Hi
my names jenn, and im here to help
i luv giving advice and helping out anyone
i think that im pretty down to earth
and ive been thru alot
so feel free to ask anything
my friends think im good, and hopefully you will too
hah well thats it
hope i can help
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I firmly believe that I have a mental illness. Not something serious. Just like a personality disorder. However, my parents think I'm perfectly normal...and just exaggerating. However, I'm not. But whenever I try to tell them, they shrug it off and refuse to let me go to a therapist or something. What can I do to make them listen to me? Is there some kind of online or on-the-phone service? Thank you. =] (link)
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i think that you should talk to some one other than your parents about it since they dont seem to be listening.
talk to an adult that you know well and trust.
tell them that you really need to see a therapist, or some that can tell you what is wrong.
i really hope that this helps
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sorry it's the same person.. you know with john and alexa, well... i was reading your advice when i realized... it's summer... so i have no way of reaching john... he doesn't even have a cell phone (link)
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oh god
wow that does seem like a problem
well all that i can say is
do you know what he is doing this summer?
like maybe if you see him around you could talk to him about seeing a movie or something like that
i also think that since it is summer maybe you could concentrate on getting to know more than one guy
like meet new ppl and maybe you'll find another guy that you like even better
idk its just a suggestoin and i hope that it helps
let me know
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i really like this guy, let's just call him.. john. well one of my dear friends... alexa.. like john too! i really dont know what to do.. i mean, i like john so much, but im a really good friend and would rather have her as a friend then have john at all... but i heard fromt he grape vine that she would rather lose me than him... she's not the greatest friend. please help me (link)
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ok
well i think that if you really like this guy
then you should wait it out and see what happens
this has happened to me many times
also you should probably ask her about him and see how she really feals about him
i mean you cant fight how your heart feels
if you really like him
and i mean really like
as in your heart beets faster when you see him
you can barely speek or you talk to much when he's around
you know you kinda like love him so to speak
also, if your friend would keep a guy over you
then she aint a friend
maybe you should talk to "john" or alexa about this
dont strait out say i like you
but give john little hints
like tell him he looks nice
or laugh at all of his jokes
you know, little things
well like i said, alexa may not be a keeper if she really aint a friend, but maybe, if everything works out, "john" could be a keeper
i hope for the best
i really hope that this helps
let me know if you need more advice
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I have this friend I've known since last year. we talk to each other alot.. and its fun to talk to her on aim on the computer too. but in real life like half the time shes just tired or not in a good mood or something and the other half shes okay.. but im usually energetic and i'll be all silly and stuff while she's not in the mood for it. she says she doesnt have many friends at all, but then i said that like people do like her and would give her a chance if she made an effort and made it seem like she wanted to be their friends also. thats what's kinda been bugging me. i mean she's nice to me, and im nice to her, and we have our laughs, but sometimes i tell her my troubles and shes like "i dont care" and it makes me feel kinda bad because i thought she'd be able to help me or make me feel better or something since she's my friend. then she tells me her troubles and i listen and help because im a good person like that.. i try to do that reversepsychology thing.. i think where you treat them the way they treat you.. but it fails because its just not my personality to like not help others. so then anyway she says that she's like a loner.. and she kinda likes being that way.. but then other times she wants to be friends with you. i like hanging out with pretty outgoing people.. okay they could be a little shy since i am too at times, but people who can have fun and be silly and not stare at you like your weird when you do it. some of my friends are like that but im closer and enjoy hanging out with people who enjoy having fun, being silly, and that you love to talk to. since she also isnt always in a talkative mood and i got that.. since my parents say i talk too much.. haha.. so i kinda controlled it but i cant stand not talking that much most of the time. -sigh- should i just make new friends? but its already far into the year.. it ending on june 21st.. and people are already in their cliques and stuff, so if your not already friends with them, its kinda hard to just go do it now. i mean im making friends with other people too, but they arent in my literacy class, like me and my friend are in, where we can sit wherever we want, and i sit next to her. also then she'd have nobody to sit with.. she talks to some other girl who she says she doesnt really like.. but hangs out with her anyways! its not just that.. i feel like i dont have a best friend.. i mean i have really good friends but i've never had one that i know is my BFF.. i thought she could become my BFF but i guess not, anymore. but sometimes also with a few of my other friends.. its like.. i dunno.. when we're gonna do a group project, i go to them, instead of them coming to me to be partners. like in spanish, we were picking groups for a project and that friend from before went with that girl she didnt really like and two random guys.. then i had to be in a group with the other two guys who werent in groups. that made me mad.. if my friend doesnt like that girl she should stick up for herself.. she just lets her do her thing and just bring her with them.. it pisses me off because if she was really friends with me she'd tell the girl that she didnt wanna be in her group. ugh.. so what can i do in this situation? and how can i make new friends while the school year is still here?
