their vagina for obvious reasons.

My personal opinion is I prefer a woman have a pubic bush and it does not bother me if she does not shave at all. To me a woman with no hair, especially young women look even younger when nude if they shave and look even younger and child like.

When I make love I make love to women not children. I desire my wife, previously my girlfriend not to shave. When we first met she shaved I asked her to stop. She was very relieved to not have to shave anymore.

In the end though the choice to shave or not to shave is a personal choice, not a requirement of any kind.

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Me and my guy friend when we was 13 would give orel sex to each other. Now we are 21 in a relationship with girls and haven't spoke about it since we was prob 14. And we and would not want anyone to find out about it. How would I go about asking him if he would ever consider me giving him a blowjob again

Experimenting sexually with members of the same sex during your early teenage years is almost a rite of passage. Most boys and girls do so. It does not mean you're bisexual. Experimentation or exploring sexuality with a member of the same sex is safe; as in there is generally no embarrassment about being naked with each other or how to perform. It is for most boys and girls their first step into the adult world of sex.

While most men and women have participated in this type of sex play. Most would not want to admit it or relive it with the partner or partners they experimented with. For many it is something they want to forget about for they fear their present heterosexual partner will feel poorly about them if they learned about this time in their lives. That they may have latent homosexual tendencies. This of course is not true.

Some may come to enjoy sex with the same sex as well as the opposite sex. We call these people bisexual. Some people think this wrong, an affront to religious teachings. Frankly what goes on in the privacy of your own home and bedroom is now ones business but yours and your partners.

To answer your question; it would be very hard to bring up or to start a conversation with your teenage same sex partner, especially in mixed company. This would most definitely have to be a conversation that takes place in total privacy between just the two of you.

If you were to start a conversation that would lead to this question it would have to start indirectly. A conversation somewhat along the lines of the good old days back in high school and then lead the conversation in the direction that would come back to the time of the two of you bumbling with sexual experimentation between you.

The same would be true of a conversation with your girlfriend(s) if you wanted to find out is she or they have ever had a same sex sexual relationship. The chances are high that they have, will they or she admit to it is another story.

You never know where these conversations will lead too. If you were to ask you childhood friend if he would like to relieve that time with you? He could end up slugging you and you and he ending a great friendship. So be careful what you ask for.

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Hey you guys, I'm a seventeen year old female and I want to know is it normal to bleed after being fingered?

My boyfriend has been fingering me recently, and I've noticed that I'd bleed afterwards. The first time was about three weeks ago, and after he finished, he pulled out his fingers and they were covered with blood. He claimed that he popped my cherry. I left it at that, figuring that I'd never truly popped it on my own.

The next time he did it, I was almost on my period, so I figured that it just came early.

However, the last time he fingered me, he pulled out his fingers and there was a lot of blood on them. And I mean by a LOT. I was worried that I had internal bleeding and I'd damaged something. It was truly embarrassing and worrisome. It didn't seem like normal period blood, but the bright "I've cut something" blood. It's been two days since he's fingered me, and I'm still seeing spotting, and gooey brown blood/vaginal discharge.

It doesn't hurt when he fingers me, except I may feel a quick, sharp pain if he goes too deep, too fast.

Before my boyfriend started fingering me, I wouldn't experience any type of bleed if I fingered myself, or even when I was with different partners and they did so for me. Now, when I finger myself, I experience slight bleeding.

There may be a couple of things going on here. He may have torn your Hymen but not ruptured or detached it. If so every time he fingers you he tears it a little more.

He may be scrapping or tearing your vaginal walls with a jagged fingernail or a rough callous. Check his nails and if they are long or jagged give him a manicure before he fingers you trimming back his nails and smoothing his callouses.

If there is nothing wrong with his fingers or nails then my first thoughts are possible. My suggestion then would be you see your GYN and let the GYN finish the removal of your HYMEN. The GYN will also upon examination find out the real cause of the problem and correct it for you.

I am not a doctor and even if I was without being able to examine you I can only make an educated guess at the problem. It is in your reproductive health's best interest to see a GYN and see what the problem is. There is no reason to be embarrassed with the doctor for he or she has seen this and more during their practice.

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As a baptist faith. What do they think of suicide?

Most all religions including the Muslim religion condemn suicide. The suicide bombers of the Muslim Jihad are not practicing the Muslim religion as it is meant to be practiced. I seriously doubt there are 72 virgins waiting for them in paradise if they ever get to paradise.

