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Q: i'm 16/f.
i want to loose some weight, not alot, but some. and i want to get toned. i found a workout in seventeen that i've been doing for maybe 2 days. and i've kind of added my own moves.

i was wondering this...i've already decided to drop soda. which i know you can drop a TON of weight just by that. but what if i ate kinda small portions of healthy stuff? would that make me unhealthy? i was thinking like..oatmeal for breakfast or something, or some toast. and then rice cakes for lunch at school, or one of those cambells soup at hand things. and then have some kind of healthy dinner. would i basically be unhealthy? would it slow down my matabolism?

good question; hopefully i give you a good answer...

yes, dropping soda is great because sugar becomes fat eventually and excess sugar goes into your blood stream and becomes trigylcerides; not that you have to worry about that till you are much much older, but making new healthy habbits now is super!

all you really need to focus on is getting rid of sugar and portion control...don't think it means no good junk food; it means eating right ammout, being sensible...for example; i use to order a large meat lover's pizza; now it is only meduim's and they last three days at least!

if you plan on doing any weight training which is key to loosing and keeping off weight, go slow...don't go over board or you may burn out, get bored and quit...

good luck..keep me posted; if you have any other questions please ask me on my question page...

Q: I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

run and don't look back...he is not a man he is a boy...nothing more. It shows zero respect for you or your feelings and that alone is not acceptable. He will find someone new to betray and screw over...dont let it be you. by not being honest with you, confessing or even apologizing should be all the proof you need he is not worth your time or effort...move on. put it down to experience and move on..it will be ok, the sun will rise in the morning, hear me?

if he can do this, what is next? posting ur pics? you need to kiss him good bye and find somoene who is really worthy of your affections and attentuion; he is not the one...

keep me posted, and take care; you are woirth and deserve better...

Q: Your most trustworthy friend and most trustworthy student in school just got her driver's license. You haven't met her for a long time and since she's going off to college next year, she wants to meet with you. Great! She's going to pick you up. Should you go for a ride?

of course! Why not? If she is all that you say she is then i would go but wear a saetbelt...if u have your liscensce, why don'tr you drive?

Q: Ok, so this will be pretty long. (sorry). I am 17 and my boyfriend is almost eighteen. We have been together for almost three years straight, and we have had our ups and downs. I understand in relationships everyone argues but when we argue its brutal. We have discussed things we need to work on, mine for instance is not to get an attitude so much and not to yell but to speak calmly. So everytime we argue I dont do those things and I make sure not to at all. But its not good enough. No matter how quiet or nicely I talk its like we still argue just as bad, if not worse. Whenever we argue its like its always my fault, and he makes sure I know he feels that way every second of the argument. It's like he tells me every single thing I do wrong, but when I even hint to him doing one thing wrong he either twists it to me causing it somehow, or he says im fussing at him. I mean the arguments never ever get physical by no means, not even close, but its just like me fixing things in order to make our relationship better just is not good enough. But I mean another thing we argue about is him going out with his friends. Like whenever we hang out all he wants to do is sit at the house, but when hes with his friends he is always going out to eat, or going out sitting outside of "wal mart.?" But when I ask him to go somewhere he says he does not feel like it. I try talking to him about it but all he says is he cant help it if he dont feel like going anywhere and for me to stop bugging him so much. He says he is happy just staying at home with me because I am fun no matter what we do. But he says he gets bored with his friends so he has to go somewhere. I mean, I know I have made it seem like we argue 24/7 but we rarely argue. Its just when we do its horrible. It never gets better at all until I cry. When we are not arguing its wonderful, and we get along so great. We are like best friends. I just want to know what to do that could make our arguing better, because it needs help bad. Please, no answers saying to break up, or we arent meant to be because that is most certainly not right. We have grown up together since we were born, and we have been best friends for years before we started dating. We have our ups and downs but we truly love each other. Just please help with what to do about the arguing, I need some help fast. Thanks so much in advance.