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ok well trust me
i have friends like this
if i were you
i would confront my friend, and tell her how you feel
tell her that you want to be listened to and cared about too
maybe she doesnt realize what shes doing to you
maybe thats just her personallity
for the making new friends thing
its easy to make friends at this time
just be yourself
go up to someone and talk
what i do, is go up to a person that i just met and be like
hah hi your my new best friend
its fun
and they always get a laugh out of it
also if your realy talkative and bubbly
dont change when your around that one freind just becuase she doesnt like it
if she wont except that that is a part of you and who you are, then i dont think that she really is a true friend
i am also a bubbly girl who loves to talk and laugh
sure im 14 but age doesnt make a diff.
i really hope that this helped
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i sit next to this boy in my science class. Over the year we started to get really close. We talk all the time and we bascilly know everything there is to know about each other. We fight like brother and sister and our personalities really click i guess. During the year he had a girlfriend, whom he just recently broke up with. Everyone says that we should go out. I met his parents and even his parents think we should. We just make eachother happy. I just found out that he broke up with his girlfriend for me. Now his ex is basiclly out to get me.He hasnt asked me out cause he is waiting untill he can do it in person and we are alone, and im think thats when we are in Washington D.C next week. I cant think of this boy as anything more then a friend. I feel really bad cause he's really funny and nice and i do like him alot, but not like that. And to top it all off, i like his bestfriend. I dont want to hurt the boy i sit next to, but how do i tell him i like his bestfriend? =[ But what i dont understand is that i have so much more in common with the boy i sit next to in science then i do with his friend, and im just so confusedd. and i dont know what to do. (link)
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The best thing to do is be honest
Tell him that you like him as a best friend
and you cant see yourself with him as anything more
i dont personnaly think that you should tell him that you like his best friend yet
wait until he gets used to the idea that you just want to remain friends
say it in a nice way though
Dont make him feel like he is not good enough though
its kind of complicated but im sure that you can do it
i hope that this helped
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Okay, there are these guys in my bio class... they beat on me. mainly this one guy... and at one point, they kicked my ankle, and now its swollen and has a weird angle to it. I think it might be sprained. The other day, I was worried about hitting my head, and cracking it open from the force of the kicking/hitting/shoving.
anyway, I'm really sick of dealing with them. Is there a quick and painless way to kill myself, without overdosing? I'm not scared of cosmetic pain, because I used to cut all the time, though I was trying to stop. So any method you can think of??? (link)
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I know that your gunna think im an asshole for saying this
but killing your self isnt the way
ive contemplated suicide before
and ive cut myself before
but ive never done major damage to myself
im a girl who gets made fun of and i get pushed around and beaten up
but i solved that problem by getting help
and my friends helped me too.
i know that i have no right to tell you not to kill your self
so i am not going to do so
if you want to
then i cant stop you
but if you want to talk
let me know
im sorry
i know that this probably didnt
but i hope it helped
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okay well im set that my dad is cheating on my mom. these are the things that lead me to beleive that.
1. when we first got our sprint cell phones, he only got me 500 text msgs a month because he said, "if you need to tell/ask someone something, just call them" and stuff like "texting is stupid" "its so pointless" yatta yatta. but i was cool with it. well i went over twice and he said "if oyu go over again, you get your phone taken away" then like yte next day, he texts me and says he got me unlimited and he unblocked texting from his phone, so now HE could text. i was like... okay?? but COOL. then one he was texting like CRAZY and i was just like "who ya text'n" and he was like "NONE OF YOU FREAKIN BUSINESS" and he like, hisd his phone. and he talks on it every night when my moms not home and when i ask, "who ya talkn to?" (real casually) he freaks out and says "WHY DOES IT MATTER?!?!"
