Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends.
Ok. She is definitely invading your space to the point of grossness. You need to tell her how she is making you feel. Hopefully, she will understand and back off. It's hard to deal with these things you aren't used to. Please don't hate her because she doesn't know how to deal with her feelings. She may just be pushing the envelope at the moment. Don't start a bunch of rumours that you can't prove. Just confront her, forgive her, and move on.
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This is a VERY long story so bear with me.
My father got re-married about three years ago. The woman he married, Karen, was perfectly nice until their wedding day, when she did a total Jekyll and Hyde (sp?) and went totally psycho. She started taking my stuff, hiding it or ripping it up, but never admitting that it was her. For a couple of years now my father's side of the family accused me of making it all up. However, about a year ago now, Karen sent a completely bitchy email, the details of which I won't bother going in to, which meant I stopped seeing her and my father's side of the family. Since then she has sent many more nasty texts and emails accusing me of all sorts and threatening to take the child benefit away from my mother, etc etc etc (I am aware that she couldn't legally do this).
Recently, her 'psycho stuff' has become a lot worse. She started sending odd letters - the address on the envelope disguised as a child's writing and saying on the back of the envelope, 'from Ryan' (Ryan is my younger cousin). Inside would be photographs of me, often cut up so I am the only one in the picture, and stuck onto a background of coloured card or paper. We knew she must be sending these because she is the only one, other than my father, with the access to these particular photographs (me on holiday with my father and Karen).
So, my (paternal) Nan confronted her and Karen has admitted that she sent the letters. She says it is because my father goes to work away a lot and she gets 'bored'. I personally feel that that doens't even qualify as an excuse to do what she has done - for weeks we had been terrified of who these letters were from, and I'm still scared to go out of the house (even into my backgarden) on my own incase she is lurking around.
Karen has since written a letter of apology to my mother's parents. WHY she sent it to them, I have no idea. My grandad doesn't want to take any further action, but there is no way that I am just sitting here and taking 'I was bored' as an excuse for putting my family through all the crap she has over the years (I have only mentioned a small amount of what she has done here). But what can I do?
She begged my grandad to NOT tell me and my mother that it was her who had sent the letters, but of course we know because WE figured it out in the first place. So, I think that if I do do anything, she will think my grandad has told me she did it, or my mother has put me up to doing whatever I would do. That means she might well hurt my grandad or my mother (I wouldn't put it past her - please no-one reply saying 'she wouldn't do that' because you don't know this woman. I do).
My mother thinks that I deserve an apology, not only from Karen but from all of my father's family for not believing me in the first place, but to me, 'sorry' just wouldn't cut it. 'Sorry' isn't a big enough word to make everything she has done go away. But what can I do? I know I could go to the police but my grandad doesn't think I should take any further action and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him. But on the other hand, there is NO WAY I am taking 'I am bored' as her reason.
There is also the problem that she doesn't know that me and my mother know she is the one who sent the letters. My father also doesn't know a THING about the letters yet, and although I don't get on with him, I want him to know - I'd want to know if my wife was doing something like that.
So, in summary, my question is: What can I do? Because there is no way I will do nothing. And how do I let Karen know that I know what she did? What else could I 'get out' of her other than an apology, something I don't want as I know it would mean nothing (she's already apologised to my grandparents, as I said, but that was only to stop them telling my father).
Sorry this was so long, and thanks in advance for any help. I'm fifteen, female, and don't see any of my father's family other than my Nan, if that helps.
xxx
I swear I thought I read this in Dear Abby. Karen needs to be admitted to a mental health institution. It is not a huge leap from threatening letters to action. Surely she can't continue to fool herself into thinking you don't know what is going on.
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Me and my fiance have been together for going on 3 and half years, that was until Wednesday. We have now split, because I ask him to show me that he loves me more often, because I ask this he blames me for "cussing" at him to much. I know that it is hard for him sometimes to show me this but it is something that I feel that I need, even though I am pretty sure that he does love me. i have never cheated on him or anything to hurt him, he means more than life to me, and will give it all that I have to make sure that he is happy. This is not the first time that we have seperated, and after a few days and does eventually return but this time, my heart is not so sure. Can you tell me what you think will happen to my bf and I. Will you also give me advice on what to do to make sure that this never happens again??
I am not a prognosticator, but here is what I think. If he is not willing to even just say he loves you a little more often, I would be a little concerned. I would try to get at the bottom of why he thinks you are cussing him.
If you sort that out, both of you will probably feel better.
