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I'm a CIT at my camp so I just came back, I missed the first couple days of school because I was training. I was so used to giving out advice to campers and other CIT's, so it felt strange not to be helpful in that way, I was acctually looking up hairstyles when I clicked on this link. I really try to give good advice. In my favorite catagories it says Spirituality. The reason being that I took the summer before this one trying to figure out what I believe in. It's really important to know that, because that's a part of you. Your religion isn't just what you were born as. I'm hoping that I'm helping others by doing this.


Anna

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I need to know some web adresses I can go to to get some pagan rituals and spells from. I'm studying neopaganism (specifically wicca), and I want to know of some educational sites that also provide experiments and spellwork I can try. Thanks in advance!

www.wicca.com is a good one, it has wiccan pagan and lots of others.

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alright im 14/m theres this girl that i really like ive never liked someone as much as i liked her before, and we went out for a whilebut we broke up and itsbeen about 2 months and i just wanted to know if anyone had any good ideas to win her back (shes single btw) or to get her to fall for me again id do anything forthisgirl and homecomings coming up and id like to get her to like me again so i could ask her, but please if ayone knows any good ways to get to her my message that i like her and for her to like me again also it would be appreciated greatly. (and our breakup was not a big fight or anything were still friends right now)

Just show her you care, try to remeber little things she does, and comment about them. Talk to her, tell her that you'd do anything for her and you want to get back together. And don't forget to ask her to homecoming. If you went out once, it means that there is a flame, and if you still like her, than it means it's probably mutual.

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today i found out that my friend might be belimic and annorexic. i dont want her to hurt herself. i was thinking that i should tell the school counselor and maybe that would help... is this a good idea ? i really am worried about her.




also, she just started so i think i can help her ahead of time.

An awesome idea would be to tell he parents before you tell the guidence counselor. If they don't believe it, tell them you're still going to talk to the gc. It's good that she just started so that it's easier to quit. Belimia and Annorexia are DISEASES that can KILL, and it's also like a drug, you can get addicted to hurting yourself so easily. So act fast. :0)

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This boy & I are best friends, but recently when he IM's me/calls me we don't have much to talk about. So, for 3 days I didn't get on AIM/answer my phone..sort of avoiding him, so we'd have stuff to talk about when I got on AIM/he called me.

Well yesterday I signed on AIM, and he usually instanly talks to me, but he didn't. So I waited a bit, then put up an away msg. I was kind of hurt, I won't lie, that he wasn't lonely without me hah. Well later on that night my away msg said something like, "F you I'm still riding the bus, just because you're riding it & I'm trying to avoid you doesn't mean I shouldn't ride it." So, after reading that he IMs me, like, "Who are you ignoring?" And I was like "You." and signed off, and he called but I didn't answer. We're not going out, I just get extremely jealous of these other two girls he talks to on Aim, and whenever he's not talking to me, I feel like something's wrong with me, like I'm ugly or something.

His aim profile now says..
Recently, there have been times I wonder if you even want to be my friend. I try, yet no matter what I do it seems that it just angers you more. I guess what they say is true, that not everyone can like you for who you are.i'll be honest, it makes me sad.

That's about me, so idk what to do to be honest. Do I apologize? Or, just anything would help.

Just talk to him. You don't even have to bring up the subject of I'm sorry. Be careful at first, he might be hurt, but then ease into a normal, friend conversation.

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13/f/Tx
My boyfriend asked me if I was ready for him to kiss me. I've truthfully never kissed anyone before. He's taking me to the movies this weekend. He said if I was ready he wanted to kiss him there. I told him to talk to my cousin because she always knows everything, but he wants an answer from me. What do I do?

It depends on how you feel. You can say yes if you feel comfortable and ready. But if you feel like saying no, than just say no. It's as simple as that. And if you say no, you can still surprise him by kissing him. :0)

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i have a boyfriend. on my birthday he brouhgt me a million balloons and a big stuffed animal and asked me out.. and he was sooo hot and soo sweet so i said yes. i really liked him alot..

well, there is also this other guy who ive kinda had a thing for all year.. & when he found out i had a boyfriend. he was furious.. but we made up.. but he wrote me a letter that said he really wants to be with me && all this stuff.

the thing is.. i really like him alot too.. hes hot. && funny&& talanted! hes in a band and its rreealllllyyy good.. all thanks to him

also.. hes really like.. idn.. he`ll hug me for no reason and he is really sweet like that.. and my boyfriend... doesnt. he wont hug me if his friends are around.. and he doesnt randomly kiss me or anything..

i wanna break up with my boyfriend but i dont know if i should... and if i do.. what should i say?

this is a realllyyyy huge deal to me..

Who do you know better, who do you feel more connected to?? Who can you picture being with for longer? If one person scores higher than the other on those questions, then you'll know.

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My friend keeps popping my pimples. It's gross. How can I make her stop? She randomly comes up to me and holds my face and BLAH. She didnt seem to understand 'Stop!' I hate going to class with blood smeared on my face.

