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Your a fucking idiot. Pot causes cancer... Get your facts straight before you say something that will influence how other people will think about this drug. Remember who told you pot caused cancer? He was misinformed, and then misinformed you. Now you've become that misinformed person and thus, have also become the misinformer. See how life goes ina circle?

What are you talking about? I never told anyone that.

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Alright, so me and this guy have been talking for over a month(we've kissed) and he sends me cute texts a lot. I never know what to say haha. One time he said "yes! You are beautifullll!" and I said I love when you make me smile. But I've said that before and oh know how to make me smile and blah blah blah. But what are something's I can say that will kind of seduce him? It like "oh I'm so horny right now" and things that have to do with sex or oral or anything. We aren't doing that ANY time soon and irony want to tak about it. What are things I can say that will make him smile too? Things I can do/say that he will smile or laugh or get happy or even make him feel like he "wants me"? Also.... When he sends a :) or a

You are overthinking it and freaking out. Just be yourself.

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16/male i was unsure about my sexuality for awhile but for awhile now i do think im gay i thought i did like girls but ive become more and more attracted to guys looking at guys really turns me on i get turned on by gay porn and i really want to start to experiment with a guy
i really want to have a boyfriend it is normal to feels this way about the same sex isnt it?

Sure, it is normal to want to experiment and see if you like the same sex. If you think you are gay, then so be it. There is nothing wrong with it; you should not feel ashamed. Go find your man! :P

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hi, i have to escort my girlfriend at her friends quiencera party. i guess shes like one of the main girls, shes in the court i think its called? i have no idea of what to do! can someone tell me what happens at quienceras and what exactly i have to do as her escort since shes in the court thingy? please help.

Well being in the court means that she has to dance to a choreography assigned to that 15s. If the party is soon, then she probably means to just go with her. Youll sit at a table and watch the show. If the party is like 2 months away, then maybe she wants you to dance and learn it with her. Ask her :D

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(female) hey anyone please answer i keep here as soon as this happened i may be over reacting but omg ok so, i got on this website were you can chat with people because i was bored and I said hey and then a warning popped up and it said Warning: we have to warn you from federal law that this person is a registered sex offender! and then he said heyy and i freaked and exit out! I am really scared I hope i am just over reacting and everything is fine but im just scared they can get my information and were i live in stuff please help do u think he could -ThANks

Nah, dont worry about it. Just try blocking him if you can, just dont reply. Actually, you should be careful with whoever you write to on the internet. Never give out any personal information. Most sex offenders do not come with a warning sign.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now. Two 1/2 months ago I cheated on him when he went away on a trip with his parents. I know I shouldn't have done it but it was with a guy I was interested in for a long time and I got those urges. Long story short, when I cheated on my boyfriend I went all the way with the other guy and we didn't use a condom or anything. My period missed and I took a pregnancy test that showed a big positive. It's been a couple of months since I cheated and I'm 100% sure I am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend I'm pregnant. He got all excited and thinks it's his baby. I guess I can't be for-sure it isn't his though because we've been having sex every since a month in the relationship though, you know?

I never told him I cheated. I don't want to ruin the relationship. I can't be for sure the baby isn't his or anything. Should I tell him? I just don't know what to do because I have feelings for him and I know he'd make a good father. I mean, if I tell him and he gets mad and leaves me but the baby turns out to be his then it's all complicated. It's such a sticky situation. Help?

MAURY MAURY MAURY!!! Just get an abortion and relieve yourself of that drama. Good luck.

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So there is this boy and I am not going to get much but he did like me at one point and I dont know if he does anymore so I am trying to move on but it is hard!!! and it would be easier but I lost my best friend last year because lets just say she went bad. She knew how to make her way around guys and she brought out the flirty side of me, now since I have lost her I am having the hardest time doing this on my own! I really need help! The guys I try to text including the one I don't know if he likes me anymore, when I text them I feel like I mess up and say stuff wrong. Liek the other night night, I text one of my ex boyfriends because I am starting to like him again so I figured I would try, and I tried to bring up something from the past and he replied something that made me feel stupid so now I think he thinks I am stupid and he hasnt acted like we are friends since then...! I really need help on getting my own self back and getting a boyfriend, I really need one and want one to get my life back together! Please help !---ThAnKs(:----!

Sounds to me like you need a confidence booster. It was not your best friend that the guy liked, it was YOU. So screw that friend, you'll find another. And as for the guys, guys love nothing more but confidence. Flirt in the way that makes you comfortably, and do not try to be something you are not. You'll get over this boy eventually, you are just dwelling in the past.

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Is it worth it? Will we turn out the same if I make the first move?

How am I supposed to approach him about taking this relationship further. We're best friends and we're like a couple, such as cuddling, holding hands, and talking about our personal lives, but excluding the title of boyfriend/girlfriend or any kissing/making out. I'm 50% sure he likes me and 50% he knows that I like him. But how do I tell him that I'm ready to START being able to kiss him, and call him my boyfriend.