Sometimes you need to spell out exactly what you want word for word for a guy. Instead of, "I would like it if you showed me that you loved me more often." You may should say "Could I have a hug? Could we go off somewhere and camp? Could you bring some flowers, even if they are from Wal-mart(I don't mind arranging my own)?" Just be specific.
Hopefully you haven't been a fiance for 3 years. That's pretty stressful without a marriage. It could be why you are feeling so strained. They say not longer than a year (which we are breaking that because we are saving money, but I tell you its hard already).
The best thing to do with this right now is to ask him if he would be willing to go to premarital or couples counseling. This could also be done by a member of the clergy. Disagreements are going to happen. You two need to work together to solve them not split apart each time. So unless you both start working with each other and not against, you won't have much of a relationship. There needs to be some frank talk with egos left at the door. You cannot control what the other person does; you can only control what your actions and reactions are. That all being said, I hope this helps and feel free to leave me another question.
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i would walk 3 miles every other day? 1/2 mile run on the days when i dont walk? how about that? or would running about 2 miles be better instead of walking fast? like for my legs..to be toned, a nice tight butt/legs kuz i have a big butt but it looks gross lol im not fat but lol idk!
and um also i heard from someone that you have to run a FOOTBALL FIELD to burn off ONE M&M?!??!?! IS THAT TRUE? please respond !!!!
Ok I don't knopwif it is football field, but it seems a little ridiculous since you can actually burn a few calories while sleeping! The advantage to exercising is that you not only burn the calories during you exercise, you also burn more calories later because it ups your metabolism rate.
You need to think about doing exercises other than just running so that you are fit all over.
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my boyfriend has REALLY bad breath. hes such a clean guy but he like breathes with his mouth open and its digusting. even when he chews gum i still smell it. and when were cuddling i just about die. and when he wants to kiss me it smells like dog poo and makes me smell..i cant tell him that will be totally mean...what can i do?
You know he may not even have a clue that its a problem. There are two ways you can handle it. You can gently bring up the fact that "Hey, do you know that your breath is not that fresh? Would you mind very much brushing your teeth before we make out? (insert million dollar smile here). It will be more fun for me." Second, take a pause when he leans over to kiss you and say. "Let me go brush my teeth really quick. I didn't mean to forget. Want to join me?" So it's a little dorky, but man if you gonna love on somebody, you have to be honest.
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Ok...im 14 and i have been made fun of since 4th grade....everyday i get called gay and it just makes me feel terrible...and i dont know why they do it ...i make good grades and im a good person... i jsut would like to know what to do...
Ignore those idiots and take over the world with the benefits that come from your good grades. Then when they come groveling to you for a job, you get to decide their fate.
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Ok, Im in love with this girl Renee. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I went away with her for a weekend and I was really happy... she was really happy.. We kissed and stuff. We fell asleep in each others arms. The next day when we were heading home she was kind of distant. I noticed it and asked her if she was having second thoughts. she said she didnt like me as much as I like her and that the feelings the felt that night had gone away.. I still love her, deeply, I think about her all the time, and we still talk, but I dont want to love her but I cant help it and its killing me, I'm afraid if I stop loving her, I'll stop liking her all together, and I really dont want that to happen.. Im not entirely convinced that her feelings for me are gone, I think she is just hiding them, not wanting to be hurt... but I'd never hurt her!
What can I do? Should I just keep trying to get over her? Should I persist? Could my theorys be true that she is just hiding her true feelings? HELP!!
17/m
Just enjoy the time you do have with her. If she is not settled in your feelings about you, then this is probably why she said what she did. She is trying to be honest with you. Give her time and space she needs, and she may come back. But you have to give her freedom to choose.
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This isn't really a sexual question, but it involves my genitals, so I figured this would be the best place to ask.
My labia is very irritated, itchy, and sometimes downright painful. I know it's not an STD, because I haven't done anything that could give me an STD. It's a bit like a rash, but I wouldn't call it one, it's more like irritation. Sometimes, I'll put vaseline on it, but it doesn't help much and not for long. It's a sharp, burning pain. It especially hurts when I'm forced to touch it, like after I use the restroom, or if I have to insert a tampon. Again, it's just my labia (inner and outer, mostly inner), not anything else, really.
Anyone know what it is/how to relieve it?
It could be a yeast infection or bacteriosis. Or sometimes when we soak in the tub with bubbles, it can give you problems. Some of these little irritations could affect your ability to have children. I would highly suggest seeing a doctor because they can help you quickly figure out what is going on.
