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Hi Im a girl new to this site. I am in my junior year of highschool. My goal is to give you advice that is realistic but I also want to give hope. sometimes others can see things clearly than you can yourself which is why its easy for me to give advice. Ask me about whatever you want and Ill try my best to answer.
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hi :( you gave really really really good advice and the more i cry to him and tell him i love him the more he just doesnt want me :'( and i honestly cant stop crying because it used to be the other way around like he used to cry for me and beg me and im not used to this at all. like he just said his love went down for me just bcause i fight with him so much and he doesnt have enrgy to fight anymore and it hurts me because even if he faught we me alittle, atleast i would know he cared :'( and im just venting to you because i need to do it to someone and noone really cares lol its just hat he was my bestfriend and my everything like i love him so much and i just want him to be ALL MINE and noone elses like im used to.. but girls text him and stuff so it makes me had doubt in my mind and i fight with him then ruin everything! please help me with what i should doooo. thank you so muchhh
hi, i know exactly where youre coming from. No one ever wants to talk about because they feel akward, or are sick of hearing or they really dont understand that it truly is hurtful.
So my first advice is to not go crying to him. Boys never know what to do when a girl cries. It scares them. Instead you should tell him that you still want to be his friend and next time you need advice on something ( that doesnt include him or other guys) go to him guys like to be the savior. Then while bieng friends make sure you talk to him in person no matter how akward and try your best to keep things under control. Remember he was sick of the drama so avoid it.
My other advice is to find a way to be happy without him. This may be the end of things for you two and im sorry to say that but its true. Without him you are going to be okay, and there will be other guys.
On the surface, I have the perfect life- and in some aspects I believe that. I am a 20 year old female. I have grown up in the most loving family. I am close with my parents and we have never really fought. There wasn't anything for us to really fight about- they were reasonable and I would listen to them. I never felt the need to rebel (although my brother did). I was a very stereotypical girl (very girly, love to shop and go to the beach). Financially my family is very secure and money is thankfully something that we don't need to worry about. I am in the best sorority at my school and I have lots of friends. However, I often feel alone. Boys don't seem to like me, and as a result I am often upset, but i don't vocalize that I'm upset- ever. In fact, I am known as the most happy-go-lucky girl ever. People literally talk about how I am never upset and I put positive spins on everything. However I am just like that on the surface. I am not saying that I want people to know that I am upset- I don't. I only want this feeling to go away. I don't want to be obsessed with getting guy's attention- but I am. However I am not forward at all so that never happens. I just don't really know what to do anymore.
Start bieng honest. Let some of your friends know that lately youve been feeling down. Let your closer friends know why odds are they can probably even find a boy for you to talk to. You sound like a really great girl any guy would be lucky to have you and remember that. Also it doesnt matter if you have the perfect life or not at some point or another your going to be insecure, youre going to feel lonely, and your going to be upset. No one is happy all the time. Happiness all the time brings stress, and doesnt allow you to learn, but keep to your optimism still.
I have a 2.7 GPA (junior) because I've been having terrible procrastination all through out high school. It took its peak this year.. and I'm still in a mess and trying to sort of things. I've started to see a therapist about it but I just feel very defeated because high school has totally sucked, like last year was the worst year of my life. And it's my fault. And I wanted to go to the University of Chicago but I don't even know if its possible anymore. I mostly had 80s-100s my freshman and sophomore years, but this year I've been doing very bad
. I've been struggling and handing in work late.. due to my stupid perfectionism. and then i feel defeated and procrastinate. and then the cycle keeps repeating and then i just get more and more overwhelmed. and I'm trying to get done a lot but I dont even know if the teachers can accept things from last marking period.. but its so bad that I won't even get credit for English and Math for the first semester if I dont. Ugh, is there any way to get out of this mess?
