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he loves her..and was starting to like him?
16 female
soo me and this guy kinda hooked up. well all we did was kiss and makeout and he like rubbed my boobs? haha..through my clothes! but anyways...he is WHIPPED over this girl. he is absolutely in love with her. and i cant accept that. they've been on and off for like a year and a half!! =( and like when they break up he wants to talk to me and hangout and like do stuff..because he is attracted to me! he even said so himself. his girlfriend treats him like crap..she has cheated on him like 5 times, gets mad over the stupidest things..like when she does something really bad its like nothing for her but then when he does something its like the worst thing in the world to her??? and she hangs out with other guys and all this crap! and when we madeout they werent going out and he was telling me that he was trying to get over her and was asking me who i liked and asked me why i thought he asked me that? (hinting he was starting to like me) but then i dont know? i dont know if i just didnt seem interested or if he is still totally in love with his girl. hes always like i love my girl..let me check with my girl..i love you! blah blah...and its like now they were suppose to be going out "secretly" probably so she can go cheat on him again..but he treats her like a QUEEN and she treats him like crap..and he still loves her and wants to be with her so badly. in her profile its like im single and im staying that way and in his its like i love you! i wish i was his GIRL. =( but i dont think he will ever get over her and it hurts me really bad. its like i dont want to get involed because i dont want to get hurt in the end and i dont think he will ever be over this girl if they ever break up again for good. i try not to think of him but whenever i hear someone say his name i get like frustrated and like mad at him for putting me through this! leading me on and then going back out with her? but then at the same time its like i cant hate him because i cant get over him..
What do i do?! i try hangout with other guys but i dont have many guy friends and im very shy!! i think he just wants to do stuff with me..which hurts but i wish we could be more..and talking to him doesnt work! he will just be like i cant help it i love her..sorry. i try and say why do you love her? she treats you like crap and hes like i just love her so much i cant help it. im like ugh. and i havent talked to him since like we did this stuff like 3 weeks ago.
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Sweety, here is the thing you need to know: He is probably on rebound.
I've had avery very good friend of mine in the same situation. She would cheat, use him, treat him like crap, manipulate him yet he crawled back to her over and over again until he realized what a bastard she was and how pathetic he was being.
You need to sit down and talk with him, set boundries and rules. Tell him what's going on. The whole view. What he's doing. Tell him that she is a manipulative person who's using him to get what she wants and lies and cheats behind his back as a "reward"for him. Tell him that he deserves someone WAY better than a lowlife like her. That he's hurting you by using you as a temporary replacement. Tell him that you want a boyfriend. Not someone who makes out with you and ditches you for another girl that treats him so bad. He can't use you to fill the void temmporarily and when he thinks that he has a chace with this other girl he runs off to her and then comes back. TELL him that he's really hurting you and that he's treating you somewhat like what that girl is treating him like. Hon, what that boy and that girl has going on is not love. He has an infatuation for her. And she's not worth his time.
If he doesn't want to respect your feelings, just ditch him. Let him know what he's missing out on. What true love and girlfriends are
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Hey yeah if he's putting you through all of this crap then you should stop hanging around him for a bit. I realize that you care about him and its not as simple as that but I think thats in your best intrests. He's obviously still in love with that other girl and untill he works things out for good; I'd stay away. If he wants someone to talk to in a friend way you can be there if you want but if all he wants is a rebound girl I'd get the heck out of there. its not good to put yourself through it. I know you envy this girl that he's in love with and you think shes taking him for granted but he still likes her so chances are that he is going to keep going after her no matter who shes with.
If hge asks you out or something talk to him about his feelings for his girl. if he is completly done go for it but tell him to be honest with you because starting a relationship with someone a0 on the rebound and b) still in love nad thinks he still has a chance with the other girl, isnt good. good luck with whatever happens!! hope some of this helpped!!
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