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My boyfriend wants to finger me
My boyfriend has started asking me if I want to be fingered. I don't know what to do. I told him I don't know. But he keeps asking me this for a while now. I'm just afraid that he might while we're at school. Advice needed A.S.A.P!!!
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look if you dont want to do him just tell him thats gross to do at school. dont be scared to tell him that you dont want to do and if he leaves you for that honey their are hundreds of men around this world that will be with you : ]
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if your boyfriend is steady sweating you about getting fingered "no homo" just tell him like i feel unconfortable discussing that and maybe he a understand and yall can figure something else out from there!
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If you're not comfortable with the idea then tell him. You don't need to feel bad about it. If you want him to do it then make sure he knows you want it to happen in a comfortable place when you're alone, not at school.
If he gets angry or annoyed then get rid of him.
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Well, if your a Female and your a Virgin, just tell him your not ready and asking me as much as he may be asking, you feel pressured and if he cares for you, then he'll understand... if your not a virgin, then being fingered won't hurt you in any way and if you feel like you want to try it, then give him a time and place and let him know that you want to try, but your afraid and if he cares, he'll understand and wait till you really feel ready, but if your not into that, then just tell him your not into that, (its not a really big deal), its not like being a virgin and having intercourse, like I said if you are a virgin, let him know your not ready.... Same kinda goes for gay guys, its a little different, but not by much.....
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If you need to ask on here what to do, then you aren't ready, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that
It doesn't matter how many times he asks, if you don't know then don't do it. You'll know when you're ready to take the next step, so don't rush into anything.
He keeps asking because you're giving him an inconclusive answer, so he thinks that sooner or later you're going to say yes. If you think that you aren't ready, which is the vibe I'm getting from your question, then you need to tell him no. Explain that you just aren't comfortable enough or ready yet for that. He should understand, and if he doesn't then it's a good thing you didn't take that next step with him.
There's nothing wrong with be afraid, unsure, or just not feeling ready for anything sexual yet, so don't be afraid to say no.
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Honestly, if you have the least bit of uncertainty, wait. Waiting will not hurt you in any way. I suggest definitely not at school. You could easily get caught, and the embarassment you'd have to face would be terrible.
Listen to your heart and how you feel about the situation. If he's a good boyfriend, he will be understanding, and not pressure you into anything, without your consent. Just always remember never to lose yourself for a guy.
Best wishes for you. -<3-
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