Most religions will not bury someone who has committed suicide in sanctified ground.

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I heard that the stuff in botox is a horrible toxin that can basically cause food poisoning... how come it helps people get the desired effect they want if its so poisonous? i dont understand how that works... wouldn't it make somebody look worse? more aged or something?

Yes Botox is a poison. When properly used and administer by a well trained practitioner can be beneficial for certain types of problems. The problem is that some people abuse it and there are many out there administering it that are not licensed to do so.

When abused it can cause people great harm, make them look worse and in extreme situations cause death. People looking for the benefits Botox can provide should see a Board Certified Plastic surgeon trained in the use of Botox. It may be more expensive than the street vendor pushing it though the results are better and the Doctor will not allow the patient to abuse it or over administer it.

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Hello! I'm 16/female, just in case you needed that piece of information in order to answer.
Ok, so I've been realizing more and more that the people around me are getting depressed and thinking about killing themselves lately, and its making me really curious. Of course there are the common reasons, stress, depression, and schizophrenia, but what are all of the reasons why people commit suicide? Or self harm? I just want to know if I'm missing something here...

Don't worry, I'm not one of those dumbasses. I'm an extremely happy and grateful person. I'm just completely confused...

I appreciate all answers that come my way in advance, and have a wonderful day everyone :)

You have asked a wonderful question. unfortunately there is no one answer to it. You are not missing anything. The people who try to kill themselves do so for many reasons. The one common reason is at the time they are mentally ill, depression has caused them to perceive things not as they are but as the depression says they are.

Why they get so depressed is varied. Stress is a big factor. You could say that stress comes in all shapes sizes and colors. For what is stressful to me may not be stressful to you.

Because of the stress and other factors this person feels that the world has turned against them and would be better off without them. That the problem is insurmountable and the only way out is death.

Of course those of us not out of our minds with depression know better. There is not a problem that I am aware of that cannot be fixed with the right kind of help. This is where having good friends come in. Friends who will notice the change in someone and get them the help they need to fix themselves first and their problems second.

Its a sociological problem that we put upon one another mostly out of greed. At least that is the cause I see in dealing with this problem as a first responder. We sometimes ask or demand too much of some people.

Like I said in the beginning. There is no one answer, this has been my view. I hope it helps you understand a bit better.

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Hey I just want to no um well I get like yellow and brownish stuff in my undies and I no it's discharge but I have it every day and it's turning brown and I'm really scared and embarrassed to tell my mum if she can get my any panty lines can you give me some ideas on how I will tell my mum I got discarge and I need panty liners

First: There is nothing to be embarrassed about especially in talking to your mom. Remember you and your mom are built exactly alike and she will remember what it was like when she was your age.

Second: If mom does your laundry I'm sure she has noticed the stains by now. Rather than say something to you and embarrass you by doing so she may be waiting to see if you are going to come to her.

What is happening is a normal part of growing up for you. If you are having discharge every day and have yet to have your period then you will soon be getting your period. Talking with mom will help you be prepared for when your period does come. If you have already gotten your period and are still discharging this stuff every day then a trip to a GYN may be in order for you may have an infection.

If you do have an infection and plan on having children someday. Then you need to see what this problem is and get it taken care of. Mom has many years of experience in dealing with her menstrual periods. She will have the right answer for you as to what needs to be done.

This is not a sex problem or sex. This is a bodily function for you just like any other bodily function. If you were constipated you might ask mom for help. Why should this be any different just because it deals with your vagina and womb.

Don't get uptight or embarrassed about your body with members of your family especially mom and in the future your husband. We can't give you the loving help and support we want and are meant to give if you don't share with us what is wrong. When something is wrong, when your body is not working right, what ever part, there is no reason to be embarrassed to tell someone who loves you.

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I am a 14 year old female. About a week ago I developed a sore throat, followed by a really bad cough. I had a bit of a runny nose but nothing unlikely. I didn't think much of it untill in the course of being sick I got a really bad sore throat. It felt unbearable. I went to school and in my health class we started talking about STDS and stuff. Where there I was informed that if your partner has HIV and you perform oral you can get throat cancer. A few days before I got my sore throat I had given my boyfriend a blow job. From there I became skeptical about throat cancer.. I don't think my boyfriend has HIV but I'm not sure. i don't drink or smoke or anything that can trigger throat cancer but it has almost been 2 weeks and I have another sore throat that I can't handle anymore. It is so painful it hurts to eat, swallow, even drink water. It feels bruised. Please help! This is keeping me up all night and I can't take it, it hurts way too much.

