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So, I am 14. And I'm 5ft. 4in. And I weight 103lbs..
I run cross country and run track (distance)
I push myself as hard as I can and my motivation is weight loss,
here in the past year, I have been running obsessively hoping to lose weight, I have skipped lunch and breakfast for weeks and weeks and shrunk my appetite, I have even taken some of my mom's dieting pills ... I refuse to eat even if I'm hungry.
I haven't noticed a difference in my appearance, but my weight has gone up.
Is it cause I'm building muscle by running?
Is what I'm doing to my body unhealthy - what're the effects ?
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Oh my lord if I were 5'4" and 103 I would be SO happyT~T
Okay, what you're doing right now is NOT healthy in any way. Starvation diets slow you down a lot, believe me, and that's especially bad in your case from all the running you do in track and cross country. You shouldn't ever skip meals, as that can actually contribute to weight GAIN (I'm not sure why, but I know from experience that this is in fact true. If you want to eat healthy (and lose weight, which really isn't necessary for you, but whatever), you should eat a large (but not overeating or anything) breakfast, a medium lunch, and a light dinner, as this will give you enough energy last through the day. The weight you've gained is probably muscle weight, which is actually heavier than fat, and i can sympathize. My measurements are the same as my friend but Im all muscle so I weigh twenty pounds more than her. And in truth, the only time weight is more important than appearance is in ballet companies, but that's for obvious reasons: guys having to lift the girls OVER THEIR HEADS and the like. It's not really about the weight for the rest of us Average Joe's. I run, too, but that's for conditioning for my other sports, and after a point it really makes you gain weight, but it also slims your appearance, so keep it up. If you go to a BMI calculator, you'll see that you're actually UNDERWEIGHT, so don't freak out over weight loss anymore, because I'm fairly certain you don't have any fat to lose. Drink lots of water, but in all honesty, drinking the reccomended 8 glasses per day is just NOT POSSIBLE for most people: I work for five or six, and I never get dehydrated. Overdrinking (water, I mean) can make you gain water weight, and it can also make you sick. And don't take your mom's diet pills! Diet pills are designed for people who are eating a normal, balanced diet and still want to lose weight, by heightening their digestive process so all the food will get digested to fast to gain fat. It's really bad to eat those while also skipping meals and running. Trust me on this. You're fine how you are!
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im going into 7th grade this year, and in 2 days i will be going to all girls sleepaway camp for a week. it is grades 7-12, so i'll be the youngest going.
how can i:
-make friends really fast (there is a 5 hour bus ride)
-fit in with the older girls?
-be fun and liked while still being myself?
thanks, and please respond asap as im leaving on sun. morning (link)
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I've been to tons of camps in my lifetime, and in my experience, it's always really easy to make friends. All the first timers are really nervous to fit in, and all the older girls are really nice to the younger ones. You could bring a group game you can still play on the bus, like trivia, and make sure to sit by other people, not just by yourself. DON'T bring a book—that'll tempt you to just sit back and read—and sit on the aisle seat so you can talk to people. To be honest, you don't need to change yourself to fit in with the older girls—theyre usually very accepting, and I know I'm willing to be friends with younger girls. Just don't act like they're the only ones there—there'll be plenty of people to make friends with that are your own age, and it's more likely you'll have stuff in common with them. As for being yourself and still making friends, all you have to do is be outgoing, make jokes, laugh, and share your snacks (which are a great idea to bring, BTW, potato chips are a good idea).
Have fun!
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um hi, im new here, so hello every1! well im in a bit of a mess as iv started post traumatic stress disorder therapy just recently as i witnessed my elderly dad beaten to death + i cudnt stop it. im 33 with 2 children. i have been with a guy for just over 15 months. hes almost 38 with no kids and lives with his mum. he keeps saying he lives with me but he leaves everyday to go c his mum, she is well and only 61. im also bipolar and told him frm the start that life can b a little difficult with me. i was honest frm day 1. he told me im his miss rite etc, but he takes his stuff at least once a wk. i told him that if he left again +took all his stuff there wud b no coming back. well i had therapy yesday+ was in a bad way + this morning he packed his stuff+ sed he loves me but he cant do this anymore. im in a mess+ dont kno wat 2 do. do i ignore him + not contact him? pls giv me sum advice. thank you x
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I think it's best to put some distance between you two for a while, at least a week, but no longer than a month. Both of you just need to chill out for a bit. It's not a good idea to be in a not-so-steady relationship after all that stuff with your dad, so maybe you should just start over as friends. It's great that you were so honest with him, so I'm sure he's just feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything that's been going on. Like you said, he said he loves you, so just give him some space so he'll calm down. If you blame yourself for the accident with your dad (and who wouldn't, really?) and talk about it all the time, it may be bothering him. I'm sure no one blames you but yourself, and to tell the truth, I don't think very many people would have been able to stop it, and certainly not me. So dont worry. I'm sure he still loves you and that he just needs some space for a while. Give it to him, and then take it slow and see where it takes you.
