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A few days ago I had a dream that my mom died.
And now i'm really scared, because I have a feeling something really bad is going to happen. But it's just a dream, right? I honestly don't know why i'm so scared, but I am.
What do dreams of death mean? (link)
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Aw, I always have dreams that my sister dies. It's really weird. But, I've dreamed dreams like that several times, and she's perfectly fine. Don't worry. Sometimes dreams are really random. As far as the bad feeling you have, it was probably just triggered by the dream. It's okay to feel scared, though. Hope this helps!
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What type of method do they use to remove black dots on the teeth like, ultrasonic scaling or bleaching......or? I want to be a dentist when I grow up and also, I have these black dots on my teeth that I really want to get rid of right now~! I use to wear braces, that's why I grow them. I got rid of them 1 and a half years ago and now it came back again~! (link)
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Normally if they are black dots, they are a "sticky place" in which catches the metal instrument they use to clean your teeth. These places have the potential to be cavities, so they will drill and fill them. However, at the thought of the drill, don't fret. I just had this done to a couple of my teeth, and I'm a very pain intolerant person. It wasn't bad. Plus, if the places on your teeth go really deep, they may numb you. It all depends. If they aren't that deep, they will simply drill. Good luck with your future career choice! (:
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My boyfriend has started asking me if I want to be fingered. I don't know what to do. I told him I don't know. But he keeps asking me this for a while now. I'm just afraid that he might while we're at school. Advice needed A.S.A.P!!! (link)
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Honestly, if you have the least bit of uncertainty, wait. Waiting will not hurt you in any way. I suggest definitely not at school. You could easily get caught, and the embarassment you'd have to face would be terrible.
Listen to your heart and how you feel about the situation. If he's a good boyfriend, he will be understanding, and not pressure you into anything, without your consent. Just always remember never to lose yourself for a guy.
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First of all, let me say thank you for taking the time to respond. I may be a mess, but I am still able to appreciate someone trying to help me. You said all the right things, but unfortunately this goes deeper. I was shocked to hear that you are only a teen, and want to commend you on giving back to others on this site. Because you ARE a teen, I would like to pose a few additional questions for you and maybe you can help me understand some things. Though I am very much suicidal, I am also searching for a better way, I just haven't found one yet. Not to be crass, but I am planning things so that things can be in order for my children when I am gone. This is not something I am doing tomorrow. It may take awhile to get all my ducks in order. As I am writing this, I wonder if it is actually wrong of me to even come to you for advice, as you ARE just a young person and probably have enough going on. So, if you don't want to answer this, I will not fault you and will understand. Unfortunately, this only has a 2000 word max, so I might have to have "parts" to my response. Please bear with me.
*Thank you for saying I am "wonderful", but I really am not. I do have some good qualities, but my ability to ruin everything and everyone I come into contact with, far exceeds that which is good in me. For example, I am a liar. I have lied my entire life. I don't lie about "big" things, but about stupid, insignificant things that really don't seem to matter. I have spent several years trying to stop, through counseling, prayer, etc. and no matter how hard I try or what I do, it doesn't. I begged God to help me by letting me pause prior to speaking so I could catch myself before I spewed some unnecessary lie out. It hasn't worked. Here's the problem. A lie is a lie, and it may seem dumb or insignificant at the time, but that venom that spews from me has its way of coming back many years down the road. I don't care if it hurts me, but it spawns out and hurts others in some way, indirectly, and they do not even know it. In fact, no one except the counselor I saw, God, and now you even knows this. If I were to actually tell my children now, about something that began as a tiny lie many years ago and has since became a reality, it would crush them. They would hate me, and rightly so. Yet, not telling them is wrong, too. So even though God can forgive me for the sin, it is still hurting people. I didn't intend for that to happen when I originally said the lie. I couldn't fathom it would end up like this. But I can't take it back, and I can't make it go away. This is not only going to affect my daughters, but many people. It's also not the only lie. I am sure your natural inclination is to think I am lying about this, as well, and I don't blame you. But, I am actually being more honest than I have ever been. See, that's the part about admitting you lied, or are a liar. Once you acknowledge this, no one believes anything you say from that point forward. Can you blame them? Not really. So, I would like to be more specific with you, but lets start here. If you cannot believe me, then I will not seek further advice from you because I don't want to waste your time. If you think you can help, then I will gladly lay it all out there. I am seeking your specific advice because you are a teen, and I want to know what/how my daughters may respond. Again, if you want to run from this whole situation because it's too much, please do so. Even easier here is my email onlyXception-1 and it's at yahoo. If you want to make up some fake address (I would want my teens to do that for safety purposes if some random person was seeking their advice, too) and contact me so I can not be stuck putting this out there for all of the world to see, great. If anyone reads this and wants to help, reach me there. I don't want to die, I just want to stop hurting people, and since I can't stop, this seems like the best solution, long term. (link)
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From this point on, I will communicate with you via the information you gave me. (:
Stay strong.
