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about a month ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months, because i cheated on him.
it didn't feel right pretending nothing happened everytime i saw him, so i ended it. i really miss him, he still doesn't know i cheated and he lost feelings for me the moment i broke up with him. i want him back, what do i do? :(
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Trust is hard to build, but it only takes seconds to destroy.
Depending how badly you cheated on him (a kiss is just a kiss (to me) but sex is another thing) it sounds like he doesnt know what you did from the way you typed it. talk to him and ask if there was ever a chance of you both getting back together. BUT tell him what you did exactly how it happend be honest with him and what ever decision he makes is his decision for the making.
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So back in February i smoked weed for the first time since it was my 15'th birthday. Well i got really really high and started freaking out and saying, "This is a dream, this is a cartoon" and it scared me soooooooo bad. Well then i woke up the next day feeling fine. Alittle more then a month later i smoked alittle again and felt kind of like i wasnt in my body but it wasnt bad. Well then about a month later i started smoking like, once a week on the weekends at partys. and i started to know my limit for smoking. Well from time to time when i would smoke (which was once maybe twice a week) i would feel like i was in a dream and id have moments like that too. but nothing to bad. I was outside in the sun A LOT and i was playing soccer A LOT. and eating alot of fruit. So after the school year started, i still smoked the same, some weeks id not smoke just because i didnt want to. Well since about, October, iv been having having days where i feel like im not here, aka depersonalization. and it scares me. well i kept smoking until a couple days after thanksgiving and then i stoped for a month, but the depersonalization stayed the same. well then my friends pressured me into smoking again (and i was being weak about it) and i smoked it and i was soo scared. well since then, iv been having really really bad episodes of depersonalization. Iv had anxiety problems since 7th grade when i was bullied kinda bad. and i was sexually abused for around 7 years in my childhood and never told anyone. my mom and dad got divorced and that was really really bad. I had 1 friend die, one close family friend, and the guy who lived across the street die who was pretty much my dad. All within 9 months. the same 9 months that iv been smoking. If i tell my mom she doesnt believe me. Im sick of feeling like this, i want to feel like a real person again. i started writing down how i felt and getting my feelings out on paper and thats helped alittle bit, admitting the things that have happened to me and everything like that.
What are some ways i can bring myself back?
How long will this last?
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your not alone, just last night i had a mental breakdown over nearly the same thing you have described. i stoned as well the first smoke id had in about 4 week's. before it all blew up on me i was feeling depressed and lonely. but this's not about me.
im sorry i dont have an answer for you because im still trying to find one myself. i just wanted to let you know your not the only one out there with this problem.
but i do believe weed is connected to Depersonalization.
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I have a friend to whome i am close to. He is one of my ultimate best friends and we talk on a regular basis. There has always been this "thing" between me and him and we both know its there. There is like a spark in the air but then again, we have NEVER kissed or anything . But we are so close mentally and emotionally.
He always talks abou what kind of girl he's gunna marry and how hell treat her. It just makes me think even more about how badly i want that life with him. They say that your husband is like your best friend. I think i do want my bestfriend to eventually become my husband. I have never really thought about is like that before but i legit think that we are almost perfect for eachother. And i do think that we could date very easily but I do beleive that the ONLY thing that is holding us back is me. My weight.Dont get it wrong he does love me but he also wants a "fitter " looking gf. And i honestly dont resent him for that. He is really into body building and fitness and he doesnt really judge me at all. I just have that gut feeling that that is what is holding him back from me. But me, i dont at ALL eat junk food. All my weight was put on when I was younger and now im just been kind of stuck with it for four years. For four years after i gradually began to eat healthier my weight still just kinda stayed the same. This summer i have been watching and kind of obsessing what i eat and i have lost about 15 pounds. All i drink is water and eat three times a day of mostly vegetables. But i dont only want to lose weight because i have this weird theory lol...but so i feel better about myself in general...im just getting sick of being fat.
anyway i guess i dont even really know what im asking i just kinda wonderr i guess what you think about all of this or just any advice. ... (link)
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Good on you :D you'll fel much better for losing weight. (im 19 m) I used to be a chunky little git way back when. i still eat like a totall pig but i dont put weight on at all due to the hours of skateboarding i do everyday.