We're both 18 by the way, freshman in college, and on Winter Break, and won't see each other for another 2 weeks.

KISS HIM!!! :) good luck!

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I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer twice with my ex. Because he made me feel so insecure about our relationship. He never gave me a lot of attention, he never called me. He didn't text me very fast. My ex gave me a lot of attention and made me feel loved. And my boyfriend never gets jealous about other guys except my ex because we went out for 2 years. Also I get really jealous if my boyfriend talks to other girls or hangs out with them. My ex kept coming back to me even when I was going out with him. I keep cheating on my boyfriend with him though. Now I stopped. I feel guilty about it because I think my boyfriend has never cheated on me. I just don't trust him. Because he talks to a lot of girls and never gives me a lot of attention. All he does is buy me gifts and its always jewlery. But i feel guilty that I cheated. My best friend told me he deserved it. My boyfriend still doesnt know i cheated on him. On our anniversary last month my ex texted me. And my boyfriend responded to his text. And my ex's answer was "were more than just friends" and he got so mad. And his mom asked me if I was being unfaithful and I said no and lied. What should i do? Ive never cheated on a guy EVER. I've been cheated on before. Guys have left me for other people. How can I deal with this relationship? I need help from someone :(

Before I advice you on anything, let me just say that your friend is wrong. No one ever deserves to be cheated on...period. In your situation, it seems like you just dont like you boyfriend. You are probably still with him because you either dont want to hurt him or you dont want to be alone. Which is okay. Still, if you cheat on someone, it is because you really dont want to be with that person. So break up with him, and see what else is out there. Maybe reunite with your ex?

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well i have one more year in school until i recieve my degree in biology/pre-med. I'm leaning towards being a nurse but my heart is really in a medical lab. So i guess my question would be once i do get my degree what would be my next step to becoming a nurse,or working in a medical lab?

Do what will make you happy. My aunt became a nurse, even though she wanted to be a surgeon and she regrets it all the time. Remember that whatever you choose to pursue will follow you until the day you retire and boy is that a long time!

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So, over the past months I've been second guessing my love for my Boyfriend. I've been dating him for 4 months now, but I've known him for about 2 years before we started dating. Before we started dating you could tell that there was always something more between us. And this year we finally started dating. and It's been an awesome couple of months. I never knew i could care about someone so much until I met him. But this last month, I've been thinkin about everything. Do i really love him? Is this guy the one? and i've been so depressed the past month. I'm so confused. I cry about how I don't know if I love him, then I'll cry about how I'm hurting him not being around him. then i cry about how i don't want him to leave or go. I've never been or acted like this until I met him. and its only been like this the past month. Oh and his family is AMAZING. i LOVE him family and they love me. I feel like i've been dating his family the past month, not him. and i really wanna get back to dating just Him. but when he tells me he loves me, i just wanna break down and cry. i just miss the way things use to be, just having fun with him and not worrying about Love.
Oh and i have a doctors appointment next week, because I'm crying so much and so badly. my mom thinks i have unbalanced hormones because its been so bad.

What do i do? what do u think?

HELP.

Maybe you're just tired of the guy. Like not annoyed tired, just that you may want something new. But you've known this guy for a while now and he has become more of a habit. You guys are also extremely close, which would make you feel bad about hurting the guy. Perhaps you just need to take a few hours/days and find out what YOU want. Forget about who you would or would not hurt, or what people would think of you. That is not important. I have an important philosophy. Do what will make you smile at the end of the day.

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So, long story short: I went back to my school after graduating because I wanted to pick up a couple extra classes. Theres this new young teacher there and when I first saw him there was a rush through my heart. He is soo good looking (hot!), friendly, and charming. He came from Thailand, so he has this really cute accent too. He's in his early thirties and Im 19. I don't know if I could ever date him but I wish I could get to know him even more. After talking to him a few times I told him I had already graduated. He seemed to spark up a bit after I mentioned that. There was also a school dance and he told me he wasn't much of a dancer anymore, but later we had fun dancing beside eachother for part of the night. I said: so much for 'not a dancer anymore' :p

From what I hear he is loads of fun in the classroom. I heard this from students (he teaches elementary here now) and lots of people in my community. He seems to be kind of going through a rough patch though because deciding to teach here was a quick decision and he had to find a house quick, get to know the community quick, and adjust to the position quick, you know? He is doing a great job though finding ways to survive lol. I can see he is dedicated to his teaching cause he stays at least five hours after school most nights prepping and stuff. He doesn't have many close friends just yet, so at school I bought him a candy cane when our school did a candy cane sale for Christmas. He came to me later when I was at work and asked "was it you that sent me the candy cane?" I said yes, and he said "it was greatly appreciated... really. Greatly appreciated" with a big smile. I could see that he was happy just to be thought of in this new, crazy place. He's only here for this year, same with me and I want to know if getting to know him better or asking for his e-mail would be wierd

Nah, you guys have been flirting already, so I think it will be fine. He seems very modern, doesnt seem to act old. Good luck! Ask him if he texts :P

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Do guys like girls with pierced nipples?

