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On the surface, I have the perfect life...
On the surface, I have the perfect life- and in some aspects I believe that. I am a 20 year old female. I have grown up in the most loving family. I am close with my parents and we have never really fought. There wasn't anything for us to really fight about- they were reasonable and I would listen to them. I never felt the need to rebel (although my brother did). I was a very stereotypical girl (very girly, love to shop and go to the beach). Financially my family is very secure and money is thankfully something that we don't need to worry about. I am in the best sorority at my school and I have lots of friends. However, I often feel alone. Boys don't seem to like me, and as a result I am often upset, but i don't vocalize that I'm upset- ever. In fact, I am known as the most happy-go-lucky girl ever. People literally talk about how I am never upset and I put positive spins on everything. However I am just like that on the surface. I am not saying that I want people to know that I am upset- I don't. I only want this feeling to go away. I don't want to be obsessed with getting guy's attention- but I am. However I am not forward at all so that never happens. I just don't really know what to do anymore.
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Start bieng honest. Let some of your friends know that lately youve been feeling down. Let your closer friends know why odds are they can probably even find a boy for you to talk to. You sound like a really great girl any guy would be lucky to have you and remember that. Also it doesnt matter if you have the perfect life or not at some point or another your going to be insecure, youre going to feel lonely, and your going to be upset. No one is happy all the time. Happiness all the time brings stress, and doesnt allow you to learn, but keep to your optimism still.
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It's all in the way you present yourself. There's this quote that I love living by:
"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
Maybe part of the reason is because you're allowing the fact that you feel upset to envelope you and tell you that you're upset. Being upset is a mental issue, most of the time. The extent that you let yourself get upset is ultimately up to you.
For the boys section, it's also a state of the mind. I recently got out of a serious relationship in which I told myself most of the time that I needed this guy to live and to be happy. Obviously that wasn't the truth. It was also a lingering thought in my head because all my closest friends were taken and the one friend that was not always complained about how she wanted to be in a relationship so badly. I began to think to myself that men were not beings of necessity in my life. Men didn't define my happiness and only I did, all men did were add to my happiness, but they would never amount to the happiness that I already had within me.
As for getting boys' attention, in being well-off, I believe guys like to see a stable girl. In my past, being friendly always got me the attention of boys because they're more drawn to girls who are able to hold conversations and are approachable. Some guys like the whole chase that comes with getting a girl to like them. You've got to learn how to play the game and be intriguing. Someone once told me that it's more about what people don't see than what they do.
I hope I helped. Good luck!
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