thats the key to a gd diet, Excercise!!! If he really does want a fitter body to get him going. go for it! it'll make you more confident about yourself as well so theres an ego booster in it. dont start thinking this a gd idea then sort of stop doing it after a while. if you want it fight for it ;D good luck sweet
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I'm trying to teach myself how to play guitar..Is it better to learn chords first or the notes? And does anybody know a good website that would be helpful? Thanks so much.. =] (link)
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It would really help if you told us what sort of music your tryin to play :P
if its acoustic, try "Sitting waiting Wishing" by jack johnson just to start out with. its full of easy chords that just take a little time to nail propperly.
if its more rock influenced then try "seven nation army" by white stripes. that song will teach you power chords.
I taught my self to play guitar and am still playing 10 years on. i started out by tryin to make simple tunes on one string, then got adventurous and used 2 strings. then started to learn chords by learning my favorite songs. but for gods sake go for somthing slow and a little easy other wise youll just get bored of not being able to do it.
PS, have my homepage to the guitar website that started me on guitar.
http://profile.ultimate-guitar.com/dobby240/music/all/play470996
http://profile.ultimate-guitar.com
and the bottom link is thier front page. its easy to follow. if you need any tips then send me a message either on here or UltimateGuitar and ill try to help you out a bit :D
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Hi, fifteen, female. I never had a boyfriend. Why is that? Are the guys that like me shy and won't do anything, what should I do is that's the case? It doesn't really bother me to much, I just don't know why. I've lately been beginning to think I'm gonna grow up alone. Is there something wrong with me? Yes, I'm shy and I won't make the first move. Maybe I'm just ugly. What do I do to be happier about being single? Thanks. (link)
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im 18 male, been single for a lonnng time. Enjoy your youth while you got it. fifteen is really quite young. by the time your age doubles i can almost gaurntee you will have found some one that just makes you so mad with happyness. it took me till i was 18 to really find some one like that. she moved away though but i still have strong feelings for her and we still keep in contact.
your not ugly, nobody is ugly really. theres is allways someone out there that will want to be with you enough to call you "thiers" it just takes a little time and patience :)
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okay so this guy from my work is driving me insane i know that he really likes me.. and i have a boyfriend ive told his countless times i am NOT interested and yet he comes up trying to hug me and almost trying to kiss me at times i am constantly puching him away and he wont leave me alone. then he took my phone and started texting my boyfriend pretending to be me... and made me sound like a huggeee bitch. my boyfriend is sick to death of him and would love to beat him up but i dont want to start a huge conflict between my coworkers and me so i told my boyfriend i would take care of it... What Do I Do!!???? (link)
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Its harrasment, tell your manager. if your manager is halfway decent she/he will get real tight on him and if they dont then you can go higher and tell you manager's manager that they are incapable of doing thier job. You'v allready givven this guy a chance to stop what he's doing and he's ignored it so give him the hard way out and let him know that you are serious.
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I am just curious as to why guys just flat out stop talking to you? Why can't they at least have the decency to be like, "Hey this isn't working time to move on." ? Explain please. (link)
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Because we want a relationship to last but when it comes to doing somthing about ending it, some of us dont know how to do it propperly and so just ignore who ever it may be and hope they will go away. Which isnt the nicest nor best idea.
depending on the guy he's probably embarassed/afraid to tell you because he still respects and likes you as a person but doesnt want to see you hurt when the bad news has been let in.
at least thats the way iv seen happen
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i want to start recording my music by myself. id use audacity for one guitar and a video for my voice and bass guitar. is there any way that i can record myself on film and match it up to the audio on audacity so that i can do both guitars and see me sing in sync?? (link)
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i was gonna answer this a few days ago but i stopped because i didnt know what to tell you :S i came back and i see there are still no answer's...
so im gonna try really hard to give you some kind of technological inspiration.
I'v used aucdacity before and i can tell you what you are trying to achieve wont really get you the results your looking for... at least not easily.
(i have just tested this next one myself and it may just work for you)
Using my hacked version of SONY Vegas Video editing software you may use a webcam and its built in microphone(OR A DESKTOP MIC OR ANY OTHER EXTERNAL MIC) you can record one piece then move that clip forward and start recording the next part as soon as the first part starts playing.
