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over her yet?
18/m. You've probabaly heard this story before, but oh well.
I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks before christmas.We had been going out for 6months prior. I thought that the relationship was really not working out. She thought the same but she didnt want to break up. After breaking up, she was rather depressed, you could see it in her face, and was crying a few days after.
On christmas eve, we met up to exchange presents which we bought before breaking up, and had breakup sex (probabaly not a good idea now that i think about it).
Before we started going out, she liked this other guy, jack. So the other day, i found out (on facebook) that she's going out with jack. Im sort of feeling the whole "now that you cant have her, you want her". Im not even sure that i want her, i guess im just confused that she's going out with him, just 2months after we broke up. Im not really sure what i think...abit of jealousy i think.
So whats your opinion. Am i right for being jealous, or feeling this? obviousely i cant do anything about it. Hope you can help, and sorry if its long. Thanks in advance.
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i get where your coming from. i broke up with my boyfriend a little while ago. i thought i was fine, i still wanted to be friends. so we texted alot & he had some girls name on his signature, so i got verrry jealous. & then i missed him more & more so i asked him back out & he jumped at the offer. now we're happier then ever. we have more fun, sex is funner, & i feel so much more in love. jealousy is normal,if you two still talk, tell her how you feel. to me it seems like you want her back.
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this is exacley what happend with me and my ex boyfriend. It really is, Just not the break up sex part,we were going to. But after i started dateing more guys he got really upset and got mad for no reason. In my eyes,I don't think you have any right to be mad or anything.You broke up with her,you hurt her. Like you can't change that in any way. And knowing her she will go back to her cause i know i would have in the stage of the break up. You just just start dateing and move on. This is how you will move on faster. and if you guys meet up sometime in the future than you know your meant to be.
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Hey im 18 male also and am nearlly in the same postition as you.
me and my gf broke up a couple of weeks before xmas due to her moving away. i still love her and miss her like mad but iv been tryin to get over her. you are right for feeling jealous, its what makes you a decent guy. you still miss her in your heart because even if it wasnt working out what you did have was still special to you in some way or another. It may feel like shes forgotten/forgetting you in way, my ex found some one else in a couple of months but im not surprised she is an interesting and very desirable person. (wierdly iv nver felt jealous of him, i congratulate the guy he's caught himself an excellent person)
You said that you know you cant do anything about it (as can i) so your looking for ego boost's to make yourself feel better about the situation. if your like me and dont see many girls (as freinds, etc) then go out with your mates and do what ever fun stuff you an your guys like doing. personnaly i phone up my mates to go skateboarding, but its active and gets good chat going.
hopefully i hit the nail on the head and helped a bit.
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It is okay to feel jealous that your girlfriend is going out with a new guy after a short time of being split. However, On the other hand I'm not going to say she never really had feelings for you but she probably always liked him all along and now that she has the chance she is going to go for it. I agree with you, Having breakup sex probably wasn't the best idea but having contact in general after a breakup isn't always necessarily a good idea also because you prolong the pain and it makes it harder to move on. All you can really do is except it for what it was and try to move on. The best thing to do is to cut contact, I know you are "curious" to know the update on things but peeking in on her new relationship isn't going to make things better.
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Hay well I don't know its you, do you feel like you made a mistake or you just want her back now that she is with him I'm not sure but it seems now cuz you 2 are not 2gether you want here cuz you never thought she will recover so fast. Now I can be wrong and you realy could have feelings so deep but what you felt at the begining is the truth. So did you feel you was doing the right thing or you were not sure and just made a last minute choice.
And that sould help hope every things cool
C.L.N.......that's me bye.
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I think its natural to feel this way. You invested so much in this relationship, then when it was over you had one more brief connection, making it harder for you to move on. Trust your instincts on this one. In your heart you know it was not working out. But so much emotion has gone into this relationship, of course its hard to see her with someone else, and so soon after your break up. But give it some time. If she wasn't with this guy would you want to be with her? It would just be the same problems all over again. The only thing you can do is back off and wait for time to heal your hurt. Just because you know someone is not right for you doesn't mean you don't care. This will pass, but it will take time.
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