I have no friends or anyone to confide in.. which is why I had to beg my mom to see a therapist, but its only once a week. I've only seen her once but I'm optimistic, I think. I used to not be this way at all but I've just been on this downward spiral.. and I want to get out of it but i dont know how or if anyone beyond my parents even care. and then i feel bad for expecting people to care but then most everyone else has some friends to talk to. its very hard being a new kid in school, too.. ugh im just tired of feeling sorry for myself and everything. i want a good future but i'm just afraid. like right now im procrastinating.. and everyday i want to do work but i dont know why cant just do it like 95% of the time!!
i dont want to get medicine from the therapist or anything.. i think i just have a huge time management problem. its nothing new, but as the course load increases every year i guess its just become very apparent. i want to fix this problem before getting to college, if i can even go to a good college. im intelligent when i apply myself and everything, and get high grades that way, but i feel hypocritical to show that im smart with all the poor grades i've gotten this year. should i even try to do my make up work from last semester? and is Uchicago pretty much out of the picture, regardless? what about UT Austin?
I feel like kicking myself, cause I know I can achieve much higher.. and then I feel jealous of the other kids who can get into harvard and everything.. its possible, but how did they do it? its so hard to resist the temptations of the internet especially. especially with not having any real close friends really.. the internet has just grown into this huge compulsion. its even harder cause a lot of homework requires the internet. and lately i've just been feeling like crap and excluding myself from everyone.. and its hard cause im actually really social. but i never really feel close to anyone. and nobody seems to care that im going through such turmoil. my parents underestimate it and even when we talk about it.. i still think they dont really get it.
ugh sorry for this babble but i dont know if you can help or anything. like i'll be exteremely grateful if you can, i'm just like the worst state ive ever been in. a teacher said ive become like a totally different person from last year, and i am.. like when i moved to this town i immediately got top marks, like mid to high 90s in everything. but this year, my junior year, its just extremely embarassing. and its all my fault and everything.. but how in the world could i get good recommendations and etc?
im so scared and ive just screwed myself over. can i even get out of this??? i feel like i've let everyone down, especially myself. How much can my GPA even go up before i graduate? i know i can just go to a community college and transfer.. but something about that just seems a bit sad.. i wish i could just go to uchicago first. i spend so much time just daydreaming about the way things could be in the past and things in the future without really doing the work to get the future i want. so many regrets. many times i have thought of freezing time, to get extra time to work on homework. so many times its embarassing, though I know it can't happen. or going back in time. i always feel like i dont have a lot of time.
idk why its so hard for me to see that things change little by little, even when i know in my head its true, my heart just doesnt believe it and i dont know how.
sorry this is just ridiculously long but this is just my life this year. idk anyone else to tell this to honestly. and i really dont want it to get worse, because that has been the trend this entire year.
First of all things are going to be okay. It may not seem like it now but things will get better. Second never give up. Your gpa can raise but youll have to give it your all and then you definately have a shot at cu and if you dont make it into there, theres plenty of other schools that you will. Who knows maybe youll find one that you like better. As for the time management i suggest you write out a schedule for yourself each night or give yourself a checklist to do before getting online. Last i suggest you get a littler more involved with your school. Keeping busy helps you to feel happier accomplished and allows you to make new friends.
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I don't know why I feel guilty towards my dad today. Today is his birthday and I yelled at him, because I bought him this blu-ray DVD he's been wanting to play in his blu-ray DVD player. When he got it, he told me he didn't want it anymore and to go return it. I was angry, so I just yelled. I know it was wrong of me, I felt guilty afterwards because he came into my room and gave me green grapes, which is what I said what I wanted for my birthday, which was 3 days after his. I gave him some of my red velvet cupcake. He's not angry anymore, but I still feel really guilty. Maybe also because when I'm 18 years old, my mom and him are divorcing because so none of them would have to pay for child support, but not just that. My dad wouldn't be receiving anymore government money to take care of me. The social security is going to start putting money in my bank directly, so my dad is leaving the house after my parents divorce. I feel terrible, literally. I don't know what to do.
Help??
You had every right to be mad. You worked hard to find the perfect gift and he was completely unappreciative of that. Youre also under alot of stress which is why you probably tweaked. So cut yourself a break, and also remember your parents divorce is not your problem. Its not up to you to fix nor will what you do change it. Just let your dad know that whatever happens your still his daughter and that you will always help him. The rest is in gods hands not yours so give yourself some slack.
