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how do i approach someone?...i need a good GUY.
alright! there are many hot guys at my cousins school. and im always with my cousin we are like best friends and i know like all of her friends! i pratically know her whole grade through her haha. but i go to a different school. but you see these guys..its like my cousin isnt really popular and doesnt talk to the guys i think are hot and i wish i was pretty enough to get their attention? and like at their school football game i went and i saw this kid i thought was hot (ive seen him before) and he was talking to these people my cousin was talking to and i was just standing there looking at him laughing! i dont even think he looked at me though..but i dont want to approach them because everytime i try that it never works and they're always like hi??...its weird that i dont know you but okay. its awkward! and my cousin cant introduce me to any of these guys because she isnt friends with them. and i dont have AIM but i have MYSPACE and i like messaged this one kid a long time ago but he never messaged back =( so then i felt stupid. everyone thinks im soo pretty but i just dont see it! and im extremely shy and not outgoing and i have a very low self esteem. ive never had a boyfriend and everyone is in shock when they hear that. its either i get involved with the wrong guy or im always just the good friend. im sick of it!! and everytime i try to like slip in a comment or a hey can i see that? just to try and like start a convo it never works and theyre like surprised that im talking to them because i dont know them haha. ahh help!?
by the way im 16, female
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hey!
I get what you're talking about, but you shouldnt need your cousin to introduce you. I have an idea though. There are some classes that you can take that bring up your self esteem. Like Musical theatre, or theatre (if you cant sing). You cna take dance classes or karate etc. they not only build confidence, but they're some guys in some of those classes.
I think that you should keep going up to people at your cousins school and talk to them. dont introduce your self as your cousins cousin or let your cousin introduce you, introduce yourself. That way people who arent her friend wont prejudge you. also its not a big deal if you dont have a bf. lots of teenagers dont have bfs and thats fine. You just have to learn how to deal with it. And dont get yourself down if people from your cousins school dont call you back they may have forgotten or may be busy calling their other friends. just keep trying eventually they will accept you. good luck!!
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Well ok, When you want to approach someone, and have a guy, plus have him notice you the first thing that will mke you stand out, noticed etc, is if you're confident. You're a 16 year old female!! us women are beautiful (thats not the only thing that should matter by the way) but you need to have soem confidence girl!!! just be positive and sure of yourself (to a point obviously, you dont want to be rude) peopel pick up on that when you're shy, and it makes you hard to approach, let alone approach others! If you really want something to work between you and another guy, you have to believe you can not only do it, but do it with confidence and self esteem. I had my own struggle with self esteem, but after getting support from friends and just believing in myself for once, things started to work out in my favor. You have to sometiems wait a looong time to find the right person, but just know that it'll be worth it. would you rather rush to meet a guy and he turns out to be a jerk? or take your time, be confident in what you say and get to know him? If you're really quiet and shy, sometiems that attracts the wrong type of guy (controling people, jerks etc :P) so just keep your chin up! and believe what you say when talking to guys. Once you have soem confidence, talking to others and findign good conversation coems way easier. Hope I helped! good luck :)
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