None of us are doctors so of course we can't make any diagnoses.

Statistically speaking the chances of your boyfriend having AIDS or the HIV virus are extremely low. Also it would take more than a week or two for the symptoms of throat cancer to show up.

Most likely you have an upper respiratory infection that needs more than over the counter medication to cure. You need to see a doctor before this infection turns into pneumonia or bronchitis which is more likely what you might now be suffering from.

In the future if you wish to give a boy a oral use a condom. I understand they now come flavored for just this purpose. At your age thanks to a federal law called HIPPA, you can look this up on line, no one can refuse to sell you contraceptives or any other birth control. Your doctor can and must prescribe birth control if you ask because this law says they must.

Within the HIPPA there is language covering young people 14 years of age and older and their reproductive rights. Read this section and you will see how and why you can have birth control or purchase condoms without interference.

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Hi...I am from India.
I am 20 , me and my boyfriend were dry humping without clothes on oct , I got my periods 4 days later next month on November , now its December and its been 6 days delayed I havent got my periods yet...can I be pregent ?

If I understand you correctly. You had a period in October after you and your boyfriend were naked and dry humping. You had another period in November. Now you are 6 days late with your December period.

You cannot be pregnant from the activity which occurred in October or if any occurred in November prior to your November period. Once your period arrives your womb is cleaning itself making ready for your next cycle of fertility in which an egg can be implanted and pregnancy takes place.

Since your last period and now if any sexual activity has taken place where your boyfriends penis has entered your vagina or semen from him has gotten into your vagina? Then it may be possible you are pregnant. If your boyfriend entered you but did not ejaculate. He may have had a pre-ejaculate which is a lubricant that has enough sperm in it to make his partner pregnant. If none of this has happened then you cannot be pregnant.

There are any number of reasons why a woman will be late or even miss a period from time to time without being pregnant. The biggest reason is stress. It can be stress at school, home or work or even stress over being pregnant that can cause you to miss a period. This would not be unusual.

The next biggest reason is illness and medications. If you have been sick in the past month this could throw off you cycle. Taking of certain medications among them antibiotics have been known to cause a missed period.

If you are truly concerned take a home pregnancy test. I would be surprised if it came up positive. It should, based on what you have said show a negative test. A negative result should relieve any stress you have placed yourself under thinking you are pregnant.

In the future whether you and your boyfriend are dry humping or having intercourse make him wear a condom or keep his penis in his pants.

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How do I have a clean pussy?

To clean your vagina, proper term for your sex organ, during your daily shower just plain soap and water is all you need to clean the exterior of your vagina. The interior does not need cleaning. If you do feel the need to rinse it out plain water is all you need unless your GYN tells you to use something else for some reason.

The interior of your vagina has a delicate ph. balance. Using over the counter douche's will upsets this balance, is not recommended by doctors as it can do more harm than good, unless they recommend you do so for medical reasons.

If you feel the need, which you should not, to rinse out your vagina. Then plain warm, not hot or cold, water will do.

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Last night, my mother went to bed early and it was just me and my stepdad in the kitchen. As I was preparing myself to take my medication, he came up, pulled my shirt up and started rubbing my stomach while I had my back turned. Should I be nervous? What does it mean?

Obviously this is the first time your stepdad has touched you in such a manner. I cannot tell you if this touch was inappropriate of not. Touching someone's stomach is not consider touching someone' private parts so therefore I cannot classify as inappropriate sexual contact.

Since his touching you in this manner made you uncomfortable enough to write to us and ask if this was wrong of him. Then my answer to that question is yes. No one has the right to touch anyone anywhere they do not wish to be touched. Any touching that makes you uncomfortable is inappropriate.

There are other things that could make this touch more than inappropriate. Such as if you were preparing for bed and you were in just the shirt and panties. Then the touch was sexually inappropriate.. Did he pull you back against him? Again this would be somewhat sexually inappropriate.

My advice is to speak with your mother. Tell her everything. How you were dressed. If he pulled you back against him and if he did could you feel if he was erect. From this your mother can determine if his touch was sexually inappropriate or an attempt at a loving gesture.

If mom does not feel it was a sexually inappropriate touch. You should then tell her to ask her husband not to touch you in this manner as it made you uncomfortable. Your mother should understand and comply with your wishes. If mom says you are being silly; I would then suggest you talk with a trusted teacher at school or your school principal. There are plans in place to protect you that they must follow if you talk to them about things such as this.

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