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I cheated on my boyfriend
I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer twice with my ex. Because he made me feel so insecure about our relationship. He never gave me a lot of attention, he never called me. He didn't text me very fast. My ex gave me a lot of attention and made me feel loved. And my boyfriend never gets jealous about other guys except my ex because we went out for 2 years. Also I get really jealous if my boyfriend talks to other girls or hangs out with them. My ex kept coming back to me even when I was going out with him. I keep cheating on my boyfriend with him though. Now I stopped. I feel guilty about it because I think my boyfriend has never cheated on me. I just don't trust him. Because he talks to a lot of girls and never gives me a lot of attention. All he does is buy me gifts and its always jewlery. But i feel guilty that I cheated. My best friend told me he deserved it. My boyfriend still doesnt know i cheated on him. On our anniversary last month my ex texted me. And my boyfriend responded to his text. And my ex's answer was "were more than just friends" and he got so mad. And his mom asked me if I was being unfaithful and I said no and lied. What should i do? Ive never cheated on a guy EVER. I've been cheated on before. Guys have left me for other people. How can I deal with this relationship? I need help from someone :(
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Well, like the other Advicenator had said, it doesnt seem like you like your boyfriend very much. You should take some time off from him, and take time to think about who you really like. And your boyfriend doesnt need to even know that you cheated on him, all you need to do id just break up with him. If you decide to go out with your ex later on, thats up to you. It seems like you would be happier with your ex than with your current boyfriend. Hope I could Help! (:
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Well, it doesn't sound like you are very happy with your current boyfriend right? I mean I'm sure there are tons of things you love about him and maybe that's why you don't really want to break it off. But if he isn't making you happy then you need to talk to him about it. If it just won't happen, then you might be happier with someone else.
Is there any chance that you would get back with your ex? Is that what he wants or is he just coming around so you can get with him then leave? If you guys had a good reason for breaking up then it's time to put the past in the past. Maybe there is a chance for you two or you could find someone way better. I don't know him so I don't really know what kind of guy he is.
You could always find someone else who might just happen to make you ten times happier than you were before. You will most likely be happier with a new guy than how you are with your current boyfriend. You might be happier than how you are with your ex. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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A couple things:
A burglar's home is the most secure because he assumes that other people will do what he does and steal. You cheat whenever the old boyfriend shows up (for what he knows he can get) so you assume it of your current boyfriend.
If you have concerns regarding your current relationship, you need to either talk it out or end it. I'm pretty sure that you're not going to improve it by fooling around.
You might want to keep your pants on until you make a firm decision on how to proceed.
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My lady friend and I both agree that you need to break up with him.
My personal opinion is that you're an awful human being that uses her own insecurity as an excuse for treating her boyfriend like shit. Congratulations.
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First, Your friend is not a friend. Anyone who thinks someone "deserves" to be treated poorly in a relationship is wrong.
Second, You've made it pretty clear above that your current boyfriend doesn't make you happy which makes me want to ask why are you still with him? Someone who ignores their partner obviously isn't A. Interested or B. Doesn't care enough to put in effort to make it work. The right thing to do would of been to break off the relationship.
You need to decide for yourself whether the stress of your boyfriend not paying attention to you nor committing the effort to work things out with you is worth it. Reason with yourself, What is the reason of your ex being an ex?...Do you feel you two could over come the past and begin a new future? If not, Well then maybe you should try option 3 and find someone else that is available to you and will commit because your boyfriend on the other hand obviously isn't that person. Sometimes it's hard to except the truth, Sometimes the truth hurts, but in the end the truth is what makes us stronger.
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Before I advice you on anything, let me just say that your friend is wrong. No one ever deserves to be cheated on...period. In your situation, it seems like you just dont like you boyfriend. You are probably still with him because you either dont want to hurt him or you dont want to be alone. Which is okay. Still, if you cheat on someone, it is because you really dont want to be with that person. So break up with him, and see what else is out there. Maybe reunite with your ex?
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