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Am i a loser or my love life just suck????
THIS IS PRETTY LONG AND BORING....
Im 20m and never had a girlfriend!!!I never even hold or kiss a girl before.... It's not that im ugly or gay, although im not the cute or handsome type either. When i was in high school there were a few girls that come up to me but they weren't my type so i refused them all. But the girl that was my type, i never had the courage to ask them out (im very shy around the girl i like). Now that i drop out of college and work fulltime, i dont have the chance of meeting new people. HOW AM I GOING TO GET A GF? I dont hang out that much and i had never step foot in a club before. Here's the weird thing, the older i get the pickier i am about girlfriend. I thought that not having a gf is suppose to make me desperate, but im not, although i do want a gf pretty bad. What make it worse is that i dont like party girls or girls that would go out with someone that just met and thought he is kinda cute, of course there is nothing wrong with that, im just being picky. I would like to get to know the girl a lil bit before i go out with her, but HOW AM I GOING TO DO THAT????
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You said..."Here's the weird thing, the older i get the pickier i am about girlfriend."
maybe you find fault with all the girls that approach you because you are really too insecure to bother with even the interested ones ---maybe fear of rejection?--you need to start out slow and get your feet wet.
i think you may be shooting to high....the next time a girl approaches you...regardless of whether your attracted to her or not...be charming--be funny--ask her out---hang out with her...
or not--- you should try making the first move too...you can meet women anywhere...the grocery store...in line at the post office...anywhere...just be friendly--
-- approachable and charming...oh yeah and don't be cheap...thats a pet peeve for a lot of women.
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ok, i suggest that you go to the mall, because girls love the mall, also you sound like you need to loosen up, your 20 so your at the age where people like to party, and have fun, so just think about that, also it's not sad that you havent had sex before because you should save yourself for marraige!~hope I helped~ Lindsey
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Awww well theres nothing wrong with being picky about who you want to date.If people dating whoever showed interest, they would never be happy.Just be patient, and soon the right girl will come along.You can try going to places where you think the girl you would connect with most will be.If your more the quiet and sensitive type go to borders or starbucks and talk to some of the girls you see there.Or go to the movies,or somewhere like blockbuster if you're like me and love movies.You just have to wait and don't rush it.:-)
♥ashley♥
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There's nothing wrong with having standards, first of all. All those other guys are kinda scummy for taking any thing they can get, you know? Just be glad that you haven't been with someone you don't actually like--it'll save you time and effort. Even if you're still a virgin and such, I still don't see it as a big issue. Your sexual status is completely your business, and if anyone ever asks why it took you "so long" to lose your virginity, just say you were waiting for the right girl. (Then, bat your eyelashes provacatively. Just kidding.)
Secondly, if you want a girl, keep your eyes peeled! You can meet a girl almost anywhere! Work, through friends, the gym... almost anywhere you go. You could probably go to Disneyland and pick up phone numbers, for goodness sake.
Be sure to not judge someone by their looks alone, but by who they are. Surely you can find a girl who you like both inside and out? And I understand when you say you want to be with someone who will actually get to know you a bit before you're with them--this is a pretty intelligent way of going about things, actually. However, there's nothing wrong with going out on a date with a girl you've met, is there? What rule says you have to automatically be a boyfriend to someone's girlfriend? You're young--date!
As for being shy, sometimes, you just gotta push yourself out of your comfort zone. Seven times out of ten, if you like a girl and she likes you, she will NOT ask you out. I don't know why, but it's true. Most girls are just not that comfortable with putting themselves on a limb. But back to my main point: if you like a girl, ask her out! Even if she turns you down, it'll be good practice for you; how else do you think you'll get ahead in life? Are you supposed to wait till stuff just gets handed to you, or are you supposed to go out and get it for yourself?
So, I wish you luck.
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I an just going to say that i think maybe you are quite lucky because you are probably really Blessed and you will probably only get the girl that is the one for you! and then you will not have to experience heartbreak.
dont change, just be yourself, there is some great girl out there for yoU!