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I met this really cool guy at a party a couple of weeks ago and we had like everything in common. He seemed a little bit interested in me that night, but it was hard to tell. He got my screen name from my friend and he IMed me and said he wanted to do something that weekend. Plans didn't really seem to work out 2 weeks in a row. He definatly seemed interested like a week ago and he kept trying to see me. I kept telling myself not to get too hooked on the guy because I just met him and I need to get to know what he's like. Plus I didn't want to get hurt if things didn't work out. So my friends asked if he liked me and he said he wasn't sure because he doesn't really know me, but that I'm an amazing girl. So naturally being a girl, I plan out this whole relationship in my head not being able to control myself. The past week we haven't talked much and when we have he didn't seem to still be interested at all. He didn't say anything about maybe doing something this weekend, which he normally would've done at this point. I'm sooo mad at myself for falling for him because now I'm feeling really sad about the whole thing. I haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years and I've been searching for someone, but I didn't like anyone until I found him. Do you think he still likes me and I'm just reading too into it? And am I crazy for being so obsessive? Like maybe he's just busy this weekend or something... I don't know, but I'm confused and I just want to get over it!
Nope you are pretty much normal. If he can't get some time when he asks, why don't you tell him when you might be available. You aren't going to get to know him until you at least chat on the phone or online for a while. We do crazy stuff in our head all the time. It part of the business of love. So just have fun, and don't get too serious too quickly.
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well today has been very odd for me. my face has just been so itchy! it cant be anything that i put on my face, because everything i put on is daily. well my cheeks are very itchy, as well as my forhead and chin. my eyes too! but i have allergies...any thoughts of what may cause this?
You can still develop an allergy to the things you are putting on your face. Try changing products or just using soap for a little while. It could also be that the weather is drying out your skin and making it itchy. If it doesn't go away after a few days, contact a dermatologist or an allergist to help you out.
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ok... so I've kind of been with this guy for a while now... and it's starting to get sexual... and I've never done anything sexual before so I'm pretty clueless. OK so he keeps feeling me up and I know I need to give him a hand job back... but I just don't know how. I mean does it have to be up before I start rubbin or what? and if it does what do I do to get it up... and idunno how fast to do it either... I don't wanna hurt him or anything and make him think I'm stupid... I obviously know the general motion.. I'm not THAT clueless... but yea. I guess I'm just looking for any tips on giving hand jobs and kind of 'instructions' I guess
Thanks
You do not have to do anything you don't want to. Ever. That being said, ask him what he likes. I am sure he would be more than happy to show you. And besides its good to keep communication going no matter what you are doing.
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Okay, so I eat good, I have gym class every day so I exercise5 times a week for and hour and a half, yet i'm still pretty fat. I mean I'm not obese. I'm about 150, but I'm 5'8. Al my friends are really skinny though so in comparison to them i'm huge. I don't want to hurt myself with an eating disorder or anything and I don't have time to exercise anymore, but what can I do?
You don't sound fat to me. If you are, its by only a few pounds. So if you are having questions, ask the doctor next time you are in, but I would continue in what you are doing. It could very well be partially muscle.
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Tomorrow, i have a Persuasive essay to turn in, which I will later have to read to my English class.
My topic is on book-banning, and i've typed up my essay, and it's all set.
My problem is, is that my last reason for why book-banning from schools and libraries isn't right, is because books are sometimes banned because of homosexual characters.
At first, i felt strongly about stating my opinion through an essay on my opinion on homosexuallity (I'm for gay marriage), but now, I'm having second doubts. Can someone please tell me how they think this will go over in my class, and is it appropriate? (This is Advanced 8th grade Eglish by the way)
So you're ending with a bang. I think you should keep it. Be ready to stand your ground. Just because you chose it as an argument, doesn't mean that you will get speared for it grade wise. It is a real issue in a real world. Lawyers have to come up with arguments they don't necessarily believe in all the time, which is why people don't trust them. It's not like you are graphically representing the sex act itself. Since it is an advanced class, hopefully the people in it are more mature and can handle a mature argument.
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What is meterosexual, and is that a bad thing for a female who is trying to date one?
Are you kidding? He would actually like to go shopping, and to the spa, and all those things we like to do for ourselves to make us feel better. So yeah a meterosexual is a guy who likes to spend time on his looks whether it be pedicures, massages, exercise, etc. It's just a label. And he has a certain understanding as to how it feels to do things for yourself. Hopefully, he won't be too self centered.
