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Okay I just asked this question like an hour ago but I wasnt clear enough I think. I'm currently on birth control but I'm on the week of sugar pills and I have my period now but I'm seeing my guy friend tonight so I took one of the non-sugar pills because I read that it would stop your period. I took it at like 5:30 maybe and I'm wondering if anyone's tried it and knows if it works or how long it will take.

This does not stop your period. The sugar pills are usually iron supplements and aid during your period. Sometimes if you start a new pack you could skip your period but it is not guaranteed/recommended.

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M/17. I was talking to this girl, and we were talking about birthdays and stuff. I told her that I thought she was older. One year older than she is now. She didn't say anything to me about it, but she started acting different after that day. Are things like that offensive? Does it say anything about me?

Usually people think I'm younger than I look, so I'm usually flattered when boys think I'm older. Maybe she thought you were older as well but you're younger than she expected? If not, you might just be reading into it wrong. I wouldn't be offended.

Hope this helps!
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I've seen other people suggest they take a birth control pill. I took one like an hour ago but does that really work? How long does it take?

taking a birth control pill for the first time won't make your period go away for the night. you have to be on birth control and your body has to adjust to the pill. however, some types you still get a heavy flow so it really depends. however, theres no way to get rid of it for the night.

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My boyfriend and I met in 8th grade and we're both going to be seniors in high school last night. We never worked out in 8th or 9th grade, we were always on and off. We never offically dated but we are now. We started going out June 6th. He means everything to me. He takes words very seriously. Last night he came over and he saw on my phone that a guy cause love u and i said it back. He took it so seriously and broke up with me. I don't know what to do. He ended up forgiving me but then today he told me I broke his heart. I'm even looking at colleges in philly because that's where he wants to go to school. Upenn. Idk what to do anymore. Im 16 but i believe in forever and i believe in highschool love. He's never hurt me. I just want to make it last. he's everything to me. How can you hurt someone you love so much

I'm just wondering why you said I love you to another boy? He might be confused as to why you said that, because he felt that you loved him instead. You should sit down and talk about how you feel about your boyfriend and apologize for what happened. Just a side note though, you're only in high school and there's a whole life out there ahead of you and so many people that you're going to meet. If you guys are meant to be, it'll happen. Don't force it. Sometimes people hurt one another accidentally without meaning to, but you just have to grow from them. There's a saying that I believe is so true. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. No matter what happens with this boy, you'll take something out of it and he'll always be close to your heart. I had an ex who I cared about more than anything. In the end, it didn't last but he helped show me how to love. Communication is the best thing in this situation.

I hope the best for you!
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Ok so I was watching this movie about someone getting in a trunk and dieing. Everytime I think about that, I feel like I can barely breathe. Help me?

Do you get panicky because you're scared it could happen to you? The movie that you watched wasn't necessary accurate. In order to get out of a trunk you can kick out the back tail light so there is air circulating in. Try not to think about it, however, know that it was just the movie and that a person could make a way to escape/breathe.

Hope this helps!
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So, me & my boyfriend have a long distance relationship. & since I told him I don't want to loose my virginity for awhile, I don't wanna bore him, so I wanna try to spice our relationship up. I wanna try phone sex, because it seems fun but I'm not sure how to & I DON'T wanna make a fool of myself. But anyways I just need the basics of it! Someone who actually has experience please help me! & how to enteratin him. Thank you (:

I haven't had phone sex, but I've sexted. Basically the point is to tell him with detail what you want to do to him, or vice versa. This paints a picture in their mind so they can imagine it. For instance, "I slowly unbutton your shirt, trailing my fingers down your chest...." and so on. Sexting is an easy way to start so you can think about what you want to say. You just want to make him picture it.

Hope this helps!
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My puppy is about for weeks and is just a small dog weighs about 4 pounds if that he was given WAY to much peroxide and is now vomiting blood I'm extremely sad and don't know what to do I've called tons of vets but no response.. PLEASe HELP

Why was he given peroxide? I'm sorry I don't know much about this, you have to call a poison center in your area and bring him to the closest animal hospital. Try giving him water. Good luck!