Hope she comes soon!
and being a virgin is a great thing! rock on!
Hope I Helped
-*KeLs*-
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Virgin? We're not so different then! =P Now.... first things first : Are there any chics at work who you find even /slightly/ attracted to? If yes, and you're not friends with them, do so! All you need to do is become friends with her and stick around for awhile if you want to get to know her. After you personally feel that yo uknow them well enough, go ahead and just ask them out! You /will/ ber nervous no matter what, but it would be nice to get that out of you, wouldn't it? It would drive me nuts if I never asked someone a question like that for too long..... <3 EJ ^^
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Give some of these girls a chance! Get to know them. Go out to dinner or a movie....Talk. I know it could be hard to do but if you want one thats what you have to do.
Try not to be so picky.You go out and if she isn't the one then you try another one.Sooner or later you will find the one for you.
Good luck :} and don't frown. Being a virgin is not that bad and is admirable.
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So far as I see the problem is your standards in women. Don't single every girl out who doesn't meet your standards, cuz I mean, nobody's perfect. If you're out searching for "the perfect girl" you're shit out of luck unfortunately. There is no such thing as the perfect girl because every girl is flawed. We're only human. If you give us a chance, we'll give you a chance. Treat others as you wish to be treated right?
Since you're not into the party girls, go the place swarming with girls, the mall. There are also girls at the supermarket, we're everywhere! Don't feel shy to strike up conversations with us, girls like guys who have confidence, who can keep a conversation flowing smoothly (i.e. we don't like to be bored). Keep that in mind.
You don't really have to go out and look for a girl you like, odds are there's one working at a store near you. Just casually compliment her and ask her when she gets off work and tell her you want to take her out sometime.
It's hard to get to know a girl in person, so another option is the internet. Talk with girls in your area, exchange pics, and meet up for a group hangout one day so you can get to know her.
Just remember to try and limit your fickle habit, after all you don't want a girl to reject you because she's picky too right? Like in "Shallow Hal" where that guy dumped a girl that "wasn't his type" simply cuz her second toe is longer than her big toe. You don't want to be like that because it's ridiculous. You'll be making exceptions later down the line anyways if you like someone a lot.
Good luck!
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well theres your problem your way to picky you just cant sit there and wait for somebody to come to you but you know what im not even going to front because i know that everybody has a certin type but hey why not finally take a risk and go for some body different.
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Firstly, learn some grammar, spelling, and punctuation.
When you've done that, just do stuff you want to enjoy. For example, if you're a Trekkie, go to some Star Trek conventions and you're bound to meet at least one girl who shares your interests. If you're a big Beatles fan, get yourself a moptop and go to a Beatles convention, there will be many young women there. Since you don't like party girls, don't go to a club or a party to find someone.
Once you do find a young woman you like and shares your interests, just ask her to come with you to a place of that interests, a convention or something. If there's nothing in your area, ask her to see a movie with you and then the both of you go out to eat and discuss the movie. Talk about the actors you hate and other movies and just let the conversation roll. Repeat.
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well you obviously have to meet the girl and go out together or atleast get together a few times for you to get to know her. you cant just meet her one day and know all about her that very instant, you ahve to meet up a few times whether it be to dinner or for coffe at starbucks or lunch or just a movie at your place, your still going to have to be together to know about her. sheesh!!!!! quit being so picky about that. u have to give her a chance atleast.
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Give a girl a chance. Sheesh. Why don't you just agree to meet for lunch or coffee where there is a sort of time limit that lets you start knowing something about someone. And you can't be picky if you don't know what is available. And there is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin. I don't even know why you would need to bring that up. That should probably be conversation 3 or 4 after you really start liking the lucky girl. Phones are equally good in at least giving a small idea of what you both like. But blocking them immediately by "she's not my type" isn't helping your search. At least talk to them before you send them on their way.
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