--Taylor

did it ever occur to you ti may be a power trip for him, to make you cry? All i really get from this is how you are always tyo blame, you are the one made to feel awful...it takes two my dear. It's about mutual respct; love is gentle and kind; love forgives and moves on...apparently, unless i am missing something, there is not much love, patience or forgivness here...

my best, honest adivce is this: take a break from each other for awhile...seriously; it is not doing either one of you any good to be beating each other up verally and emoitonally. That is not healthy at all...

hope this helps and good luck. Maybe u deserve better and just don't know it...

Q: So me and my ex go way back...a year ago in february. So like feb 09. Anyways, we were a thing for a while, until he turned around and chose my best friend over me. Which of course crushed me. And then 3 months later he begged for me back for 2 weeks until finally i forgave him and started dating him a month later. After 2 months of dating we broke up, because I had just lost feelings ever since things went bad. We haven't been very close since, and it's always been kind of awkward around him. I'm not sure what to do, because I want to be close with him. I want to be able to talk to him again without their being any tension.

The truth is, I still kind of have feelings for him...It's really hard because I know he's way over me, but he tells his best friend (who's also one of my good friends) that when we dated, he really cared about me. I just wish it was the same. And I don't know how to approach him..

I guess I'm just wondering what I should do? How do you view my situation? I'm just really confused /: And I want him to be around again. I miss him.

I'd appreciate anyone's help, I'll rate you all a 5 just for a simple input. Thanks.

love is never a smooth path. my best adice is this: sit down and talk to him, if he will talk to you and just tell him holw you feel...tell him you want to go slow but you also want to be a part in his life; maybe not a major player right now, but that may come in time...don't push, don't rush; bottom line, if it's meant to be, it will be...but, if he says no, accept that and move on( I know, easier said then done)...good luck, tAke care...

Q: 19M

Ok, so the first question is easy really. Though it's something I've kinda worried about for a while about myself. To put it simply, I prefer to be friends with girls, perhaps date them, over sleeping with them. I'd rather stay in for a movie and cuddle than have sex. Does that make me weird, for a straight guy? None of my guy friends see what I like about it. (But my female friends tend to love it haha)

My main part to the question is, I see this aspect of me ruining future relationships. I tend to have a couple of female friends at all times, who I often spend an evening with alone. We might go out together, or watch a movie, or whatever. Nothing happens, we're just friends. At the moment I'm single. I worry though that when I have a girlfriend, she'll be always jealous of the fact that i'm alone with other girls (Because I thought about it, and I don't want to stop haning out with friends the way I do because some girl doesn't want me too). I do think that this will make it incredibly hard for me to start a relationship. When the trust isn't built yet, how do you persuade her there's nothing going on?

Any help would be appreciated, but don't insult me, I get enough of that already.

you are normal and mature; here's a secret...women will judge you by how well you trreat your female friends and how many of them you have that are platonic...there is nothing wrong with not having a strong sex drive; rememer the old saying, sex is over rated and under apprciated(my saying, and i am old); point is, you worry too much what your friends will think or even do think...you need to go to the beat of your own drum and if night's in aree what floats your boat, then anchor's aweigh my friend....good luck; you'll be just fine...

Q: This is a really long story, so i'll try to make it short.

I've known this boy for almost 7 months. we've dated for 4 of them. he left me, he just disappeared for 2 months. and i found him and we started talking again. he says he regrets doing what he did to me, and that he still loves me. he said that if he hadnt left we'd still be together. the thing is he now has a girlfriend who he started dating while we weren't talking. they fight all the time. she tells me what she says; she threatens to leave him almost daily but never does. i feel like she treats him like complete trash. shes only 13, and hes almost 18. which i find absolutely disgusting but thats beside the point. i've asked him multiple times to break up with her. he says that he cant just leave her because after everything shes done to him (lying and such) he still loves her. i says he cant leave because he'll feel bad, and he doesnt want her to be sad. he told me that if he stays he wont be happy and if he leaves he wont be happy.

i really really want him back. of all the boyfriends i've ever had hes the one i love and care about the most. we talk about having a life together but the way he talks about not being able to leave his current girlfriend, i dont think he'll ever leave her. he says it wont last forever but i feel otherwise. i need to know what to do. when i think about him and her i get very jealous and upset. i cant get him out of my mind.