Good luck!
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hi u jsut answered my question .. but i woudl also like to mention that ... he only asked meh that question because we were talking bout long distance relationship... if it ll work or not ..n to that i said it is difficult but not impossible n he is like ya it ll work .. i just dont understand .. he is moody sometimes n then sometimes he is vry caring ... but that question he asked meh .. if we ll be freinds after breakup if long dist rela doesnt work out.. just pinched meh ... n i dont rll know how to deal with it. I though i should just go with the flow .. .. the thought of breaking up with him is vry difficult for meh .. cause .. we have been through soo much .. n i ll luv him .. n i slept with him .. which makes it even more difficult for meh to break up! now wat should i do? (link)
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Don't worry about this so much! If he wants assurance that you'll still be friends even if you break up, that means that he really loves you a lot and doesn't want to be separated from you, even if you aren't TOGETHER together. Believe it or not, that's a good sign, because at this point he probably thinks YOU'RE getting tired of your relationship, so he's worried YOU'LL break up with him, and he doesn't want to lose you, and even if you aren't a couple, he still wants to be near you. You just have to assure him that you DO love him, and I don't mean through words or sex. Do something special for him—I don't know him so don't know what he'd like exactly, maybe a date to his favorite restaurant or something—to show that you care, and he won't feel as unsure of your feelings. (also tell him how you feel, but not in a really sappy way, because if I were a guy I wouldn't exactly like that)
Good luck!
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HI pls help meh out .. i have a bf n we have been dating for bout 9 months ..at the beginning he used to talk bout all .. how we should have kids n we should marry ... n then .. after we had sex .. not saying only after sex .. but for a month .. its been weird ... everytime i talk bout that he is like .. we ll c .. dont know ... dont think too much .. n then i was like so ur not planning to marry meh n he said i ll be bored to death if we talk bout this .. so i cant talk bout anything i like ... since we r going to uni in bout a month in completely different country .. do u think i should break up with him or should i try to continue it with him? i cry sometimes .. cause wat he says just hurts meh sometimes .. n i m a vry emotional girl .. so m worried .. does he wnts to continue .. n yesterday he asked meh ... if we break uo will we still be freinds .. n all i said was maybe .. so? wat shall i do? (link)
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I'm really sorry to say this, but I'm almost positive he wants to break up with you. Judging from what he asked you about still being friends if you break up, he wants you to be the one to end it.
If you're having doubts about whether he really cares about you and wants a future with you, then, if you don't want to end it, you should talk to him. Maybe you shouldn't go out of the country with him, if you're so uncertain.
But to get straight to the point, I don't think any girl should have to deal with a boyfriend who makes her cry from him saying mean things. Loving someone shouldn't be about stuff like that.
Since he asked you if you'll still be friends, that means that he really does like you as a person, but maybe not as a girlfriend anymore. If you do break up, don't give up on him! Still be his friend (even if that's a degradation of your pride) and maybe someday you'll get back together again. Or, who knows, maybe you'll meet someone even better who won't ever make you cry.
Good luck!
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my left boob is a little bigger and noticeable to some people who know me very well. i really hate it. i just noticed it when i was close to getting my period. could it be hormones. please help? By the way i am 14 and have only had my period for a few months. (link)
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Relax! It's totally normal to have uneven boobs, especially when you're so young. In fact, the only reason half the celebrities whose boobs AREN'T uneven is that they have had plasitc sugery. I'm fourteen, too, and mine aren't the same size, either, so I can sympathize. There's not really much you can do about it, unless you get a specialty bra made, and that can be really expensive, and you'd probably have to go and get measured for it. I just live with mine--buying a bra that's got more padding in it makes it seem more even, but I try to avoid demi-bras because they don't work as well. I would say, "Just wear looser shirts," but I don't like loose shirts very much, so I'm assuming you don't either. By the way, if it just gets worse when you get older, you could always go to a plastic surgeon, but that's REALLY pricey, and you have to be old enough that you're sure they're not growing anymore.
