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if i could lose weight maybe i could gain him.
I have a friend to whome i am close to. He is one of my ultimate best friends and we talk on a regular basis. There has always been this "thing" between me and him and we both know its there. There is like a spark in the air but then again, we have NEVER kissed or anything . But we are so close mentally and emotionally.
He always talks abou what kind of girl he's gunna marry and how hell treat her. It just makes me think even more about how badly i want that life with him. They say that your husband is like your best friend. I think i do want my bestfriend to eventually become my husband. I have never really thought about is like that before but i legit think that we are almost perfect for eachother. And i do think that we could date very easily but I do beleive that the ONLY thing that is holding us back is me. My weight.Dont get it wrong he does love me but he also wants a "fitter " looking gf. And i honestly dont resent him for that. He is really into body building and fitness and he doesnt really judge me at all. I just have that gut feeling that that is what is holding him back from me. But me, i dont at ALL eat junk food. All my weight was put on when I was younger and now im just been kind of stuck with it for four years. For four years after i gradually began to eat healthier my weight still just kinda stayed the same. This summer i have been watching and kind of obsessing what i eat and i have lost about 15 pounds. All i drink is water and eat three times a day of mostly vegetables. But i dont only want to lose weight because i have this weird theory lol...but so i feel better about myself in general...im just getting sick of being fat.
anyway i guess i dont even really know what im asking i just kinda wonderr i guess what you think about all of this or just any advice. ...
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Aw I hope for the best of you two. If he really loves you and cares about you , he will accept you the way you are , beauty is just the outside , personality and feelings is what's on the inside that counts. If it's meant to be either way it will happen no matter what. If you want to lay that off , i'd say get some protein stuff , start working out daily , eat good , some junk food is good , uhm just cut down a bit , look up some stuff on the interent. I know just be good and be who you are in your own skin , don't think otherwise. My advice to you go out and strut your stuff and good luck with him and go out and daily excersise and why not with him let him tag along show him you care about your looks and yourself make yourself happy you know.
Good luck girl : )
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what a sweet letter...i hope you find a man to treat you as good as you deserve to be treated...first, as far as the this guy; ask him questions, sit down with him and say, " i really want to be more fit and look as good as you do, how do i do it?" thus, he will not freak if you say "i wan to be your future wife"...
secondly, start slow. make realalistic goals, that you can stick to and live with...start walking around block to build muscle coordination and get your stamina up...then add weights because that is the key to burning fat...
lastly but not leastly, low carb-high protien diet will teach your body to use stored fat as energy and not spike your blood sugar...
please keep me posted,and if you have a question, ask me...good luck
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Good on you :D you'll fel much better for losing weight. (im 19 m) I used to be a chunky little git way back when. i still eat like a totall pig but i dont put weight on at all due to the hours of skateboarding i do everyday.
thats the key to a gd diet, Excercise!!! If he really does want a fitter body to get him going. go for it! it'll make you more confident about yourself as well so theres an ego booster in it. dont start thinking this a gd idea then sort of stop doing it after a while. if you want it fight for it ;D good luck sweet
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If you want to lose weight, more power to ya'!
But if you want to lose weight so that he can turn from from a friend to a beau, you should think twice about that.
If your weight is the only thing keeping you two from getting together, that's not a very good reason to be apart. That also says that he has some pretty superficial values, if he can only like you in a certain size. And what happens if you gain any of it back - does he then stop loving you?
I think friendship is a great beginning to a romance since the two people know each other better when they get caught up in an emotional haze.
So, I encourage you to lose the weight for your health and well being, but if he's he prime motivator, think twice.
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I know there is a spark and I know that you may want that life with him but if you have to change youself and who you are whether it be your image or just you at all then it's not right. The "One" will love every bit and peice of you for you and not try to change you in any way.
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First of all beauty is only skin deep and if this guy realy likes you he will like you for who you are not what you look like but I'm glad you are taking an aproch to lose weight .my wife at one time weighed 220lbs now she's down to 150 she lost a lot of weight in just one year but she has this problem with flab loose skin .I'm a skinny guy in 5/8 and weigh between 145 to 155 .so aperance to me is not everything it how you connect and the other person treats you .so anyways I would just ask him honestly how he feels about you if there is a chance on moving forward in your relationship tell him how you feel about him too .what do you got to loose that way you know where you stand and you might be suprised .if you don't take chances in life you won't ever know what the outcome might be and you will never gain anything either its worth it don't you think
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