Depends on the guy.

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hello im a 14/f . im getting my hair done tomorrow and i want to get my hair re layered and change my bangs . i have bangs to the side but i dont have a lot and they're pretty long . i want to get more and i want to get them cut like to my eye . if i get bangs straight across , like almost below my eyes , can i like comb all of my bangs to one side so i still have bangs to the side ? ugh , what should i do ? thanks

yes you can, thats how i have my hair now. They'll just look shorter. Do it!!!

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This will be long....

So first off ive never even kissed a guy and i'm in sophmore year...some of you will think oh that's not bad but it really take a tole on you when all your friends have and all they talk about is guys and their boyfriends =(, I have the smallest boobs ( they won't be getting any bigger because of my genes) my mom was small too. ANyway those things make me very self concious.But anyway i reallly need your help trying to undetstand this guy.
So me and this guy started talking and well everything seemed to be good but i don't know if this is normal things guys do. They text you one day saying" lets hang out" and the next day they don't text you for days making you sit there and wonder if you did something wrong. I really didn't even care that much I basically was like ok whatever. but then he did it alot.like i will text him ( and the other way around) and i'll say something and he won't text me back for a loonng time. He always asks how my day is I'm just confused should i wait I mean i'm really not going anywhere aha but still is this good bad? I try to wait a while to text him back maybe like waiting for me you know? Can you give me ideas making him want me like he does to me?? thankyou

Dont worry about it! lol Im 19 and ive never kissed a boy either. You'll learn that there are more important things in life. About the boobs, omg, Victoria's Secret has this amazing bra, called the miracle bra. My friend uses it - she has barely anything - and boy does it work miracles!

Well if the kid takes a while to text back, then either he lost interest or he is losing interest. Try ignoring him. Some guys go crazy when the girl stops chasing and they come running back like little sick puppies.

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I am 12 & have fallen in love. He's all I think about. I can be doing math & find a way to incorporate him into it. One of my friends (his best friend) keeps telling me he's gay but I don't know what to believe.

At 12, I really doubt the kid is gay. Kids at that age joke around with that stuff. At 12, you arent sure about anything, so the kid prob. isnt gay. Dont ask him, it will only piss him off if its not true.

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i have been seeing this guy for a month or so..and we are very serious about our relashionship..we both love each other a lot..and the guy has proved to me time and again that he is always gonna love me..and be there for me..i think am ready to take the next step..and go all the way and have sex but the problem is the age thing comes in..i am just about to turn 16..so i dont know if i should do it right now or not?! is it the right time?! is it too early? my guy has left the decision upto me saying that he can wait until the time i dont want to do it .. HELP!!!!!

Although age does seem to matter, what really matters is whether or not you feel like you are ready. For instance, Im 19, and I have yet to find the man I would be willing to take that step with. No one can tell you whether or not you should take that step - no bf, parent, teacher or friend. It is up to you, because at the end of the day, you will do whatever it is you feel you should do. You are a smart girl, so when thinking about what you should do, take into consideration that you are 16; that most likely, eventually, you guys might break up and you have to realize whether or not you will regret whatever it is you do decide to do in the future. For example, I had a friend who dated her ex bf in high school for three years. She was going to have sex with him her senior year, and he broke up with her on the last day of school. She tells me all how happy she is that she didnt go all the way. My advice is, however, to wait a little more. You have only dated this guy for a month. My friend dated her ex for three years. Most guys end up breaking your heart (or vice versa) eventually, so wait a little longer so you can mature more and be ready. When you are ready, you will know, you wont have to ask anyone.

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i love makeing out with this one guy but i have no feelings for him. I do however have a thing with another guy and i don't see him making out anytime soon. I have had chances to kiss the first guy but i wont. how do i get rud of this urge to be with him?

Why would you want to get rid of the urge to be with this new guy that you like? Go make out with him instead. :)

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Hii guys..what do you guys think of abortion? is it good or is it bad? please let me know what you guys think. thanks

This is a very debatable subject. I am pro-choice. If you are a 19-year old girl who gets pregnant and cannot support the baby, then abortion might be a good idea. If I were to get pregnant at this point in my life, I probably would have an abortion. School is very important and having a baby at such a young age will only cause problems.

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so there's this guy and i really like him....but he dosent date because he said he wants his opptions open...?? but then he gave me a hug and wispered to me to meet tommorow after school.... he was talking bout giving me a good bye kiss since we have two weeks off....but since he dosent date do u think it's because he does this to alot of girls? and he said that yesturday to but ditched out last minute today....im confused

Yeah, this guy is a player, or at least trying to be. Dont pay any attention to him. He will only be a waste of your time, unless you are looking for something casual.

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