right now he does say i love you to me, he calls me baby and such, just like when we were dating. but i wish the other girl was just out of the picture. im not really sure what kind of advice im looking for. i really want to know how to get them to break up but thats horribly mean, i dont want to hurt his feelings. whats the best thing for me to do?

run and don't look back...shoprt of that, you have a mess on your hands for sure. If he is eighteen and she is thriteeen the parents could ste in with legal action against him. secondly, if he is almost eighteen he should know better which tells me, he may be a bit immature and finds it ewasier to relate to a child then someone his own age; that is a red flag...another red flag i am sorry to say is what he is tellig you and telling her..if he is calling you sweety and what all, who else besides you two is he telling this too? or will be in future if you two should get together...run and don't look back; i kn ow this is not what you want to hear, and i am sorry but i am being honest, and nine out of ten folks on here would probably agree with me....

Q: So there's this guy i use to date 3 years ago which was my first love and a year after me and his brother started talking and now i really like his brother. would it be wrong for me to date his brother?

wow....ok bottom line; you need to sit down with the two of them, either together or separate and tell them and make sure you are all on the same page...first love runs deep and i don't care if it's three years or three days...I have seen this type of thing back fire and tear apart families, on the other hand, it might just work out...but first and foremost, sit and get clear with the two of them and go from there...

Q: 18/female.
I've never tried marijuana, i've obviously heard a lot about it from health class and that, but I'm very curious about it. pretty much everyone i know takes a hit once in a while, some more than others, but i'm never around when they do.

I guess i'm just wondering if it's really worth a try. I told myself I would never try it; that i want to be able to grow old and tell my grandkids that hey, it really is possible to be straightedge your whole life, and you CAN say no.

My sister says I would really like the feeling because I'm pretty chill to begin with.

Any opinions?

three problems with smoking pot:

1) it costs money

2) you need to have a job and most test for drugs

3) it is, in most states illegal, which means going to jail, going to court and you will have to explain to future employers why this is on your record..

now, if you can live with those three, be my guest...however know also, they call it dope fopr a reason; they dont say go smoke some genuis...

lastly, pot is a 'gateway' drug to harder drugs; at some point you will not get the 'cherry' high you did first time and you will spend time and money trying to get that back...it is sooo not worth all that...you choose the behaviour, you choose the consequence...

Q: I have a friend to whome i am close to. He is one of my ultimate best friends and we talk on a regular basis. There has always been this "thing" between me and him and we both know its there. There is like a spark in the air but then again, we have NEVER kissed or anything . But we are so close mentally and emotionally.

He always talks abou what kind of girl he's gunna marry and how hell treat her. It just makes me think even more about how badly i want that life with him. They say that your husband is like your best friend. I think i do want my bestfriend to eventually become my husband. I have never really thought about is like that before but i legit think that we are almost perfect for eachother. And i do think that we could date very easily but I do beleive that the ONLY thing that is holding us back is me. My weight.Dont get it wrong he does love me but he also wants a "fitter " looking gf. And i honestly dont resent him for that. He is really into body building and fitness and he doesnt really judge me at all. I just have that gut feeling that that is what is holding him back from me. But me, i dont at ALL eat junk food. All my weight was put on when I was younger and now im just been kind of stuck with it for four years. For four years after i gradually began to eat healthier my weight still just kinda stayed the same. This summer i have been watching and kind of obsessing what i eat and i have lost about 15 pounds. All i drink is water and eat three times a day of mostly vegetables. But i dont only want to lose weight because i have this weird theory lol...but so i feel better about myself in general...im just getting sick of being fat.

anyway i guess i dont even really know what im asking i just kinda wonderr i guess what you think about all of this or just any advice. ...

what a sweet letter...i hope you find a man to treat you as good as you deserve to be treated...first, as far as the this guy; ask him questions, sit down with him and say, " i really want to be more fit and look as good as you do, how do i do it?" thus, he will not freak if you say "i wan to be your future wife"...

secondly, start slow. make realalistic goals, that you can stick to and live with...start walking around block to build muscle coordination and get your stamina up...then add weights because that is the key to burning fat...

lastly but not leastly, low carb-high protien diet will teach your body to use stored fat as energy and not spike your blood sugar...