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful ):
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k so i have a feeling my bestfriend watches porn. she searched it on the school computers with her friend but the computer didnt let her becuase it was pornography. but i think if the website wasnt blocked she would watch it. and we found out that one of our other friends watch it and she said everyone watches it its ok and i said do you watch it and she laughs and said no. but i honestly think she does watch it. sometimes i watch it with my other bestfriend . and 2 years ago thre was a rumor that i watched it and my new bestfriend found out and i said i dont watch it. so i wanna ask if she does watch it, i really wanna find out, what should i do ?? please help!

There's no need to find out if your friend watches porn. Many people do it in the comfort of their own homes, and that is okay. Some watch it because they're curious, and others watch it for enjoyment. You sound younger, so I'm assuming that she is just curious and things it's a funny thing to talk about. Don't worry about what she is searching. This is something that is done in private, and does not need to be shared with others. Therefore, I suggest you don't let it bother you and just move on.

Hope this helps!
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ok so in 5th grade like 3 years ago me, my bestfriend,her brother and my guy friend played truth or dare at night. we did alot of dirty stuff like kissing the guys and letting each other see our private parts. im moving to 8th grade now and i have a new bestfriend i met last year. she is trustable but i feel like i should wait more to tell her about that night. i only told her we played truth or dare and we did stuff i wouldnt like to talk about and i have a feeling she knows what it is . is it okay to do that stuff ? im still a virgin , but i feeel like others done worse than me so i dont feel that bad . what should i do about the trust issues help me ! teenks (:

That is a very young age to start exploring, but what's done is done. If she seems trustworthy, go ahead and tell her. Otherwise, there is no "law" that says that you have to tell her exactly what happened. If it comes up in conversation and you feel comfortable telling her, then go ahead. In the end it comes down to what you feel comfortable in her knowing. However, just realize that if she happens to slip up and tell someone, would you be upset with people knowing that information? If yes, you might not want to share it just yet.

Hope this helped!
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k i met my bestfriend this year in 7th grade, were gong onto 8th now and she is popular.she told me that her and her friend ( friend thats a girl) kissed each other on the lips " just for fun" . on facebook her friend admitted that shes her "kiss buddy " so i think theyv not only kissed once. well she never got her first kiss yet so idk what do you guys think ?

You guys are still young, and new to the exploring aspect. It isn't abnormal for young girls to want to experiment, however, you don't have to be involved. I've had a handful of friend who have kissed girls "just for fun" and I'm sure they heard it from an older kid. It's no big deal, but if it bothers you, then either don't discuss it, don't do it, or make a new friend. Don't read too far into their small kiss. It's probably nothing.

Hope this helps!
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My girlfriend is a virgin and when fingering her i noticed she bled on me, i thought it only does this once but it continued to do it. What is this and how long does it go on for?

It sounds like you went very deep inside her. It isn't abnormal for her to bleed. Maybe you shouldn't try to go as deep next time, or take it slower. The hymen actually stretches, not breaks. This video should help you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA&feature=plcp
It describes exactly what happened.

Hope this helps!
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hey does braces hurt when they take them off?!?!?!

The person below me is right about the pain, it does hurt. However, I don't recommend painkillers. It's completely unnecessary. The pain is not unbearable. There is a slight tugging when they pull off the brace, and then they just clean the glue. I'm pretty sure the part that bothered me the most was them cleaning because my mouth was open for so long but that's about it. You'll be fine.

Hope this helps!
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18/f/usa
I have a history of depression, I've been medicated on antidepressants for I think like 2 years.. When I began taking prozac I also started adderall for my A.D.D.
Throughout my life I've always been one to procrastinate, but lately it's amplified to the point where I can't finish anything.
I've tried cleaning my room probably seven times within the past 2 months and I've yet to completely finish it (my room is pretty small and doesn't require any special cleaning. It's probably like 12 by 14?).
My graduation open house was on June 2nd and even though I went right out and bought my thank yous, I have completed only a handful. This IS a very tedious task, since there are so many to hand write and address, but it's been on the top of my priority list since the event.
I have no motivation to finish anything I start and sometimes can't even start things I know I have to. How can I get and stay on track? What's a good mindset to keep?