Hey, so I've liked this girl for a few weeks now and I thought she liked me too. I don't think I really act gay at all, but today she asked me if I was gay. I told her no and she said that it was ok to be gay. Like I know for a fact I'm not gay, but she apparently thought I was. Maybe she thought this because I'm a little shy around girls, but I really don't know. Btw I'm a freshman in high school. What should I do?
Well if you tell her that you like her she will definitely know that your not gay however this may scare her away. Another thing to do is open up to her. Tell her that its upsetting when people call you gay because you know for sure that you are not. Tell her that you are more sensitive and shy than othegaygays
alittle backround info..
we went out for a year and a half, in the begginning of the relationship he was obbsessed with me and now he doesnt wanna be with me anymore were both 16 and we dont see eachother alot because im not allowed to date so its hard to hangout with him.
problem: we broke up a month ago and he says we fight too much and he doesnt have energy for it anymore and it hurts me so much because i just want things to go back to how they were and i dont want him to talk to anyone and im really deppresed becuase i feel like he doesnt care :'( what do i do?!
First of all you dated for a year and a half and just broke up a month ago he obviously still cares about you. However it may not be how you are hoping and you are going to have to accept that . Second know that he was not your life. Without him you are still beautiful and you are still loved. Third is to keep busy. Staying busy allows you time to keep your mind off of the break up. break ups are extremely hard to do deal with and few people take them serious enough. If you ever need someone to talk to i am here
okay so the boy i like knows i like him and he had a girlfriend and they just broke up well he broke up with her because she cheated on him. And i dont know if i should like talk to him more or something because i can tell he is still hurt because when he told me i could see the hurt in his eyes but i think this is the perfect chance to get him and i am just confused on what i should do any ideas???
Definitely go after him but be modest. Flirt just enough to let him know you could be more than friends one day but remember its the boys job to chase the girl. Also he just got out of a messy relationship so give him time and he should come around . Good luck
i have a friends who i love very much. shes one of my favorite people and my life has changed so much for the better since ive known her. i just found out that she is moving schools, i honeslty dont know what im going to do with out her. like i miss her on the weekends if i dont see her. i really dont think im gunna be ok and im terrified. what do i do?
its always tough when a friend moves away although you are going to be okay even if your going to miss her. I suggest the two of you to start hanging out with someome besides eachother so that when she moves youll have someone to be friends thqt also is somewhat like your friend. I also suggest you make plans to skype, buy friendship bracelets or something to help keep you guys from growing apart
whats some fun things to do in the house when grounded?
Well since its the holiday season you could bake christmas cookies, or watch a holiday video. You could also snuggle down with a good book, or write one yourself. Making a collage by printing off pictures online, and cutting out magazine pictures and then adding quotes is another option.
Think of your hobbies and do it. For example if you like music find a new band. Just find something you love and thats what will work for you
well i have this friend and we always argue but we always fix it by the end of the day all are friends say we should just get together i tell him to stay away but he wont he always just replys i love You and well you see he got suspended from school because he fought and some told him i was talking bad about him so he ignored me and he would ask all the people around me if i was talking bad around me and that got me mad because i never talked bad about him so to days passed and i got sick of people asking y was i talking bad so i called him and yelled at him to stop and he said sorry because he was miss informed so he texted me the rest of the day and some of the next day and then at like 2 in the morning and again at 9 whay confused me was that hes one of those if you talk bad about him he wont let it go but just with one call everything was fixed thats what i dont get ??'
Odds are he sees you as a friend, but likes you more than a friend. Since he likes you thats why he would of been more likely to believe what the others say, but he knows that truth is you would never, which is why he was so quick to believe you. Also guys usually are not too much of texters so if it seems to be all the time then thats a sighn.
i have been seeing this guy for a month or so..and we are very serious about our relashionship..we both love each other a lot..and the guy has proved to me time and again that he is always gonna love me..and be there for me..i think am ready to take the next step..and go all the way and have sex but the problem is the age thing comes in..i am just about to turn 16..so i dont know if i should do it right now or not?! is it the right time?! is it too early? my guy has left the decision upto me saying that he can wait until the time i dont want to do it .. HELP!!!!!
