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is this a true friend?
I have this friend I've known since last year. we talk to each other alot.. and its fun to talk to her on aim on the computer too. but in real life like half the time shes just tired or not in a good mood or something and the other half shes okay.. but im usually energetic and i'll be all silly and stuff while she's not in the mood for it. she says she doesnt have many friends at all, but then i said that like people do like her and would give her a chance if she made an effort and made it seem like she wanted to be their friends also. thats what's kinda been bugging me. i mean she's nice to me, and im nice to her, and we have our laughs, but sometimes i tell her my troubles and shes like "i dont care" and it makes me feel kinda bad because i thought she'd be able to help me or make me feel better or something since she's my friend. then she tells me her troubles and i listen and help because im a good person like that.. i try to do that reversepsychology thing.. i think where you treat them the way they treat you.. but it fails because its just not my personality to like not help others. so then anyway she says that she's like a loner.. and she kinda likes being that way.. but then other times she wants to be friends with you. i like hanging out with pretty outgoing people.. okay they could be a little shy since i am too at times, but people who can have fun and be silly and not stare at you like your weird when you do it. some of my friends are like that but im closer and enjoy hanging out with people who enjoy having fun, being silly, and that you love to talk to. since she also isnt always in a talkative mood and i got that.. since my parents say i talk too much.. haha.. so i kinda controlled it but i cant stand not talking that much most of the time. -sigh- should i just make new friends? but its already far into the year.. it ending on june 21st.. and people are already in their cliques and stuff, so if your not already friends with them, its kinda hard to just go do it now. i mean im making friends with other people too, but they arent in my literacy class, like me and my friend are in, where we can sit wherever we want, and i sit next to her. also then she'd have nobody to sit with.. she talks to some other girl who she says she doesnt really like.. but hangs out with her anyways! its not just that.. i feel like i dont have a best friend.. i mean i have really good friends but i've never had one that i know is my BFF.. i thought she could become my BFF but i guess not, anymore. but sometimes also with a few of my other friends.. its like.. i dunno.. when we're gonna do a group project, i go to them, instead of them coming to me to be partners. like in spanish, we were picking groups for a project and that friend from before went with that girl she didnt really like and two random guys.. then i had to be in a group with the other two guys who werent in groups. that made me mad.. if my friend doesnt like that girl she should stick up for herself.. she just lets her do her thing and just bring her with them.. it pisses me off because if she was really friends with me she'd tell the girl that she didnt wanna be in her group. ugh.. so what can i do in this situation? and how can i make new friends while the school year is still here?
13/f
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ok well trust me
i have friends like this
if i were you
i would confront my friend, and tell her how you feel
tell her that you want to be listened to and cared about too
maybe she doesnt realize what shes doing to you
maybe thats just her personallity
for the making new friends thing
its easy to make friends at this time
just be yourself
go up to someone and talk
what i do, is go up to a person that i just met and be like
hah hi your my new best friend
its fun
and they always get a laugh out of it
also if your realy talkative and bubbly
dont change when your around that one freind just becuase she doesnt like it
if she wont except that that is a part of you and who you are, then i dont think that she really is a true friend
i am also a bubbly girl who loves to talk and laugh
sure im 14 but age doesnt make a diff.
i really hope that this helped
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