2 he says he need to go to the grocerie store and i was like "okay" w/e. and i asked him to get me some peach tea. he was gone for like a hour and a half but i though "oh he's probably buying a bunch of stuff" you know? but he came back and the ONLY thing he had bought was my peach tea... i was like "wow. that took forever. and all you bought was peach tea?" (cause we are like low on food, and i had nothing to eat) and he got all defensive and was like "JUST CHILL OUT, OKAY?"
3 he always talks crap about my mom behind her back. little things that dont even matter. they are pointless. like we are talking about something that has nothing to do with her and he'll bring up somthing bad about her and go on raving about it.
4 he's been late coming home from work lately
5 i know this seems gross, but they never like, kiss or flirt with each other anymore. and im pretty sure they dont have sex. (ew, but a necessity in a relationship)
so idk. what do you guys think? its freaking me out. omggg. and if you think he IS, what do i do????? i am so helpless. do i tell someone. who? do i talk to him about it??? gaww im so lost. ):
thank in advance.
xoxo (:
ps. my parents have been separeted MANY times before and devorced twice but got back together both times. (link)
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Ok, i think that you should talk to your dad
Whats the worst that can happen?
He should know that you care about him
and your mom
so all you wanna do is know the truth
Just ask him a simple question like
"whats going on with you and mom?"
or
"Hows mom lately?"
or even
"Are you ok?"
It might feel awkward
and he might even get a little mad
but im sure that he loves you alot
and he will talk to you
And he might not even be cheating on your mom
Maybe hes just stressed out lately or something
like that
I really hope that this helps
Let me know what happens
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hi, i am 13 years old and i have a bad reputation at school. everyone calls me a slut...in fact ive been given the title \'the unofficial class slut\'. a slut is a girl who sleeps around with people and im a virgin, so why am i being branded like this. i used to hv a lot of guys who were friends, but since the grls gve me this name theyve cold shouldered me. it really hurts. ive made sum bad decisions but i really dont deserve it. plus, ive got a big bust, so people make snide comments abt them, which are really nasty. plz give me sum advice on how to cope. all advice is appreciated!! (link)
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I dont think that you should care what other ppl say
If they really hurt you, then you should probably tell them how you feel
i have had some bad reputations, but when i tell how much the names hurt
I generally got left alone
There is always gunna be someone there that
is going to make fun of you
But you should just tell them to stop..or brush it off
im sure that you are not a slut
And no one deserves to be called that or anything else
I think that you should ask the ppl
why you got that name
You probably dont deserve it at all
I really hope that this helped
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I am 5'6 and about 105 lbs. I feel fat almost all the time. I'm so self conscious. Whenever someone tells me i'm thin, i still don't think so myself. For the past six years, i've gone through periods of not eating much of anything; starving myself. But then after a little while i'll go through a period of eating and feeling guilty and planning on not eating anymore. I've been in an out of those periods for six years. I also don't get a regular period, when i should. I skip months at a time. I'm not really sure what this means.
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Ok listen honey
Im 5'4'' and 160 pounds, and thats overwieght
What you are is very skinny, and im sure you are beautiful
I dont truly think that you are anorexic, but i wouldnt keep not eating to find out
just eat...and dont feel guilty
Your tall, and thin...thats hot
Your perfect just the way you are, and you shouldnt think otherwise
I really hope this helped
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I want to lose some weight (about 10 pounds) and get in shape (get toned and fit..lose some jiggle!) I already have a flat tummy, but would like some definition..i don't want to bulk up, i want to be toned (i am a girl..if this was not already obvious..) what kind of workout should i be doing? (link)
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Ok, i think that you should be doing an
Upbeat, kinda dancing workout
Like, fast movements, focusing on the core
Crunches, and running is also good
i hope that this helps
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Yesterday, I went to the grocery store and bought tonssssss of healthy foods. Today, I woke up at 10:00 & here's what I ate.
Breakfast- apple & apple juice
Lunch- Turkey sandwich on wheat bread, about 10 grapes, about 15 sunchips and hot sauce. To drink I had water.
Snack- chips and hot sauce and apple juice
Supper- pepperoni lean pocket
snack- more sunchips
I eat alot!! I'm trying to lose weight (just belly fat and thighs) but i eat wayyy too muchh.. i ran up and down my street a little.. and did like 20 crunches. what are some other excersizes/tips/etc.
