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should i go all the way or not?!
i have been seeing this guy for a month or so..and we are very serious about our relashionship..we both love each other a lot..and the guy has proved to me time and again that he is always gonna love me..and be there for me..i think am ready to take the next step..and go all the way and have sex but the problem is the age thing comes in..i am just about to turn 16..so i dont know if i should do it right now or not?! is it the right time?! is it too early? my guy has left the decision upto me saying that he can wait until the time i dont want to do it .. HELP!!!!!
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There is no magic number age when you're ready.
It may be now... it may be in a few months or even years.
You're ready when you're ready.
The good news is you have a guy who isn't pressuring you.
There are countless women out there who wish they waited until they were ready.
You'll know when you're ready.
you only lose your virginity once.
Make sure you do it right.
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I would definitely suggest not. It's completely understandable that you would have interest and all, but it's most important you save yourself for marriage. Think years down the road. How will this effect you in a few years? Of course you don't suspect him to leave, but what if he does? That's not to say for certain that he will, but it's never wrong to be extra cautious in these kinds of situations. If you don't want to do it, tell him. If he cannot or won't accept it, he's not right for you. I was in a relationship for a year and a half, with someone that promised me he would never leave. He gave me a promise ring and everything. He broke up with me after a year and a half despite all his promises and constant consuling. I really didn't get a reason why. I wish now that I had just been cautious when I had the chance. We never went that far, but I definitely stepped a bit out of my comfort level for him, because I suspected he'd never leave. It is truly one thing in my life that I honestly wish I never did. Along with that, all throughout the relationship at times, I had wrong feelings, like my gut was trying to tell me something wasn't right. I never listened to it. I realized now, had I listened to it, I would've saved myself a lot of pain, stress, and problems. Go with your gut. It's usually telling you the right descision to make. There are people out there who care for your purity. Don't loose yourself for any guy. I promise it'll be a regret later on.
Best wishes for you. -<3-
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Although age does seem to matter, what really matters is whether or not you feel like you are ready. For instance, Im 19, and I have yet to find the man I would be willing to take that step with. No one can tell you whether or not you should take that step - no bf, parent, teacher or friend. It is up to you, because at the end of the day, you will do whatever it is you feel you should do. You are a smart girl, so when thinking about what you should do, take into consideration that you are 16; that most likely, eventually, you guys might break up and you have to realize whether or not you will regret whatever it is you do decide to do in the future. For example, I had a friend who dated her ex bf in high school for three years. She was going to have sex with him her senior year, and he broke up with her on the last day of school. She tells me all how happy she is that she didnt go all the way. My advice is, however, to wait a little more. You have only dated this guy for a month. My friend dated her ex for three years. Most guys end up breaking your heart (or vice versa) eventually, so wait a little longer so you can mature more and be ready. When you are ready, you will know, you wont have to ask anyone.
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Absolutly not, i would wait. the reason i say this is because i have seen too many people have sex early and have an accidental baby, and it ruins their lives. trust me u dont want that. then again, if you really LOVE him, the decision is yours, just be safe. but being 16, i dont think you quite know what true love is. hope this helps.
molly
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If you are having doubts about it, you should wait. I think being 16 is young to have sex. I mean, yeah, a lot of people our age are having sex but it's not really the smartest thing to do. If something goes wrong, you could get pregnant or have some kind of disease. Nobody our age wants to have a kid unless they're crazy and don't know what they're talking about. My ex boyfriend and I, who I thought was going to be my forever and we were so serious about each other almost had sex. I feel so stupid about it now. We never did it but we were close to it and did other things instead because I told him I didn't want something to go wrong. Well, turns out he really couldn't control himself and almost raped me. He didn't mean it but I mean, who does that? I'm not saying that will happen to you but things happen right? Anything can happen. Just some things to think about..
But I don't think it is the right time to have sex. Your guy is a good guy saying he'll wait. You guys have been together for a couple months. Even though it may be serious, it's way too soon. I was with my boyfriend for 10 months and it still felt too soon. I was 15 during that time though, turning 16 like a month later.
Well right now, I completely regret ever doing anything with him. I feel so sick about it lol. Just don't put yourself in a position you might regret later. Good luck!
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I can not stress this enough, wait!! Im 17 not much older than you and so Ive seen girls deal with this problem and in some sense have dealt with it myself.
You are not doing him any favors at all and he is not going to respect you more nor will things be more romantic. You may just want to cuddle or cry on his shoulder and he will just be wanting sex, and not be doing this on purpose.
Also you have been dating for only a single month if youre going to be with him forever then whats a few more months, years?
Nd this is going to be mean but you dont know if its forever . I thought i found my soul mate and we are not together. Or i have 3 friends, one of which was with her guy for 4 years, tht became pregnant at 16 nd you kno what? The fathers are all gone
respect your body because if you dont then who is?
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I would say that if you're in doubt about it - feeling more than just the usual nervousness - wait a little longer. Not necessarily a LOT longer, but give it a few months at least, maybe more like half a year. In the meantime, you guys can have sexual fun without going "all the way" - i.e. penetrative intercourse. Not that that's necessarily such a big deal, but you've obviously built it up in your head to such an extent that it's really scary right now. So relax! You can touch each other, use your mouths on each other and so forth, and maybe a little later you won't feel so freaked out about it.
However, there is of course one thing that IS scary about intercourse - the risk of an unwanted pregnancy! If you plan on having that kind of sex eventually, make sure to get straight on your birth control situation. Talk to your mom or doctor if you can to get on the pill, or at the very least use a condom at a time when you're less likely to be ovulating.
Good luck and have fun!
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My honest opinion would be to wait a bit longer if you are feeling this conflicted. You'll know when the time is right for you and your bf to enter into a sexual relationship. But, please be prepared for that time by seeking birth control beforehand. I can't stress how important this is. Since you two are so close to being ready to have sex you want to have some form of birth control ready as well. Personally, I had sex the first time at a very early age and I can truly say I was not prepared emotionally. While your body and its raging hormones may be pushing you forward, your head may need a little more time. Ultimately, it will have to be your decision when making this important step in life. And, remember, it is a very important decision because once your virginity is gone, it's gone for good. I hope this help somewhat!
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