Helpfull tips are to use a metronome for the first part just so you can get the perfect timing. Im going to see about using my High Def camera as a webcam and use its microphone to record my youtube video's.
Hopefully iv been a bit of help. The version of sony vegas im using is Sony Vegas Platinum 9.0 you can find yoiutube videos telling you how to get this application for free using patches and/or other hacks. (it doesnt take long to do, half an hour tops) its a brilliant program though. Im probably going to go and actually buy it because its only about 40 quid i believe.
if ya need any more help or want me to explain myself a bit further then you can just send us a message over here and ill get back to you quicky as possible :)
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Hi, I'm an 18 yr old female, just had a question, What if you found out the guy/girl you like, has been constantly viewing your profile on facebook with profile checker, they were in your top 10, what would you think of this? (link)
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Maybe they are bored or somthing and just view a few people profiles, or maybe he's seen signs that you may like him and is lookin for evidence on your Facebook... if not those ideas then maybes he's batting one out to your profile picture who knows?
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I was with my boyfriend yesterday and we were just hanging out. I got on his lap and we were making out a little and I got some gas. I was going to get up and go to the bathroom but it slipped out and I totally farted on my boyfriend! I turned red and apologized but it really did smell pretty bad and lingered in my room. He was SO grossed out and went home like 15 minutes later and didn't call me to say goodnight like he usually does. I'm SO embarrassed to even talk to him about this! He really didn't seem very pleased (not that I would expect him to be) but I don't know why he's taking it so hard and is upset...or maybe I'm just overreacting and misinterpretting the situation / his reaction? I don't know what to do now. (link)
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haha my ex did this to me once... probably explains why shes my ex...
IM KIDDING! xD
no really she did though, we just laughed it off even though she was embaressed. If he doesnt bring it up again dont worry bout it. embaressing things happen.
but if he does take it too hard tell him he over reacting. because all in all.. its just a fart...
theres not alot else i can tell ya :P
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So, I'm kind of short, I think. I'm like 5'2" or 5'3" so and I don't think I'm going to hit any more growth spurts that will make more more average in height. I never really had a problem with being short and my boyfriend hasn't really said anything about my height in comparison to his yet.
My boyfriend is something like 6'6" though and he's a year younger than me. I was thinking that he might hit another growth period and get even taller because I heard that boys mature faster than girls.
My best friend said we look weird together because he's so much taller than me and I'm sure she wouldn't lie to me about it. Yeah, my boyfriend has to bend down a lot to give me a kiss but I think it's cute that he lifts me up a little when we hug.
I don't know though. I don't want to be made fun of, especially if people are doing it behind my back and I don't know about it. My best friend said she'd stick up for me but I don't know if it's worth it. From how she described it, it makes me nervous that I'm not going to be able to make new friends next year (because they'll be laughing at me) if I'm still with my boyfriend...and it's kind of wrong to intentionally date someone for just a few months, right?
What do you think? Is my boyfriend too tall for me? (link)
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too tall?? ask your soul this, Do you love/like him alot? do you want to be with him? if both point to yes then height shouldnt be a problem nor is it a problem worth sacrificing a relationship over.
Its wierd how some people seem to care so much for what others think about thier choices, personally i wouldnt give a hell if some one told me the girl im seeing is wrong for me. If the loves there then the heart wants what it wants.
dont worry, if he's a nice guy and you like him >>height is not an issue ever
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18/m. You've probabaly heard this story before, but oh well.
I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks before christmas.We had been going out for 6months prior. I thought that the relationship was really not working out. She thought the same but she didnt want to break up. After breaking up, she was rather depressed, you could see it in her face, and was crying a few days after.
On christmas eve, we met up to exchange presents which we bought before breaking up, and had breakup sex (probabaly not a good idea now that i think about it).
Before we started going out, she liked this other guy, jack. So the other day, i found out (on facebook) that she's going out with jack. Im sort of feeling the whole "now that you cant have her, you want her". Im not even sure that i want her, i guess im just confused that she's going out with him, just 2months after we broke up. Im not really sure what i think...abit of jealousy i think.
So whats your opinion. Am i right for being jealous, or feeling this? obviousely i cant do anything about it. Hope you can help, and sorry if its long. Thanks in advance.