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I am not a good person. I have made many poor choices and no matter how hard I try, I cannot seem to stop screwing up. I know suicide is selfish, but I just don't want to hurt anyone else. I know that by committing suicide I will hurt many people, especially my daughters, but if I stick around I will hurt them more over the years. I have tried everything and nothing has worked. I know I will go to hell, and I am prepared because I deserve it. I tried to get God to stop me or help me or save me, but He hasn't. He just lets me continue to hurt those I love. I have researched, and thought this through for a very long time, tried to get every help I could. Am I missing something? I don't think there is any other way out. No matter what I do, I will hurt my loved ones. This seems to be my only option, but before I go and do it, I thought I would just ask. Maybe in the depths of this pain, I have missed another choice. Maybe not. (link)
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First off, let me just start this by saying..you are wonderful. I know I don't know you, but just the fact you would even think that you aren't good enough, and the fact you want to be a better person shows how much care you actually have for others. Since you did say that you've talked to God, I'll go ahead and say that he has everything all planned out for you. Sometimes it's really hard to understand, or even think could be true, but, it is. He will never give you anything you cannot handle. I have been going through a hard time myself lately..and I've come to find that being the best I can possibly be for other people makes me so happy. My advice to you is, don't give up. Committing suicide would hurt your daughters who must love you terribly, so much. They need their mom. My mom is close to the same age you are. She's lost a husband to a death, and had to raise two children on her own, and she doesn't even have a job. I know if she ever decided to commit suicide, it would be so devastating. You are still young. Don't give everything you have away. If you must, take a vacation alone to clear your head. Or if you need to be surrounded by people, surround yourself with friends or family who love you. Suicide will not help those that you truly care for. I'm telling you, if you go out of your way to be extra nice to people, or to do helpful things for people, it will help! Please just don't kill yourself. God made every person beautiful, and every person with a purpose. I seriously doubt you are a dissapointment to your daughters. If they are teenagers, they are just confused and don't mean what they say. I'm a teen, and I know I say really hateful things to my family when I'm mad at them at the spur of the moment, but honestly, they are things I never mean, and I always end up feeling bad about them, and I know I need my family. Your daughters need you. If you killed yourself, they'd be devastated. Instead, you can be the shining light, not only to them, but to everyone you come in contact with. It is then that you will truly feel happy. It's very much worth the effort. I promise you. Don't give up.
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i have been seeing this guy for a month or so..and we are very serious about our relashionship..we both love each other a lot..and the guy has proved to me time and again that he is always gonna love me..and be there for me..i think am ready to take the next step..and go all the way and have sex but the problem is the age thing comes in..i am just about to turn 16..so i dont know if i should do it right now or not?! is it the right time?! is it too early? my guy has left the decision upto me saying that he can wait until the time i dont want to do it .. HELP!!!!! (link)
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I would definitely suggest not. It's completely understandable that you would have interest and all, but it's most important you save yourself for marriage. Think years down the road. How will this effect you in a few years? Of course you don't suspect him to leave, but what if he does? That's not to say for certain that he will, but it's never wrong to be extra cautious in these kinds of situations. If you don't want to do it, tell him. If he cannot or won't accept it, he's not right for you. I was in a relationship for a year and a half, with someone that promised me he would never leave. He gave me a promise ring and everything. He broke up with me after a year and a half despite all his promises and constant consuling. I really didn't get a reason why. I wish now that I had just been cautious when I had the chance. We never went that far, but I definitely stepped a bit out of my comfort level for him, because I suspected he'd never leave. It is truly one thing in my life that I honestly wish I never did. Along with that, all throughout the relationship at times, I had wrong feelings, like my gut was trying to tell me something wasn't right. I never listened to it. I realized now, had I listened to it, I would've saved myself a lot of pain, stress, and problems. Go with your gut. It's usually telling you the right descision to make. There are people out there who care for your purity. Don't loose yourself for any guy. I promise it'll be a regret later on.
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I don't think I've ever felt love before.. of any kind. I mean I like my family but I feel towards them what I would feel towards a stranger or looking at a wall. Sure, I tell them I love them occasionally but I guess everyone just says that. I don't really have the best relationship with my family but not the absolute worst. That's probably because I don't like to spend a lot of time at home. I'm usually at a friends or when I am home I sit in my room away from the rest of them. And that's okay because it keeps me away from the bitching they do. Just is it normal to not really feel anything special? Is it like a mental thing? Or do you sincerely feel something? Maybe I'm jut thinking about it to much or expecting to much.. I dunno.
I don't think I've ever felt a lot of emotion before and I am just lately realizing it. I'm young, I know.
Also, just another little side question for fun.
Don't you think the worth of "love" kind of decreased like everyone literally tells everyone "I love you" whether they mean it or not. Makes it not as special, yanno? (link)
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Honestly, I've been going through the same exact thing. I have a similar problem with my family, and I feel at times like love is just a word people throw around. There are, of course, different types of love. Obviously you won't love your family like you'll love your husband. At your age and all, it's understandable that you don't know what loving a husband is like yet. However, with your family, it's important you understand they do love you. A big part of why you feel the way you do is hormones and such, being a teen. You're just starting to figure everything out, and sometimes it's very easy to over or under look things. Family life in general, with the generations, just seems to get worse and worse. But, I don't think love is what is the problem. I think it's just so much confusion, hurt, pain, and hard feelings in the world. Love is there, but it's easily overshadowed by bad things. I would suggest spending more time with your family, or talking to a close friend about how you feel. Find ways you can enjoy your time, and the happier you get with your situation, the more you'll see the good, and the love people have for you.
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