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Avoiding.
This boy & I are best friends, but recently when he IM's me/calls me we don't have much to talk about. So, for 3 days I didn't get on AIM/answer my phone..sort of avoiding him, so we'd have stuff to talk about when I got on AIM/he called me.
Well yesterday I signed on AIM, and he usually instanly talks to me, but he didn't. So I waited a bit, then put up an away msg. I was kind of hurt, I won't lie, that he wasn't lonely without me hah. Well later on that night my away msg said something like, "F you I'm still riding the bus, just because you're riding it & I'm trying to avoid you doesn't mean I shouldn't ride it." So, after reading that he IMs me, like, "Who are you ignoring?" And I was like "You." and signed off, and he called but I didn't answer. We're not going out, I just get extremely jealous of these other two girls he talks to on Aim, and whenever he's not talking to me, I feel like something's wrong with me, like I'm ugly or something.
His aim profile now says..
Recently, there have been times I wonder if you even want to be my friend. I try, yet no matter what I do it seems that it just angers you more. I guess what they say is true, that not everyone can like you for who you are.i'll be honest, it makes me sad.
That's about me, so idk what to do to be honest. Do I apologize? Or, just anything would help.
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You should be honest with him and ask him straight foward. This game of pointing things out indirectly (ie: away message, profile) is only messing with each other's heads.
Stop, and resolve the problem the easy way.
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Just talk to him. You don't even have to bring up the subject of I'm sorry. Be careful at first, he might be hurt, but then ease into a normal, friend conversation.
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I believe you like your best friend. I was the same way and I got so mad when a girl would talk to my best guy friend. I finally realized he is my best friend, knows a lot about me and I fell for him. I know its sorta weird but we've been going out for 8 months and am extreamly happy!!
I think you should applogize, he didnt do anything wrong. You're the one who came up with the idea to ignore him so you'd have more to talk about. I think you're like me.. when you like a guy, you want to fight with them to see how they react and for no apparent reason.
Really try and find out why you get jealous but im 99% sure you're jealous because you like him.
And about his profile, tell him " I love the way you are, you're my best friend and wouldnt change you for the world." it usually always works.
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Wow, you are so lucky. He seems like a really great friend.
Do you like him? That might be the problem. Or are you just afraid of losing your best friend?
He might have not been talking to you on IM either because he thought you wanted space since you hadn't been calling him back or because he didn't notice that you signed on.
It sounds like he doesn't understand what he did or why you didn't call or anything. If I were you, I would call him and say, "Hey [name]. I'm sorry about the other day. I just got angry because I thought you were talking to everyone BUT me. I'm just afraid of losing my best friend to some other person. The reason why I haven't been calling you back is because we haven't had anything to talk about the times before that you called, so I thought that maybe if we didn't talk for a few days, we might actually find something to talk about on the phone or on IM. You really are the greatest friend anyone could ask for and I'm sorry."
Trust me, he'll forgive you. From what you said, it sounds like he really loves having you as a friend.
If you start getting jealous next time, just take your mind off of it and sign off and listen to music for a little bit. That's what I do all the time and it helps a lot.
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I think you should apologize. It probably did hurt his feelings. Basicually, I'm saying the same thing the other person said. How would you feel if he ignored you?
Hope I helped!
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You need to talk to him and yes you should probably apologize. Honestly now, you are the one who started the whole ignoring thing. That probably hurt his feelings.
Think about it. If he started ignoring you wouldn't you worry that he didn't want to be your friend?
Sounds like you to have a really big misunderstanding here. So talk to him. Tell him why
you started the whole ignoring him thing. Tell him you are jealous when he talks to other girls. Just get it out in the open and get your friendship back on track. :)
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