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So. My ex boyfriend and I had dated for seven months. Then one morning, he broke up with me in a text message. He said he didn't want to be tied down anymore. He was sixteen at the time, I was fourteen at the time. He's sixteen now, I'm fifteen now. It's been three months since the break up. While we were dating things were pretty bad. He pressured me into a looot of stuff. Like fingering. He physically forced me to give him a hj. And he made me feel guilty for months until I finally gave him a blowjob. He dumped me four days after the bj. I was messed up while we were dating... I honestly don't know who that person was. I was totally whipped, and I don't know why I thought anything he did was okay... but I did. Since the split I've realized how bad it was, and I'm a lot stronger. Thing is, after we broke up things were still bad for about a month. He told everyone how far we'd been, saying "she put out. like we made out all the time, and she gave me head." he even spread a rumor that we had sex saying "when I was on top, I thought I was gonnna break her cause she's so tiny. But she let me do wahtever I wanted. I coulda stuck it up the ass if I felt like it." Just stupid, stupid stuff. One day he'd say he wanted me back, the next he'd tell me I was stupid bitch. It was horrible. We stopped talking for a month. Then he apologized. After a shitty relationship, two months of hell, he said he was done being a dick. Then we were okay... I guess. We've been trying out this whole friends thing for about a month. It's been pretty shaky. But now one of our mutual friends has told me that my ex has been talking shit to him. Saying he didn't wanna be around me because I am immature. IIIII am immature. ME. Excuse me??? Immature people do what he did when we were dating. Immature people break up in texts. Immature people break promises and spread stupid rumors. Mature people take all of that shit without ONCE acting back. No revenge. Ever. Mature people look past what's happen and decide to be the bigger person to make things okay. I'm immature??? I don't think so. I'm pissed. The mutual friend has a certain theory about my ex. He says that my ex broke up with me because he was scared of how intense his feelings were getting for me. He says he just says that stuff to cover up how bad he feels about what's happen. That told everyone how far we went/spread those rumors to cover up him hurting about the breakup. And that he says the immature stuff to cover up him wanting to be around me... but I don't think thats it!!! I don't know what to do. Should I bring it up with my ex?? I mean... if we're trying ot be freinds... I don't know. I just don't want to stir shit up... What should I do???
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How well do you know this friend? Only trust it from your ex's mouth , not someone elses , if you hear that coming from your ex's mouth and with some proof then you believe it , other then that do not believe a word ANYONE EVER says. See , why do you want to even go back to your ex or even try to be friends , ignore him and delete him. Guy's who force you , who ruin you , who imitate you , harass you , spread rumours about you , and etc , are NOT REPEAT NOT WORTH IT. I think you should leave this all alone and get away from him and this friend , do not even bother with it. If you still like him after this , no idea how you could , but IF you do , then go and talk to him about it , but seriously your just wasting your time. If someone dumps you over a text message and starts rumours , he is immature and not worth it. Plus , he pressured you and whipped you... THE GUY IS SUPPOSE TO BE WHIPPED , not the girl... and obviously he broke up with you because he knew you did something you did not want to do since you said PHYSICALLY FORCED.... I suggest you really stop even trying to fix this , I mean you can , but do not go back to him , that's ridiculous. He made those rumours up because he was mad you would not do that stuff and it took long enough , unless you really did have sex with him and stuff. My advice to you is no do not say anything , I mean you can if you want , just do not make a drama deal about this , that is stupid. Do not let him trick you.
Good luck girl : )
- Make a wise choice.
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ok..stop the train...he broke up with you in a text message? did i read that right?
first, no man who is a man would do such a thing. it shows his immaturity and his cowardice wide open. count your blessing he is gone from your life...
second, it sounds like he has no respect for you or himself and that spells looser with capital l...
thirdly, forget what every one says or thinks; it does not matter. go find somoene who wants you for you, respects you and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated....take care
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Why are you trying to be friends with this bullying, name-calling, little prick?
Don't bring it up with him and don't be his friend. It doesn't matter why he does the nasty, mean things he does, and you'll never really know his reasons.
No matter what they are, they aren't good enough. He is not worthy of your friendship.
An important part of breaking up is learning you don't have to be friends just to prove you are the bigger person. It's okay to decide that someone is no longer worth your time and energy at all. This bullying, smack talking little boy is not worth the effort of trying to understand or build a friendship.
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uhhh....HELL NO. do NOT bring it up to him. don't even talk to him! he sounds like a total douche. i've been in a situation close to this one before, and trust me, he will NEVER change, no matter what he says. you said at one point he said he was tired of being a dick, right? well, what did he do after that? called you immature. you sound like you're pretty much over him, so it wont be hard for you to just let go and move on with life. tell him you're sick of his shit and want to start enjoying life a bit. you can put it into any words you wish. but my advice to you is drop him immediately. don't text/call/talk anything. he's officially invisible to you.
if you're not completely over him yet, it will be a little hard at first. but it'll get a lot easier, and trust me, you'll feel soooo much better.
good luck and take care.
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