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i wana go on a diet and iv tried alot and im just going by my own rules so i just make it up as i go along. has n e 1 been on a diet and lost alot of wieght?
The biggest favor you can do for yourself is cut out all of the sodas. They are a huge waste of calories. Just cutting back is a huge improvement. Replace it with water. It has taken me several months, but by eating more vegetables, less meat, and less sodas, I have dropped 20lbs. But it is a daily fight.
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Have you ever thought that you liked someone when you were going out with a different someone (that you love soooo much!) and sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with the other person?
I know its wrong, and i told my boyfriend {of 1yr and almost 2mos.} but i dont know how to stop. because I don't truly like these other people. I Love my boyfriend tho. I hope this isn't too confusing!!
Anyone experienced this?
Help me to stop please!
Oh, I would never cheet on my boyfriend or break up with him. So your probabaly wondering, "whats the problem them?" well I still dont want to think these things. i mean i know im a teen (freshman/female) but I have a great boyfriend and I know this isnt right! so, anyone??
Thanks In Advance!
-*KeLs*-
p.s.=if this doesnt make since { how i worded it or if you need to know something else}, say so in your answer, and i'll re-ask the question to you differently!
Thanks!! :)
It's normal to have these feelings sometimes, even when you aren't a teenager. The good news is that you at least have a good communication line going with your boyfriend. I think you need to figure out what is missing in your current relationship that you are searching for in fantasizing about another one. And if you did break up with your boyfriend, you probably wouldn't feel for the other guy necessarily. This is part of "being in love" that may not settle out until you are ready to forsake all others and be married to your beau. So do some soul searching and don't beat yourself up too much.
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Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex?
Remember that even though you have taken the best precaustions, you need to prepare for the worst outcome. You need to discuss what you both will do in the event of pregnancy before you have sex. Even with both forms of birth control, it can still happen. Sex is best in at least a committed relationship because it emotionally and physically to each other. I would highly encourage you to wait until marriage. If you cannot discuss this with your partner, then you definitely don't need to have sex. V is not a curse, it's a blessing that you don't miss until its gone. It's hard to fathom right now, but hopefully you will be rewarded in time. Age isn't a factor, maturity is.
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i just got a record deal. But they want me to do all these things I dont want to do. How do i tell them i want to do some things my way without getting fired?
You still need to be involved in some savvy give and take. You give in to some of their thoughts, and they give you some of your desires. Instead of saying no, turn it into a more positive "what if we did it this way." Things get a little easier after the first record because you become more savvy.
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I am a 28 year old male with 2girls 4,and9 been with their mom 10years very happy!!Asked her to marry me she said yes ,things were grate 4 amonth and now she cant stand me for the most part but still afectionate and also head strong on moving out pleas help loves ontheline!!!!!
Couples counseling would be particularly helpful at this point even though you have been together. Your relationship has changed with this new development. She may be afraid of committing because she doesn't want to drag her children into an unhappy arrangement on a permanant basis. You two need to get to the bottom of this. If she won't go, you go anyway. It will help you deal with the situation.
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THIS IS PRETTY LONG AND BORING....
Im 20m and never had a girlfriend!!!I never even hold or kiss a girl before.... It's not that im ugly or gay, although im not the cute or handsome type either. When i was in high school there were a few girls that come up to me but they weren't my type so i refused them all. But the girl that was my type, i never had the courage to ask them out (im very shy around the girl i like). Now that i drop out of college and work fulltime, i dont have the chance of meeting new people. HOW AM I GOING TO GET A GF? I dont hang out that much and i had never step foot in a club before. Here's the weird thing, the older i get the pickier i am about girlfriend. I thought that not having a gf is suppose to make me desperate, but im not, although i do want a gf pretty bad. What make it worse is that i dont like party girls or girls that would go out with someone that just met and thought he is kinda cute, of course there is nothing wrong with that, im just being picky. I would like to get to know the girl a lil bit before i go out with her, but HOW AM I GOING TO DO THAT????
Give a girl a chance. Sheesh. Why don't you just agree to meet for lunch or coffee where there is a sort of time limit that lets you start knowing something about someone. And you can't be picky if you don't know what is available. And there is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin. I don't even know why you would need to bring that up. That should probably be conversation 3 or 4 after you really start liking the lucky girl. Phones are equally good in at least giving a small idea of what you both like. But blocking them immediately by "she's not my type" isn't helping your search. At least talk to them before you send them on their way.
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