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Hey im 18 male also and am nearlly in the same postition as you.
me and my gf broke up a couple of weeks before xmas due to her moving away. i still love her and miss her like mad but iv been tryin to get over her. you are right for feeling jealous, its what makes you a decent guy. you still miss her in your heart because even if it wasnt working out what you did have was still special to you in some way or another. It may feel like shes forgotten/forgetting you in way, my ex found some one else in a couple of months but im not surprised she is an interesting and very desirable person. (wierdly iv nver felt jealous of him, i congratulate the guy he's caught himself an excellent person)
You said that you know you cant do anything about it (as can i) so your looking for ego boost's to make yourself feel better about the situation. if your like me and dont see many girls (as freinds, etc) then go out with your mates and do what ever fun stuff you an your guys like doing. personnaly i phone up my mates to go skateboarding, but its active and gets good chat going.
hopefully i hit the nail on the head and helped a bit.
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i have to get a drug test in exactly 7 days for a job. i have never done drugs or smoked pot before but im around it all the time and yesterday people were blowing the smoke in my face and stuff so i felt a little high. but i was just wondering if that would stay in your system? (link)
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MOst drugs can stay in your hair's dna (i think thats what it is) for a minimum or 90 days. so if they do a hair test on you and youv been high (no matter if you did it or not just breathed in second hand smoke) you could still fail, and i doubt they would beleive you if you told them you didnt do it
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Growing up I've also been an outcast. I've never really made friends. I don't even think I really have a close bond with my mother, who raised me by herself. I've had one boyfriend before but things never sparked for either of us so we moved on after a couple of months of trying. I don't want to be alone all of my life but I can't seem to be a match for anyone. It's really depressing but I'm pretty use to being alone.
My question is pretty simple, I think...
Does everyone find love?
I'm 26 and have never found love. Did it pass me by? Will I be alone forever? (link)
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i know what your going through kinda.
i believe out there everyones got some one, whether you find them or not is a different story.
try going out to places (bars, clubs, if thats not your thing then places to do with whatever hobbies or interests you have)
i found love once... such an amazing connection i had with this one girl. but after just a month and a few days she had to move away... she was the only propper girlfriend iv ever had and iv missed her everyday since. but in all honesty i kinda like the isolation i have, iv allways been a bit of a loner never went out looking for love always left it for chance and luck to sort out for me. You may not find some one for another 20 years for all we can tell you but theres IS some one out there for you.
I live in south england and i dont like it here much anymore so im thinking of moving country out to some were more interesting and exciting. But thats a huge change and a drastic one, You could make much more smaller changes and get to know more people through that change or do what i do and leave it down to chance and luck if you want to.
Loves not an easy thing to find, im probably gonna be alone for a long time before i find my next gf, but i could be wrong and it could be a short time.
but its all down to what you do.
but dont try to be somthing your not when you find that guy dont go changing your personality or somthing to have a better chance at getting him (Im guessing your a girl from your question)
Hopefully i helped a little bit. theres not an awfull i can say on this type of question besides help your self or time will tell.
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Hey.. 14f...
Ok right now i have a bf..we've been dating for 6 months or more. He is an alright boy friend..the problem is that, we hardly get to talk..only by texting and phone calls. He never calls me.. When i text him he always has his phone off. Now at school he's sweet at the dances we have so much fun. Thats why i can't figure out what to do. My best friend introduced me to this guy louis..lou. >.< I helped him feel better when he was upset..and i started to have some feelings for him. He's really funny and sweet. When i told my best friend that i had a little crush on him she told him. I didn't want her to. Than he said he likes me to.We started talking and he was soo sweet to me he tells me things that my bf has never told me.Than one day he told me he loved me and i was like woaha. He was so romantic with me and i fell for him. The couple of days i was to scared to say those 3 words.. last night i did and i felt guilty. :/ I can't help what i feel though. My best friend now tells me that i shouldn't cheat on him and that he deserves better than me. :/ I think so. I loves arizona but Lou :/ My friend Cierra at first told me i should date lou, because Arizona will be moving and if he doesnt text me or call me now it won't be any diffrent than when he's somewhere else. I don't want to hurt anyone i really don't. Lou told me that he would let go if i told him to, nd i asked him if he really would and he said no i couldn't really..all the things he tells me i believe them..he hasn't shown me any reason he could be lieing. I showed my friend Cierra what he says, and she says its fake. :/ I have no clue who to pick...i think lou..please help out and don't criticize i already feel guilty enough..to cry:/ thanks to who ever trys to help :/ (link)
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-im 18 male and from the UK-
Ok so you like 2 guys? you cant be seriously in love with them both? you can feel very strongley about others but only just meeting some one and saying you lov them is a bit fast... but anyways! you probably know better than i do abotu the way you feel.
