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Sex at seventeen
Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex?
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than fore the boy. At 17 you are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always must have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
One more thing, you might want to talk with your mother about this as well. I know it is hard to believe but she was once your age and wrestled with the same problem you are now wrestling with.
Before you make your decision please review the following website.
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You're prepared and type well; you're good to go.
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in my opinion, every person is different. you don't have a set age, or a certain time for dating (although let's be reasonable, a couple months might be too soon)
but i believe that if you truly care about someone, and you have no doubts whatsoever, then it is perfectly acceptable to lose your virginity to them. but if you have ANY thoughts opposing your decision, you probably aren't ready yet.
and i would talk to your mom too. she's the best resource.
hope this helped !
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okay your first time should be with someone you REALLY care about. Im not one to say marrige befor sex, but you must ask yourself do you love him?
to answer you question is seventeen to young for sex? i think no; but you BOTH must be comfortable with the idea, and truley like each other.
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alright.. in my perspective its not. sex is something at this time in society everyone does it.but dont go with the trend if this guy is someone you love than go for it. life will take you many places but life cant take you back in time. so take a chance and be safe i wish you the best
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I'm 17 too, i have a boyfriend who ive been with for close to a year now, ive known him since i was very little, and we arent planning on having sex anytime soon. we both know that we are waay too young and that ANYTHING can go wrong, even if you are on a birth control pill or using condoms.
in my oppinion, 17 is too young. we all think we're soo mature and can handle it, but really, we ALL have a lot of growing up to do.
even though youve been with him for a while and you are completely prepared, it doesnt mean youre mentally prepared.. physically, probably, but otherwise.. just talk to your boyfriend, see how he feels and consider everything. like the advice columnist said below me; sex is like a few minutes tops, why not just wait and do something else during those minutes ? :]
good luck ! but do what you want and what you feel is right, hope i helped and if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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In my opinion how do you know when you are ready? ..
1) If you DO end up pregnant, Are you ready to except the consequences?
2) Are you able to except the possibility that things might not go as you expect them too? (Sometimes people have high expectations for their first time of having sex, Then later feel awkward)
3) Are you willing to possibly risk the friendship? (Anything can happen, Even when you least expect it)
I honestly think you should wait, Sex is NOT everything. To be fully honest with you is isn't nothing more than a few minutes of fun and then it's over. Virginity is a ONE time thing, Which is usually why they say wait until marriage. Many people end up having sex at a young age these days, They get pregnant when they think it's impossible that it could ever happen to them! and then their young lives are all on the baby and things start going down hill. I say wait
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I think its too young i honestly think you should wait until after marriage because theres a lot of girls your age who end up having sex with guys that seem perfect but things change when they get pregnant so i dont think you should but again your life your choice but just think about the consequences before you do anything. I hope i helped :D
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It totally depends on the individual. The fact that you need advice as to whether it is too young or not tells me that maybe you're not completely ready. You'll know when the time is right!
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I don't think it's too young at all. Especially when both of you have talked about it, are completely prepared and will use protection, nothing is wrong with it. You guys been together for four years and it shows you love one another. This will only bring you and him closer and your relationship will be stronger. So if your 100% ready and comfortable with this, then go for it hun.
♥ Krissy
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I lost my virginity on my 17th birthday. If you are ready go for it. Another year isn't going to change much...
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i think that yu should do it .. all of mii friends all ready lost theirs nd their what 14 nd 15 years old.. im still waiting for that special sum1 but for yu i think if its your best friend thats a great idea !! xox <3
marLo<3
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Hell, in England its all above board and legal. Go for it, love, and be safe.
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Sex is a natural and wonderful experience. I waited until I was 19, but that was only because I couldn't find someone I cared about and trusted until then. If you have found that person, I say, go for it! And remember, the more you practice, the better you get, as long as you always use protection. STDs and babies = no fun.
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personally, i think it is too young. Maybe you should wait for a while longer. Sorry this isnt much help. hope i helped!
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In my opinion, there is no 'right' age to loose your virginity. It's all just about when you feel you are ready and happy to make the choice to have sex. Of course, the younger you are, the harder it is for you to weigh up the choices you have, as you may lack the necessary life experience to know what will be best for you. However, I think that's an argument against people younger than you having sex. You are different from a 12 year old or even a 15 year old in your ability to assess the long term consequences of your actions and make the choice that is right for you, so if you've looked at it and are sure you want to have sex, then that isn't a choice you should be ashamed of. That's not to say that no 15 year old is mature enough to make the right decesion or every 17 year old is, but if you think you are ready to make the decesion, then you are probably the best judge of what you should do. You do sound confident in your love for this guy and trust in him, but you do obviously have some reservations about your age still, so I suggest waiting as long as necessary to ease any worries you have about that, so you can make the decesion that's right for you and be happy with it. All the best.
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Remember that even though you have taken the best precaustions, you need to prepare for the worst outcome. You need to discuss what you both will do in the event of pregnancy before you have sex. Even with both forms of birth control, it can still happen. Sex is best in at least a committed relationship because it emotionally and physically to each other. I would highly encourage you to wait until marriage. If you cannot discuss this with your partner, then you definitely don't need to have sex. V is not a curse, it's a blessing that you don't miss until its gone. It's hard to fathom right now, but hopefully you will be rewarded in time. Age isn't a factor, maturity is.
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no, at the age of 17 you can do it and if you really want to than it should bejust fine becuase you will be comfortavle with it. Well follow what you want to do and there is nothing wrong.
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while most people give up their "V" at the ages of 13 - 15 then no.. It's not too young.. if your both ready.. and your serious about it.. and its going to be special.. then go for it.. if its just going to be some out of the blue ugly shitty crappy sex.. then why bother? I mean.. Im 17/m and still a virgin and PROUD OF IT!! but I dont plan on screwin someone till Im sure they are a sure thing.. something that will last a while.. and not just end the moment we do have sex.. you know what I mean?
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One, abtenance is the key. Save it for your marriage bed ;P But two, don't do it if you're not 300% sure abou it! If you're scared/unsure of physical capability/just plain unconvinced about something, /dont do it/. It's not worth the risk if you aren't sure, even if you are on the pill and would use a condom....
<3 EJ
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Well, I personally think it's wrong because I strongly believe in abstenance. So i'm going to wait until I find the one I love, and get married. Then I'll know I'll be ready.
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