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This girl I like thinks I'm gay.
Hey, so I've liked this girl for a few weeks now and I thought she liked me too. I don't think I really act gay at all, but today she asked me if I was gay. I told her no and she said that it was ok to be gay. Like I know for a fact I'm not gay, but she apparently thought I was. Maybe she thought this because I'm a little shy around girls, but I really don't know. Btw I'm a freshman in high school. What should I do?
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Well if you tell her that you like her she will definitely know that your not gay however this may scare her away. Another thing to do is open up to her. Tell her that its upsetting when people call you gay because you know for sure that you are not. Tell her that you are more sensitive and shy than othegaygays
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I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I hope the wisdom of my age might be able to help you.
There is no real answer to your question as to how to prove your not gay. For some reason people both young and old seem to like to put labels on just about everyone and everything. I'm not sure why this is so; it certainly can't be because they are so orderly in a world that is so disorderly.
About the only way to find out just who a person really is, is to get to know that person. To do this you have to spend time with each other. Someone has stuck a label on you for whatever reason. The more you try to ignore the label the harder it will be disprove.
What I would suggest is to fight to overcome your shyness and ask this girl you like if you can hang out together and get to know one another. Mall dating is a great way to get to know someone without a lot of pressure on you. You get to talk to each other, find out what each others likes and dislikes are. You can hold hands and even kiss without the pressure of heavy petting that there might be in say a movie date.
Once you are more comfortable with being with her and less shy you can move on to other types of dating.
When I was in High school I was very shy around almost everyone, boys and girls. So much so you will never expect what I ended up doing, very successfully I might add, as a career.
After a stint in the Air Force and after completing College I started a career in Sales. I spent over 30 years having to talk to total strangers; day in and day out. I'm living proof that you can overcome shyness; in fact as a sales manger I looked for introverted types to hire for I knew they would work harder to overcome that problem and therefore be better sales people.
If you want girls to come to you, you are going to have to work to over come your shyness. Part of this is to show respect to the girls you want to get to know so that they want to get to know you. Boys your age are not really disrespectful they are just single minded. All girls like to be treated with respect and not just lust satisfying sex objects. Treat girls right and you will soon have your pick of the girls you want at school. The trick is to look past their outer-self and get to know the real person.
Now you are really going to think I'm nuts with the following advice. If you have an older sister ask her to help you with practicing polite and respectful ways to approach girls. If you do not have an older sister ask mom if you can practice with her. Yes, ask mom; mom was once a teenage girl and probable not all that long ago. Your mom loves you and I am sure would only be to happy to help you practice to overcome your shyness.
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