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Highschool relationships
My boyfriend and I met in 8th grade and we're both going to be seniors in high school last night. We never worked out in 8th or 9th grade, we were always on and off. We never offically dated but we are now. We started going out June 6th. He means everything to me. He takes words very seriously. Last night he came over and he saw on my phone that a guy cause love u and i said it back. He took it so seriously and broke up with me. I don't know what to do. He ended up forgiving me but then today he told me I broke his heart. I'm even looking at colleges in philly because that's where he wants to go to school. Upenn. Idk what to do anymore. Im 16 but i believe in forever and i believe in highschool love. He's never hurt me. I just want to make it last. he's everything to me. How can you hurt someone you love so much
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Looking to follow him to college is a bad idea. If he ended the relationship, leave it at that. If you tried your best to get him back, then MOVE ON. You're talking about going to Philly where he is going to college also. That means you're trying to alter your life around one person and that's a bad idea. If he still wanted you, he would've have came back to you realizing that the text message was just a misunderstanding. Bottom line is, go to a college that will best suit you and your needs. Don't go to Philly just because your ex is going there. College is a new beginning for you guys. You have to embrace that fact and leave the past in the past. I know you believe in forever, but did you ever stop to think that maybe HE ISN'T YOUR FOREVER GUY?
Hopefully you learn to forgive yourself and move on.
~Andrew~
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Alright. Well first off, why the heck did you say "I love you" to someone? Is that dude a best friend, family, something important? If not, then reserve your I love you's to people who deserve it. If this guy is as good as you say, why all the drama? Why all the off and on again. When you break up, it's for good. If you want something to be forever, you have to understand it, take very good care of it, dedicate time to it and love it. You can't just break up over misunderstandings and arguments, you'll break up everyday then. Everyone's different, everyone has opinions and it's nice to talk to someone who, although doesn't have you're same beliefs or opinions, respects what you have to say. Try not to be the on and off girl, it causes stress and a lot of issues that you don't truly need. Make sure to put yourself in his shoes, that way you'll understand a little better what he wants and what you can do to achieve his and your happiness. Best of luck!{:
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He has jealous problem and you both have broken up several times before, This is already giving your relationship a rocky start.
Not to burst your bubble but there is never such thing as forever. Love is something we chance, Heartbreaks are something we risk and trust is something we are supposed to give and take. The word "Forever" is nothing but a fantasy, It's unreal.
Now I'm probably going to tell you what you don't want to hear but I'm being honest with you.
When people break up, It breaks the bond more and more. The trust becomes broken and it's very hard to get back because once trust is broken it's almost never the same again. Reality, You probably won't work out with him. Not only are you both young but breaking up so many times tells me you have no stability in your relationship and the road you take already has patched up potholes. Seeking a College because it is where he is going is not a smart choice, A College should be picked out based on what meets your educational needs not because a certain person decides to go there. Choosing the College he attends could only end up costing you unhappiness in the long run because the choice wasn't about you it was about him. Continuing to go back and forth is not going to prove nothing nor will it fix anything. It's like trying to start a car when the starter is broken. It's just not going to start not matter how hard you turn the ignition. It's a dead cause and you are both wasting your time.
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I'm just wondering why you said I love you to another boy? He might be confused as to why you said that, because he felt that you loved him instead. You should sit down and talk about how you feel about your boyfriend and apologize for what happened. Just a side note though, you're only in high school and there's a whole life out there ahead of you and so many people that you're going to meet. If you guys are meant to be, it'll happen. Don't force it. Sometimes people hurt one another accidentally without meaning to, but you just have to grow from them. There's a saying that I believe is so true. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. No matter what happens with this boy, you'll take something out of it and he'll always be close to your heart. I had an ex who I cared about more than anything. In the end, it didn't last but he helped show me how to love. Communication is the best thing in this situation.
I hope the best for you!
xx
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