Tell her to leave your pimples alone! They're part of your body and you have a right to keep it away from malicious pimple poppers. To be a little bit nicer about it. Just ask her to stop and tell her it bothers you and what you said in your question, say it to hre. And if that doesn't work use the pimple popper thing I said. It might cause her to A. Laugh + B. Stop :0)

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well I dont actually know if i have ocd or not

i have wierd little obsessions and if i dont fulfill them i feel sick and really paranoid.

I have to clean tables perfectly and arrange everything on them do its up against a wall or the back edge

I have to unplug absolutely everything before i got out or got to bed or even leave the room

I when i give someone a ' high five!' ii have to do it twice so its equals exactly ten

When i write things in my diary i have to write things in exactly ten repetative steps..

I have to write exactly 10 kisses in my diary .

And if i see a plug socket where there is nothing plugged in although the switch is on , i cant stand it and HAVE to turn it off..

Once i put the phone down i have to push it ten times to make sure ive put it down correctly..

Please help, my friends have pointed out on it and i dontknow whether i do actullay have ocd..

all advice much appreciated xxxxxxxxxx

My cousin was diagnosed with ocd and I used to hang out with him alot and he did a lot of the same things as you. I know people who are perfectionists and they aren't as extreme as that. Not to like be rude but you really should talk to a therapist and find out.

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how can i become more outgoing? like i was at my cousins bonfire with all her friends and they wanted people to do like the lawn mower and the sprinkler and be stupid! but nobody wanted to and in my head i was like just do it just do it and then i was like noo i will look stupid! because there were a couple guys there that i thought were hott =) and i wish i wouldnt care what people thought of me! its always like..if i say something i think someone will think im stupid or something! even if someone asks me to go to a party with them and i dont really know anyone i will be all freaked out and be like oh my god this is going to be weird im scared! because im not going to know anyone and then who am i gonna talk to...everyones gonna look at me and wonder who i am! thats just how i am..or if im like at a football game with everyone and im trying to find a seat with my friend i feel like everyone is staring at me and i like the attention from guys..but then its like i dont really like the attention?! its weird. i just think i would make more friends and i would like for myself to be more outgoing and not care what people think. its so hard for me to change though. and in school in class i never talk..answer questions, participate because im scared to like say an answer or read something off! and i HATE speaking in front of anyone..ahh anyone know how to get over this!?

by the way im 16/f.
THANKS

Guys think girls are hot when:

A.they are blonde skinny and stupid which makes them or good

OR

B.They are cute funny and do stupid stuff like the sprinkler and have enough confidence to.

You may not have that on the inside but they don't know it and it may be embarrasing at first but you'll start cracking up too and if you start others will join in.

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There's this guy I like and anytime he talks to another girl I get absolutely jealous. We're not going out, and I know I can't really do anything about it..but does anyone have any suggestions on how to limit my jealousy?

Try just walking away, and if that doesn't work, just think to yourself, that girl doesn't exist [sounds kinda strange, I know], or a stress ball [one that's shaped like a puppy or something so that people don't think you're a mental case] :0)

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Ok i've been trying not to call my boyfriend and see if he would ever call me,but he never had except once. But that was awhile back

So does he still like me are not????
How can I get him to like me more to????

6th grader

Okay, I'm sorry to say that he's not into you. Unless he comes up to you and says he likes you tomorrow, the relationship is toast. Sometimes guys are tricky and may like you but not show it, so talk it out and find out the feelings.

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Ok. . .I've been going out with this guy(we'll call him "J1") for almost 4 months. . . But I don't like him anymore. . .I like my best friend(who we'll call"J2") I've known "J2" since 4th grade and he's told me he likes me too. . ."J1" is the type of guy who won't break-up with a girl. . . He's too sweet( in fact too sweet for my liking) I dont want to be just another one of those girls who dumps him. . .I'd rather have him break-up with me. . . And to make matters worse there's a Dance at my school this friday. . . HELP ME PLEASE
13/f

Oooh Stick Sit.
Find out what he thinks of you, he may feel the same way [no offense] and if he doesn't try to just ease into it and say *"J1" I really like you and all, but I think that we're not right for each other and need to break up. If you don't feel that way then lets talk it out. But I just wanted to let you know.* So that you're not really breaking up with him, and you'll still be able to go with "J2".

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this boy i'm friends with ... i like him sooooo much. i've liked him for 2 years but he didn't feel the same way until the end of last year and i'm pretty sure he still does.

i asked his best friend last week if he still likes me & he said yeah he does.

the thing is he kinda likes this other girl too. he asks her to hang out and stuff, but i know he cares about me more. he's so shy & weird. i don't understand why he doesn't ask me to hang out.

the other night he asked me if i had a boyfriend ... i said no & he asked me stuff about the other boy i recently liked ... like why dont i like him anymore and when i answered he said he had to go & he signed off.

i dont understand him. im gonna just tell him i like him flat out bc im sick of waiting. but after i tell him, will he STILL be too shy to make a move with me? i dont see how he could be, but what do you guys think? i dont wanna tell him i like him if its not even going to pay off.

Tell him you like him. If a guy talks to any girl on IM or asks about their previous love lives *LOL* then they're obviously into them. And if you make the first move, it'll free up some room and give him the confidence to say it back! :0)

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