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having bisexual thoughts
Me and my guy friend when we was 13 would give orel sex to each other. Now we are 21 in a relationship with girls and haven't spoke about it since we was prob 14. And we and would not want anyone to find out about it. How would I go about asking him if he would ever consider me giving him a blowjob again
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I also don't encourage cheating, You don't want anyone too find out because you know it would be wrong.
There is a huge maturity difference between the age of 13 and 21. There is a very high possibility that he is no longer in this stage. If the guy is in a relationship with someone then why would you even think about possibly ruining that for him? This is not only wrong on different levels but if you feel that you are bisexual and not happy in your relationship then you should be honest about it and do the right thing. I assume you aren't happy only because you are thinking about doing something like this to your girlfriend. Cheating is a cowards way out, If people found out and you lost everything then exactly who's fault would it be? Imagine if you DID loose everything, Was it worth it? Is it what you wanted? I'm not trying to put you out to be the bad guy here dude but you need think about these things. If you feel you want to be with a guy then that's fine but go about it the mature way and don't play peoples feelings.
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Experimenting sexually with members of the same sex during your early teenage years is almost a rite of passage. Most boys and girls do so. It does not mean you're bisexual. Experimentation or exploring sexuality with a member of the same sex is safe; as in there is generally no embarrassment about being naked with each other or how to perform. It is for most boys and girls their first step into the adult world of sex.
While most men and women have participated in this type of sex play. Most would not want to admit it or relive it with the partner or partners they experimented with. For many it is something they want to forget about for they fear their present heterosexual partner will feel poorly about them if they learned about this time in their lives. That they may have latent homosexual tendencies. This of course is not true.
Some may come to enjoy sex with the same sex as well as the opposite sex. We call these people bisexual. Some people think this wrong, an affront to religious teachings. Frankly what goes on in the privacy of your own home and bedroom is now ones business but yours and your partners.
To answer your question; it would be very hard to bring up or to start a conversation with your teenage same sex partner, especially in mixed company. This would most definitely have to be a conversation that takes place in total privacy between just the two of you.
If you were to start a conversation that would lead to this question it would have to start indirectly. A conversation somewhat along the lines of the good old days back in high school and then lead the conversation in the direction that would come back to the time of the two of you bumbling with sexual experimentation between you.
The same would be true of a conversation with your girlfriend(s) if you wanted to find out is she or they have ever had a same sex sexual relationship. The chances are high that they have, will they or she admit to it is another story.
You never know where these conversations will lead too. If you were to ask you childhood friend if he would like to relieve that time with you? He could end up slugging you and you and he ending a great friendship. So be careful what you ask for.
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I can never recommend deception or cheating.
And this would be cheating, and deception. The kind of cheating and deception that destroys trust, and even puts your relationships and friendships at risk.
Being bisexual does NOT mean you need to be having regular sex with people of both genders. Having a sexual attraction to men and women, doesn't make deception or cheating okay.
You are in a relationship with your girlfriend. If there is sexual activity you desire that you don't want with her, or cant have with her, you need to talk to her about that first.
Sorry. You get no pass here. It's okay to want to have oral sex with men. It's not okay to lie to partner about it. It's also not okay to expect that no one will ever find out - that is setting yourself up for disaster.
Want to set yourself up for success, and honest, enjoyable sex? Great, then talk to you girlfriend about what it is you want. Either that, or stick to porn and fantasy.
Approaching your old friend (who you barely seem to have a friendship with anymore) behind both of your girlfriends backs, is NEVER going to be an okay thing to do, and is also a really dumb move.
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