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being more CONFIDENT and OUTGOING =)
how can i become more outgoing? like i was at my cousins bonfire with all her friends and they wanted people to do like the lawn mower and the sprinkler and be stupid! but nobody wanted to and in my head i was like just do it just do it and then i was like noo i will look stupid! because there were a couple guys there that i thought were hott =) and i wish i wouldnt care what people thought of me! its always like..if i say something i think someone will think im stupid or something! even if someone asks me to go to a party with them and i dont really know anyone i will be all freaked out and be like oh my god this is going to be weird im scared! because im not going to know anyone and then who am i gonna talk to...everyones gonna look at me and wonder who i am! thats just how i am..or if im like at a football game with everyone and im trying to find a seat with my friend i feel like everyone is staring at me and i like the attention from guys..but then its like i dont really like the attention?! its weird. i just think i would make more friends and i would like for myself to be more outgoing and not care what people think. its so hard for me to change though. and in school in class i never talk..answer questions, participate because im scared to like say an answer or read something off! and i HATE speaking in front of anyone..ahh anyone know how to get over this!?
by the way im 16/f.
THANKS
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Guys think girls are hot when:
A.they are blonde skinny and stupid which makes them or good
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B.They are cute funny and do stupid stuff like the sprinkler and have enough confidence to.
You may not have that on the inside but they don't know it and it may be embarrasing at first but you'll start cracking up too and if you start others will join in.
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Hey! Don't worry about what others think. I've got the same problme as you do. But you just can't live your life to others standards. Sometimes you've gotta be a little outgoing. Just try it step by step. If you don't feel comfortable, just sit it out and try again later.
-Emily
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Hey. Don't worry, a lot of people have this problem and it's easy to get over as long as you believe in yourself. Sometimes I get this also with certain people but the most important thing to do is just be yourself and no one will think anything of it. If you act like you're all shy and afraid to say things this will turn people off a lot more then if you just say it. You want to be more outgoing huh?
Well, just go for it and if you have to, force yourself to say things that you want to, or do things, or laugh at things you think are funny and everyone will love you. I used to be afraid to say certain things and I'd look even more wierd then if I said them. I learned that the more I laughed and went along with things (even if at first I forced myself), a lot more people liked it. If you're really afraid to do this practice on someone you know or even an inanamite object (when no ones around of course :-)). You may feel folish but believe me you are deffinitely not the only one doing it. I hope this helps and please give me feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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hey!! its really tough for some people to become out going. The best way to get over it is to practise on people you know. when you are just with a bunch of friends do stuff thats goofy and then when you get to a situation with a bunch of people you can remember how much fun you had that time with your friends and realize what you are missing out on. once i was at a party that a girl from school was having at her house after a dance and only one or two of my close friends were there and a bunch of people wanted to go to the park and play grounders, but i cant do the monkey bars very well and I didnt want to embarrass myself in front of a bunch of guys I like so i stayed behind. but I ended up missing out on so much fun.
another way to build up confidence is to tak a class. Go to theatre classes. they can be super fun and one of the main points is to get over confidence issues. and join one that no one from school will be in so you can make friends and act however you want because you only see these people once a week. plus maybe one day you'll be a famous actor who knows!! good luck with your self onfidence!!
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I use to be like that and i hated it too. Then when I started to become more outgoing and myself around others I learned that they liked me better that way. But dont just one day go in to sachool or a party and just be the most outgoing person in the room. Kinda of ese up to being outgoing. Start to talk to more people, ask more questions. Dont care what anybody thinks of you, cause chances are that thye will like you better yourself than quite. Just let go and act like nobodys looking. Trust me once you become more outgoing you feel so much better about youself.
Jess
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