please keep me posted,and if you have a question, ask me...good luck

Q: hi i have been friends with this guy for about 2-3 years and he has liked me and i knew it... but that was about a couple of years ago... and i thought he went off me i have never reall as in REALLY loved him... but he went out with one of my sorta ish friend but she is not really my friend and they never worked out like at all!!

now he says he likes me... and idk if i feel the same... but he makes me feel good about myself and has always been there for me.. and we are really friends...
should i give him a chance...
or should i wait....
or should i stay friends ?

please help me please i really need some advise
thanks

there is a silly saying that goes, the heart wants what the heart wants; however, in this case, you are better off being/staying friends for now....that is best way to truly get to know someone, what they value, what is important to them, and as time goes on, you will know if this is meant to be and go from there...best of luck...

Q: Ok so I just got into a relationship with this guy. He is really sweet and cute. Last night we were chatting over facebook and he told me he wants to go to the movies and finger me when we are there. I am 13 and i wanna know if i should? and if i do what should i know.. when he does is my cherry gonna pop? And is it gonna hurt? I think he only likes me to have sex with me but I am only 13 im not ready to have sex.. Ok well Please Help Me!

being 13 is never easy, but honey, if he is only seeing you to finger you, do not go...you two need to get to know each other firstand foremost...this is very disturbing because of your age, experience or lack thereof...who ever said it was a race to the finish line to have sex??? what happens if you cannot just settle for a finger and want more?? 13 and knocked up is not as glamerous as it seems...re think this...and do not go....

Q: hey,
So i met this guy and we hung out for about two months before we started dating, we only dated for two week but i was lovestruck, i liked him so much. But he ended things one day saying that he doesn't want a relation ship and we rushed into things and that we should just be friends and see what happens. so we talked a couple times but not much. So a couple weekends ago i went to one of my friends party's and he was there and we haven't seen each other since but it was okay and he told me that he misses me. So i hook up with his best friend because i thought that he was over me the day that he broke up with me. so then him and my best friend hook up and i was sorta pissed that she didn't ask me first because she knew i was hurt when we broke up... anyways so the next day me and her sorted everything out but she told me that he said the only reason he hooked up with her was because i hooked up with his best friend and he still has feelings for me and he wants to make me jealous, when she told me i didn't want to look happy because she doesn't know that i still have feelings for him but i do and now i don't know what to do about this whole situation?
please help =(

did i miss something?? you hooked up with his friend, your friend hooked up with him?? did i read that correctly??

if i did read it right, then what do you have to be mad about? maybe he hooked up with your friend to get at you for hooking with his friend..

if you have any feelings for him at all, you two need to sit down and talk this stuff out...if he had feelings for you b ut did not act on them, then that is his fault...however, it is not acceptable to hook up with his friends, ever...as a general rule anyway....you should have said to him, hey, i know you are not that into me, but your friend is, would that weird you out or be out of bounds for me to do? then, he would have had to play his cards...now, he can hold it over you, if he is that kind of person....best thing to do is sit down and talk....if that goes to hell, walk away, lesson learned..

Q: i want things to change, like how can i as an individual stop global warming, and animal abuse?

good question...my guess is to educate yourself on things you are passionate about, find groups of people who share your passions and get involved that way...good luck....