Thanks ALOT in advance! :) (link)
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Ok well you really dont have to cut down on eating
Its really what you eat that matters
Substitute the chips with more grapes
And keep it up with the wheat bread
Umm for excersizes running, crunches, streching, sit ups, even dancing are all really good
I love the dancing
Its really fun! hah
Yeah i have problems with my belly and thighs too
so im gunna get a fitness tape
Thats another thing that you could use if you want
i hope that this helps
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anyone know any quick things that can tone my body up before spring break in 2 weeks? minus running..things like crunches and stuff. thanks =) (link)
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Ok welll you can do sit ups
Crunches
Streches
and i think that if you look up
toneing excersizes on the internet
Some really good sites will come up
They can really help
i hope that this helped
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dis guy admittted that he liked me...and i said i liked him too...but after less than a week it seems that he's ignoring me...he's nt calling me anymore like he used too...and i really like him a lot...how can i make him like me again??? (link)
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I think that you should call him
Maybe talk to him, and ask whats up?
Tell him how your feeling
Maybe hes feeling the same way
i think that i know how you feel
Sometimes guys lose interest in girls
but they get the interest back really fast
Dont worry
I think that it will work out
Just talk to him
I hope that this advice works
Keep me posted with what happens
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I am 13/f all i think about is sex, when i see i guy im like i wanna have sex with him, for example chris brown. But is it normal i feel weird and when its time for me to do it im so scared, so why do i wanna have sex so badly but scared of having sex? is that normal? or good? or bad? (link)
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hah yeah this is perfectly normal
hah sex is pretty much the only thing on teenage
girls minds
dont worry
haha... its ok
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okay i just got my hair cut and i hate it..how long would it take for it to grow an inch or 2 bwlow my sholder..right now it just touching..is there anyway to have my hair grown faster
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hey..
ok well i dont think that you can make it grow faster
but i just got my hair cut as well
in fact i look like a boy
i was incredibly upset at first,
but i realized that when i
experiment with it
i can look pretty damn good
seriously
just play around with you hair
you might find that its not as bad
as you think
maybe you will even like it
if not
dont fret it will always grow back
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what are signs that a guy likes you
and what are signs that they dont
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OK, well 1 sign that a guys likes you
is if he tickles you, or pokes you alot
Another is if he talks to you, and jokes wit you
Some guys have different signs than others, but most will be pretty much the same
If a guy doesnt like you
he might get easily annoyed
He might try to tune you out
he might curse at you
also he might try to avoid you
or be a total jerk so that you chose not to hang wit him
i hope that this is good enough answer
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As much as I try, I can never blow dry my hair as good as they do at the salon I go to. I have a good dryer and a big rolly brush. Im pretty sure Im doing it the right way, but any tips? (link)
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make sure that you brush your hair back
and dry it when its really damp
not drenched or dried
hope tht this helped
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i have just turned 14 and all my friends but me have gotten thier peirods.
is it possible not to get ur peirod if ur a normal healthy girl?
am i just late because they make fun of me and say im the only child left.
its iembarssing and i feel left out.
is that weird or normal?
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its perfectly normal
not getting your period just means that your body isnt ready for it yet
but dont worry you'll get it soon
some girls dont get it till 18
you'll get it and you'll hate it
you should be happy for not having it yet
but you will get it
i hope that this helped
as you can see
i like to be totally honest
but dont be scared it wont hurt
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okay,i love my boyfriend to death and would do anything for him.but he drinks,dips,and smokes and i hate it.what i hate the most is that he tries to lie about it to me and it pisses me off. he wont do anything when im around him so im not worried about him pressuring me into doing it.but im worried about him getting caught,hurt,or in any kind of trouble.so my question is what can i say to make him stop? (link)
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i think that you should tell him how you feel
tell him that your worried for him
and tht you never want anything bad to happen
tell him that you hate it when he lies to you
and that you hate when he does what he does
tell him that he has you
and doesnt need that stuff
i rele hope that this helps
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hello. I am 13/f, 5'2 and i weigh about 138 pounds. Is that really overweigh? Also, what is the fastest most efficent way to lose weight other then the excerise and eat less? Is there a SPECIFIC exercise i should do everyday? -thanks ALOT (link)
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nope not at all
the average wieght for girls that are your height
is supposed to be around 130- 140
your perfect
but if u truly wana lose wieght
then maybe you could try doing crunches everyday
its working for me
i hope that this helps
but i dont think that you need it
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