So your bf Arizona
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So I'm 15. I like this guy who is 17, he's a senior now and I'm a sophomore. Is that a big age difference? He'll be 18 in a couple months so it would be considered an adult. We're friends and all so its cool. I'm just wondering about the age and how it would be when he turns 18. (link)
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your with him allready right? nothing will change... people have birthdays, youll gt yours and then youll be back to the same age distance. i know some one who is nearlly 19 and is going out with a 14 year old who's gonna 15 soon. dont worry about it, nothing will change.
hope i helped a bit
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ok iwas datng a guy for almost a month after we had been talking and friends for like 3 months im 17 and hes 20 idc about age and he broke up with me and idk how to like get over it bc i know its weird but he was my first kiss and i started to really trust him and i found out later he let me for a 45 yr old :( so i don't know what to do im so hurt by what he did i trusted him and i thought we were starting to actually love each other. his excuse for the break up is that we were to different and it wouldn't last no matter how much we loved each other i just don't know what to do :( i tried talking to him like a week after he broke up with me and he said he needed sum space so i feel like all he wanted me for was sex and thank god i didn't im just so hurt by him . (link)
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im the same position your in, except my girlfreind left for university. im 18 she's 19. Ever since that day iv missed her, thought about her, written songs to do with the time we spent. It hurts to think we probably wont be together again ever after her course is up because she found some one else. it hurt's.. god damn it does. but what makes us stronger is not to swell our emotions on this one thing. This on thing is but a single line in a mass puzzle called love that everyone gets them selves in to at some point or another. Be thankfull you still have your purity, you can wait and save it for some one you really really care for. you'll know when the time is right. i lost my viriginty to my ex who left me. i trusted her with every little bit i had not to break my heart and it still ended up that way.
If he's truely made his mind up about not wanting to be with you, theres not alot you can do im affraid. take as much time as you need to get over it dont let people be dicks about it by saying stuff "God its been 2 months allready get over it" its been 3 months for me tryin to get over my ex, and although that short month and a half we spent together was the happiest iv been in a long time (about 7 years i hadnt had a gf for that long) i wouldnt forget it nor give up those same feelings for any substitute.
if at all possible, try to stay away from the lovey dovey types of things. things that remind you of him and stuff like that. it'll only prolong the healing process.
hope iv been of some help, i feel iv gotten alot of my chest rather than helped some one... sorry :s
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Okay so I like this guy. We danced alot at our school's Winter Dance. And then the next day at school he wouldn't talk to me or even look at me. And he kept telling people he doesn't like me, that he likes my best friend. Should I keep trying for him or just give up? (link)
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"i like this guy but he doesnt like me what should i do"
stop
theres your short answer.
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Why does it REALLy bother me when guys call me babe or baby?? Like I don't really understand it. I'm okay with like "darling" or "dear" but when it comes to those they really just grind my nerves... can anyone explain this to me? Hahah, just wondering. (link)
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because its sleezy and makes the guy sound common and maybe a little shallow.
im a guy (18) and i can honestly say that i wouldnt consider calling my gf anything like darling or babe because i wouldnt like to have it done to me. once in a while calling eachother sexy or somthing is fun, heh heh. but otherwise i dislike it because of the above reason's.
maybe thats your problem with it too? sounds trashy much like some of the people (iv heard) calling thier other halfs "babe". this is one you can figure for yourself. what is it you hate about it most? we cant jump in to your mind and say exactly what it is your mad at, we can simply assume based on our own judgements.
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Why Are Guys Sensitive On The Back Of Their Necks. Is That Really True? Do Guys Get Aroused By This? (link)
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i sure as hell do. it only works if you do it though. we cant do it to our selves because were expecting it, but if some one else does it its the fun of not knowing how it'll feel from them. if you get what im going on about heh
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