I can not stress this enough, wait!! Im 17 not much older than you and so Ive seen girls deal with this problem and in some sense have dealt with it myself.
You are not doing him any favors at all and he is not going to respect you more nor will things be more romantic. You may just want to cuddle or cry on his shoulder and he will just be wanting sex, and not be doing this on purpose.
Also you have been dating for only a single month if youre going to be with him forever then whats a few more months, years?
Nd this is going to be mean but you dont know if its forever . I thought i found my soul mate and we are not together. Or i have 3 friends, one of which was with her guy for 4 years, tht became pregnant at 16 nd you kno what? The fathers are all gone
respect your body because if you dont then who is?
Hey! I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. Okay well the thing, I have this thing where I get really uncomfortable with people man handling me... Haha I'm around 5'5 and I wiegh a little over a hundred pounds (106?) so I'm not big and I'm not strong. See I wasnt exactly raped but oneof my ex boyfriends did force me to give him a hj and held ne down and fingered me against my will. He also hit me a few times.. Only my closest friends know about this. Its just made me really paranoid when a guy grabs me... I'm scared (irrationally,probably) that they'll do something to me even if it's one of my friends and were out in public.. My immediate response is I just shut down. I basically try to make myself as small as possible and shut my eyes and then it gets hard to breathe. I just don't know what to do. And I have one guy friend thar does this a lot and it really freaks me out, just the smallest thing like holding me back from getting shotgun... I don't wanna tell ppl what happened to me but they'll get suspicious of me being so uncomfortable with such a small thing... What's wrong with ne and what do I do??
First of all nothing is wrong with you. What ahppened to you was wrong and its not your fualt. You shouldnt let it ruin your life though. You may not want to but it may be best to tell your parents, and as for that kid explain to him either what happened or that it scares you when someone unexpectedly touches you and give space so its not easy for him to expectedly
Ok, so my boyfriend's birthday is in the middle of January, and I know some of you might be thinking this is way too early to be thinking of a present for him, but I don't want to have to worry about it a week before hand :b and plus, I kind of pride myself in giving awesome gifts. It's just something I'm good at and I love the feeling I get when someone loves a present I give them :) so some things I've done are: the '100 things I like about him in a box' thing, I've drawn him pictures of us, baked sweets for him, taken him out to a fancy resteraunt, and for Christmas this year I filled a stocking with a lot of stuff that he loves. Of course, he's loved all of these things and he even said that I don't have to get him anything for his birthday since I got him an entire stocking for Christmas, but I really want to make him something. I can't do a scrapbook because I'm saving that idea for when we have enough pictures to actually fill one haha. I've been going to craft stores for inspiration and I picked up a little glass jar and I was thinking I could fill it with something and paint something on the outside with glass paint. But what should I fill it with?? I was thinking maybe hershey's kisses, but I thought that felt a little more appropriate for valentine's day...anyways, any ideas would be great :) He's 17, I'm 16 and we've been going out a little over a year...he's kind of nerdy, like really into videogames and stuff but I don't know anything about videogames so I wouldn't know what to get him :b thanks for your help!!
maybe you can get him an ingraved guittar for rockband or when of those games or an ingraved hand controller
or after the new year passes fill the jar with something tiny like beads or sand for each time u thought of him or maybe a nickel for each time he said i love you
In every school there is always an odd one out.
In this case its a girl. I've felt sorry for her.
I try to be her friend but she's impossible! She's rude,Selfish, and controlling. My newest friend has had problems with her. So I've given up all hope. Should I still try to be friends with her or should I not be her friend?
thats a hard situation the first thing i suggest is to help her get a few friends for herself.
The second is to ask urself this: r u actually friends with her?The answer to tht is ur answer. If yes thn remain her friend if not thn...
Do you like this girl or do you talk to her becuase you feel bad for her? Everyone wants a friend but no one wants a pity friend.