Q: So. My ex boyfriend and I had dated for seven months. Then one morning, he broke up with me in a text message. He said he didn't want to be tied down anymore. He was sixteen at the time, I was fourteen at the time. He's sixteen now, I'm fifteen now. It's been three months since the break up. While we were dating things were pretty bad. He pressured me into a looot of stuff. Like fingering. He physically forced me to give him a hj. And he made me feel guilty for months until I finally gave him a blowjob. He dumped me four days after the bj. I was messed up while we were dating... I honestly don't know who that person was. I was totally whipped, and I don't know why I thought anything he did was okay... but I did. Since the split I've realized how bad it was, and I'm a lot stronger. Thing is, after we broke up things were still bad for about a month. He told everyone how far we'd been, saying "she put out. like we made out all the time, and she gave me head." he even spread a rumor that we had sex saying "when I was on top, I thought I was gonnna break her cause she's so tiny. But she let me do wahtever I wanted. I coulda stuck it up the ass if I felt like it." Just stupid, stupid stuff. One day he'd say he wanted me back, the next he'd tell me I was stupid bitch. It was horrible. We stopped talking for a month. Then he apologized. After a shitty relationship, two months of hell, he said he was done being a dick. Then we were okay... I guess. We've been trying out this whole friends thing for about a month. It's been pretty shaky. But now one of our mutual friends has told me that my ex has been talking shit to him. Saying he didn't wanna be around me because I am immature. IIIII am immature. ME. Excuse me??? Immature people do what he did when we were dating. Immature people break up in texts. Immature people break promises and spread stupid rumors. Mature people take all of that shit without ONCE acting back. No revenge. Ever. Mature people look past what's happen and decide to be the bigger person to make things okay. I'm immature??? I don't think so. I'm pissed. The mutual friend has a certain theory about my ex. He says that my ex broke up with me because he was scared of how intense his feelings were getting for me. He says he just says that stuff to cover up how bad he feels about what's happen. That told everyone how far we went/spread those rumors to cover up him hurting about the breakup. And that he says the immature stuff to cover up him wanting to be around me... but I don't think thats it!!! I don't know what to do. Should I bring it up with my ex?? I mean... if we're trying ot be freinds... I don't know. I just don't want to stir shit up... What should I do???

ok..stop the train...he broke up with you in a text message? did i read that right?

first, no man who is a man would do such a thing. it shows his immaturity and his cowardice wide open. count your blessing he is gone from your life...

second, it sounds like he has no respect for you or himself and that spells looser with capital l...

thirdly, forget what every one says or thinks; it does not matter. go find somoene who wants you for you, respects you and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated....take care

Q: Do guys care if a girl's bra matches her panties?

Mine rarely do and my friend recently informed me that matching them is as important as matching regular clothes. Is that true? D:

depends on the situation...as a man in gneeral i do not care if one is pujrple and the other is yellow...however, if it is for a romantic night, planned out, i.e., candels, music, etc, then yes it makes a very good impression...layers are exciting because men are visual and creative(we can picture your girl';s and we can think of ways to see them)...so yes and no...if it's a quickie, then wear whatever is clean....if it is night of ooh-la-la, then make it count....

Q: i was looking on google for bracelets that talk about stoping animal extinction. but i can't find any. does anyone know a website with some bracelets that say something about them?

i am not familliar with such a sight, i am sure it is there some where...try wwf=world wild life funds or such....look up animal rights sites, or worse comes to worse, make your own bracelets and sell them.....

Q: How do I get over my ex

alas...the age-old question of time...first and foremost, get out and do things u love, or even like...spend time with friends and have fun...have an 'i hate my ex' party'....or 'i am single again' party....(you get the idea)...don't dwell on it...remember this; things in life, good and bad happen for a reason, plain and simple...i feel your pain....

Q: My west highland terrier recently got groomed. I've noticed her nails look a little too short and her legs and paws look a little scratched or look like it was cut too close. I noticed they had teenagers working there. I know them, and neither are even semi interested in working as a dog groomer. Should I switch and go somewhere else? I was really disappointed with there service and I don't know if this happens to frequent at other places or their service has just gone down... Any advice or opinions is great, thanks.

are you kidding? you actually sat down to write out a question? i would have been gone as soon as i saw my dog the first time....i have two pure bred huskies and i looked all over town; i drive thrity minutes per trip to get it done right, not half-assed as teens tend to do....ask your vet for a reccomendation, go there see the dogs, ask for references from clients...

Q: would a tinted moisturizer make my face feel/look like i have makeup on? i want to be able to touch my face and it feel like nothing is on it.

a moisterizer is just that; it adds to your skin...for best results try the spray on make up...cant think of the name of it, leeza gibbons uses it in her infomercial....dont be fooled...i am straight!!! just trying to help!

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i majored in psychology for several years so am pretty good with human nature, relationships, etc and i love to help people. Sometimes it just clicks when an answer is given, maybe worded a different way and u figure it out...drop me a question, leave a note, i'd like to hear from you...take care, and thank you for asking.