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Love: Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work?
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If you really think you have feelings for a person it could. I'm going through something like that right now with a guy and it is kinda rough because it does also seem awkward when we try to hang out or talk. But I feel if you try to talk to him, like bring up something that interests you both, maybe something could happen it the future. It all depends on the guy and how you both feel about each other.
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I think the way you carry yourself in the beginning has a big impact on how the relationship will end up. If you start off as sex or friends with benefits then there may be a bit of a hump to overcome before actually falling in love with that person. When someone has sex without being in love then after so many times of sexual encounters it almost becomes like a habit. That habit is having sex without intimacy. I am not saying it's not possible but definitely does not come without a challenge. In order to fall in love with a relationship that started as sex, You must bring yourself to love that person and put the sex on the second burner.
A relationship is best if you get to know a person first.
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How you fall in love with someone is always different than how someone else falls in love with someone.
Having sex with someone is a very intimate act even when it does not involve a great deal of love. Through this intimate act love can flourish. I have heard of people who have been f*ck buddies that have fallen in love. Why? Well I believe that in order to be that intimate on that type of basis a friendship of sorts must exist.
Friendship first is the best way to form a relationship. From relationships love grows, long lasting love. The why of this is the superficial is set aside and we get to know the real person, the person below the exterior and we fall in love with the person mot the gift wrapping.
So my answer is a unqualified yes. My wife and I met, had really not much in common, had sex on the third date. We were married 41 years ago today.
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A relationship like this is completely unpredictable because you could be feeling a connection and he could think that it was just sex. That's why you don't just have flings and one night stands. You have to meet on that emotinal level first, then you worry about the physical. When you worry about the physical part of the relationship, it tends to mislead us. But it's never to late to go back to step one. You to should go out on a date and see if you're compatible on an emotional level. Get to know him as a person and get a feel for his personality. And on your "first date", DON'T HAVE SEX! Have him drive you home and walk you up to your door. You had sex with him already which is why making him wait is so important so that way you know if he truly is a gentleman or if he just has one thing on his mind.
I hope you find what you're looking for.
~Andrew~
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You should try talking to them or hinting that you have feelings for them. If you're too nervous to take that step, try suggesting that you go out and do something, like go out to eat or to a movie, as friends. Then, you could get to actually know one another outside of the bedroom and you might be able to start a relationship if his feelings are the same.
Hope this helps!
xx
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There's always a chance, if you really love each other. But to be honest, those kinds of relationships rarely work out, even in the movies, and movies are practically an alternate reality where anything is possible. Still, don't give up. Like I said, anything's possible with love, even with odds like yours.
Hope this helped:)
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