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My Boyfriend and me
Ok so I just got into a relationship with this guy. He is really sweet and cute. Last night we were chatting over facebook and he told me he wants to go to the movies and finger me when we are there. I am 13 and i wanna know if i should? and if i do what should i know.. when he does is my cherry gonna pop? And is it gonna hurt? I think he only likes me to have sex with me but I am only 13 im not ready to have sex.. Ok well Please Help Me!
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First of all, you're only 13...way too young to be in that kind of relationship. If he's only in the relationship with you because he wants sex (which is probably the most case since you're so young and that's all guys are starting to care about) then you should break it off, especially if he's asking things from you already, when the relationship just started.
As far as if you should or not, it's really up to you, I can't tell you what to do. But being as young as you are, it's not a good idea...especially when it's so public.
The facts about cherry's being popped is, no, he probably wouldn't pop your cherry if he did finger you. It's possible, but there's no definite way to tell. For all you know it could already be popped. (it can pop very easily, ex. horse back riding, bike riding, tampons, etc.) But you won't know for sure until you have sex for the first time. (Which shouldn't be anytime soon!)
Also, if you did decide to let him finger you, it shouldn't hurt. Unless his fingers are too little, or he's doing it wrong. Truth is, you'd probably like it. But that is no reason to start sexual activity at such a young age.
My advice would be, if you really want go to the movies with him. But tell him he can't touch you "down there" and see how well he responds. If he doesn't seem angry or upset or argues back and just accepts it, maybe he actually does like you for more than just sex. But there's no way to be sure. Tell him you're not ready for a sexual relationship, say he's rushing things too fast...you're only 13. And if he can't deal with that, then honey, it was never meant to be.
Hope this helped!
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being 13 is never easy, but honey, if he is only seeing you to finger you, do not go...you two need to get to know each other firstand foremost...this is very disturbing because of your age, experience or lack thereof...who ever said it was a race to the finish line to have sex??? what happens if you cannot just settle for a finger and want more?? 13 and knocked up is not as glamerous as it seems...re think this...and do not go....
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If there is even a thought in your mind that he only likes you to have sex than you know you need to not have sex. You don't want to be that girl! You want to be the girl he talks about his dreams with, and the one who will help him solve his problems.
You guys are going through the toughest age. He is being pressured from his friends and you are being pressured from him. Don't be the footnote in his summer of '10. I'm not saying that you should never have that kind of experience at the movies, but at least wait to see how he treats you once the school year gets started. Remember, once you do it you can never take it back, and this is your body, your reputation, and the kind of person you want to be on the line.
I can only promise you one thing, and you know it's the truth: Having sex with this boy will not make him stick around or treat you better, it will only cause drama.
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Having sexual contact in a public place is a HUGE leap into the deep end. I wouldn't do it if I were you. You don't sound comfortable, and hell, even most adult women would not be keen on being fingered in public despite being fingered a million times in private.
If you want to be fingered by this guy, tell him it needs wait until it can happen at the comfortable, private place. If he can't arrange that, or wait for it, he's not a good guy to be having sexual contact with.
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This guy has told you up front what he is interested in, and it's not you. It's your body, or, more to the point, it's any body he can get his hands on.
Stay away, stay far away!
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If you're not ready then there is no rush whatsoever! Being intimate is something that's really private, and it's just not a good idea to be doing anything more then kissing in public.
Honestly, you're still so young and you said you guys just got into that relationship. Maybe you guys should take things slow and work your way up being fingered.
But for when you ready, no most likely your cherry isn't going to pop because fingers aren't as big or have as much pressure compared to having sex. As for hurting, it really depends on the person. The first time may hurt a little bit, but it will probably be uncomfortable more then anything. It will take you a couple times for you to get used to it, and for it to start feeling good.
Ok one last thing! If you really do think this boy is only with you for sex then dump him. You deserve respect and someone who wants to be with you wether your having sex or not.
Hope this helped! :)
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Okay let me start off by saying any boy that wants to do something like that in a public place has no respect for you . Stuff like that should be done in private so no one can see or hear . I think you shouldn't do that . You may bleed if he pushes his finger into deep but you are still gonna be a virgin . Sweet take your time don't rush . There are plenty of guys out there and you are to young , if you feel he want you for sex don't even waste your time because you will regret it
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sometimes when your being fingered your cherry doesnt pop. it shouldnt hurt unless he is rough i wouldnt recomend doing it in the movie theatre like if you get caught you dont want to metnion why your not allowed at the movies any more to people and just think that would you like to sit in those seats after someone just got fingered
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