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My dad could be cheating on my mom. HELP!
When I was 9, I found out that my dad watches porn. And later on, I found out that he has an email in which he has added a couple of women. I even saw a huge number of files which had the 'weird' conversations he had with those women. And I have doubts that might have had a relationship with one (or two) of his collegues as Ive seen a couple of 'inappropriate' msgs in his mobile. Ive even come across voice recordings in his mobile in which he had a conversation with another married woman.
I have tried to be as brief as possible
I dont what to do. Its been more than 7 years since Ive known about this. Im lost and I cant take it any more!
PLEASE HELP!
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Married men watch porn and it means nothing about the relationship with their partner. The e-mails are a concern but again you can't prove anything more than him talking and doing inappropriate things online.
He might not be cheating on your mother but rather hooked on the fantasy and being able to talk to anonymous people that way who are in to the same thing. It's not right of him to be doing this but unless he's cheated and you can prove it there's not much you can do.
His e-mails are private so in a way you did something wrong by reading them. What should you do? Tell him that you have known about these e-mails for 7 years now and never mentioned them to anyone. Ask for the truth and tell him that he needs to divulge this to your mother or you'll do it. Make good on it.
Make sure he knows how this has affected your ability to function normally for years and you can't keep this to yourself much longer. Sometimes secrets are pretty icky and will hurt others but you have a moral obligation to get this out into the open.
That's when healing and positive changes start happening gradually but they won't if you keep it inside. While you need to divulge what you know soon don't do it at Christmas as that would be disaster and tactless.
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