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Do I truly love him? what do i do?
So, over the past months I've been second guessing my love for my Boyfriend. I've been dating him for 4 months now, but I've known him for about 2 years before we started dating. Before we started dating you could tell that there was always something more between us. And this year we finally started dating. and It's been an awesome couple of months. I never knew i could care about someone so much until I met him. But this last month, I've been thinkin about everything. Do i really love him? Is this guy the one? and i've been so depressed the past month. I'm so confused. I cry about how I don't know if I love him, then I'll cry about how I'm hurting him not being around him. then i cry about how i don't want him to leave or go. I've never been or acted like this until I met him. and its only been like this the past month. Oh and his family is AMAZING. i LOVE him family and they love me. I feel like i've been dating his family the past month, not him. and i really wanna get back to dating just Him. but when he tells me he loves me, i just wanna break down and cry. i just miss the way things use to be, just having fun with him and not worrying about Love.
Oh and i have a doctors appointment next week, because I'm crying so much and so badly. my mom thinks i have unbalanced hormones because its been so bad.
What do i do? what do u think?
HELP.
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Okay well you have not been sating this guy for very long. You shouldnt straight up "love him" yet. Maybe you just need to stop for a second and breathe. Write down everything you feel and think on paper so you can visually see everything. Make charts and everything. Take a day to yourself and put a little separation between you and him. Hangout with your friends a little bit more and go out with them, and hopefully when you see him again youll be really happy to see him. Also stop going over his house for a little bit or whatever your doing to see his family. take a break from seeing them too. Hangout at your house or actually go out on a date so it can just be you two.
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First, ask Jesus to lead you. Then ask Him to open doors with your boyfriend IF it is His will and to close doors IF it is not His will.
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If you are second guessing your relationship he isnt right for you. When you think about or end a relationship your going to hurt it hurts bad but you keep your self occupied and with friends and youll be okay and eventually the feelings of hurt go away. maybe your horomones are unbalanced... now i dont know if you are having sex but your hormonos go crazy if you are pregnant. Which i am hoping your not if you are thats the reason of you crying etc.
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Hey,
Sorry for to hear that first of all.
What I advice you to do is to take sometime to go for a walk or something, alone. During the day. A place where you can clear your head and think about things peacefully. I personally dont think there's anything wrong with you, your just having doubts that's all. When you see him and start crying it means you just feel guilty. Just take sometime out to think things through! You have to realize that you DONT have to love him right now, love might come later in the relationship, there's no rule that says you MUST love him! Its only been a few month. You'll know when you're in love. You'll know inside. Take my word for it. But for now, if he makes you happy, and You KNOW he makes you happy, then stick with him. Because what you need right now is happiness, dont fret about it. It's totally normal. So do what I suggested. Remember that, you don't need to be in love right now. It'll happen later, you'll know. It takes time and patience.
Merry christmas! Enjoy this day because it's a day of joy. So forget about you're problems for today! :)
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Maybe you're just tired of the guy. Like not annoyed tired, just that you may want something new. But you've known this guy for a while now and he has become more of a habit. You guys are also extremely close, which would make you feel bad about hurting the guy. Perhaps you just need to take a few hours/days and find out what YOU want. Forget about who you would or would not hurt, or what people would think of you. That is not important. I have an important philosophy. Do what will make you smile at the end of the day.
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