I'm a huuuuge procrastinator as well, I just can't help it. The thing you have to do is make small goals for every day. For example: your room. Monday, clean your sink and toilet. Tuesday, do laundry. Wednesday, put away clothes. By making smaller jobs, they won't take as long to complete and you'll have it done it no time. Same with the cards. Do 10 every day so they don't become tedious.

Hope this helps!
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Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me.

Don't take your life, it has so much to offer. In regards to your job, you can look for other small jobs that make you happier, or you could take up a hobby in your spare time (like cooking or drawing). As for school, look into a community college in your area, those provide more flexible classes and are usually open to anyone in the area. Another thing to improve your social life could be joining a community club, even the soup kitchen. I find it to be a really rewarding experience and you can meet people who are helping and make more friends. You also have your parents who love you, and would be devastated if you took your life. I have a phone as well but I don't get phone calls, but that's okay. Just go out there and make your life the way you want it to be. You have the power to be happy, and I know you will.

Hope this helps, please keep me updated!
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Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work?

You should try talking to them or hinting that you have feelings for them. If you're too nervous to take that step, try suggesting that you go out and do something, like go out to eat or to a movie, as friends. Then, you could get to actually know one another outside of the bedroom and you might be able to start a relationship if his feelings are the same.

Hope this helps!
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hey! how long the penis should be to make a perfect sex! or to make her gf feel good?

Honestly there's no "perfect" size. Anything is manageable. 5-6 is the average size penis and usually if you're size 5 or smaller there are certain positions that you could do in order to make it feel deeper. Look into positions online and read up on different angles- these will help.

Hope this helps!
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http://faboostphotos.minus.com/lbeTz7FC1pwH6Q

where can i find or order those pants that chloe moretz is wearing in the above picture? the gray cheetah print that she is wearing

i cant find them on aeropstales website but maybe someone can help me?

thank you so much,

I clicked the photo and it brought me to this: http://faboostphotos.minus.com/m0ldeSaP4/1g

Therefore, I believe that she's going to have featured products coming to Aeropastle starting July 16th.

Hope this helps!
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i have very large breast on a very small figure.
where can i find CUTE and HOT bikinis that do not make my breast look like HUGE jugs. i want a bikini that compliments them.

for example: in rappers music videos when they have girls in bikinis with big boobs. those are so cute.

where can i find them?!?!?!

thank you so much.

You should look on Venus.com or Victoria's Secret Stores. Underwire tops are good for busty girls, and give you the support you need. Banded halter tops are also good for larger busts.

Hope this helps!
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Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for a month and a half and we've already gotten to second base. I am completely comfortable with how far we have gone, but what I wanted to know if we are moving too fast physically. I’m 16 and he’s 17, he doesn’t push me about any of it, it’s all on my terms. So are we moving to fast?

This varies from person to person. I've had many friends who all move at different paces. What it comes down to are the individual people. If you feel okay and comfortable, then don't even worry about it. Make sure you have open communication with your boyfriend to make sure that you're on the same page. Nobody should define how you and your boyfriend act in the relationship, just have respect and communication and that's all that matters.

Hope this helps!
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Ok, so I'm female and am under 18, from England.

Its only because this is advicenators that I can talk about this in confidence-I can't give up sucking my thumb.
When I don't its like I get cravings similar to smokers that are really bad. Its totally embarrasing so I only do it at home but how do i stop?!

There is actually a type of liquid that you can wear (as nail polish or over) and it is clear. You can go to CVS or any type of Walgreens or Walmart and the main purpose is to stop from nail biting and thumb sucking. I used to wear a similar product to stop my nail biting and it tastes AWFUL. This can definitely help you!

http://www.amazon.com/Mavala-Stop-Biting-Sucking-0-3-Fluid/dp/B0000YUXI0

^Here's one of the types, but there are plenty types

Hope this helps!
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