Hope this helped!
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Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work? (link)
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There's always a chance, if you really love each other. But to be honest, those kinds of relationships rarely work out, even in the movies, and movies are practically an alternate reality where anything is possible. Still, don't give up. Like I said, anything's possible with love, even with odds like yours.
Hope this helped:)
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well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.
well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?
+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'( (link)
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(LOL ur the same person from earlier i think)
Just take it slow with him. Tell him the truth in every situation (unless he asks you something obviously untrue, like, "Is my mom pretty")(not that I would know, but that's just not the point) and you'll eventually gain his trust again. You sound like you really do like him, and I know for certain those feelings aren't lies. From what you said before, it sounds like he really likes you still. He's just confused and hurt that you've lied to him. Talk it over, and I mean in person--not even FaceTime will cut it, as soon as possible and explain things to him. Don't expect things to go back immediately to the way they were--that's utterly impossible and improbable--but be patient, and maybe they'll turn out even better than before. Just make sure you're always on the same page--don't forget to mention anything important, although I know how easy it is to forget something you want to not remember. Cheer up. If you love each other, you'll pull through. If you don't, well, he didn't deserve you anyway.
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I need a really good waterproof (drugstore) mascara. I don't have a whole lot of money to be buying a bunch so I've been going off reviews, but that hasn't helped all that much. My main concern is staying power, as most mascaras and eyeliners tend to smudge on me throughout the day, even those that I've tried that are "waterproof" (though to be fair I've only tried 3). Of course, as far as mascaras go, I also don't want something clumpy, messy, or too dry. Any suggestions? (link)
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I hear you for sure. For mascaras, waterproof variety removal is really harsh on your lashes and you'll end up with a lot LESS lashes than you started with.
So, what's the solution?
Find a favorite NORMAL mascara that you really like--I like Illegal Length and Revlon--and put that on first. You may be saying "What the heck is this crazy 14-year-old talking about? She doesn't know a danged thing!" but just trust me on this.
After you've got that on, you'll need waterproof mascara. Finding this can be kind of tricky--I usually go with guess, test, and revise--but to cut to the chase, I've seen some really good results from Covergirl and Falsies. Layer it ON TOP of the normal mascara after it's dried, and not too thickly, or it will clump. This eliminates the issue with removal and also adds volume and resilience.
From my experience, waterproof eyeliner is just as good as regular, and pretty consistent throughout all the brands I've tried, so I can't think of one specifically.
If all else fails, pick up some blotting tissues and soak up the oil that's accumulated around your eyes when you use the restroom throughout the day. Keep some waterproof mascara with you to reapply, and DON'T TOUCH YOUR EYES!!!!
NOT ONLY will this smudge your eye makeup and tear your eyelashes, it will ALSO cause collagen deterioration around the eye area, especially if you tug on your skin. If you don't know what that means, think about the bags under your grandma's eyes on you. Then see if you want to touch your eyes again.
Hope I could be of help!
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Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me. (link)
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Don't even think about it!
I haven't ever been in a situation where I've wanted to kill myself, but I HAVE wanted to change my life. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and not be such a push-over through gradeschool, but that ain't happening, not to the best of my knowledge, at least. I've cried myself to sleep over bullying, or heartbreak, or because I felt like my parents or aunts didn't love me as much as my sisters, more than I'd like to admit.
But let me just tell you something: no matter what, the sun WILL rise tomorrow, no matter what, and life will go on. It won't leave you behind, even if it feels that way. Challenge yourself to be an optimist. It works, really. Like instead of saying, "I haven't had a good job yet," say, "I know that perfect job is totally waiting to find me." Instead of saying, "I've tried ten times to get in to college," say, "I WILL get in this year, because I've tried ten times and by God's Holy Name, I'm not giving up until I've gotten in at least thirty!"
As for not having friends, I've met someone who sounds a lot like you. She was a grade younger than me and she had the same sort of attitude. She was always talking (and I'm not saying you do this, but if you do, please stop) about how awful her life was before she transferred, and how she was only being nice to them and why didn't they like her. She had herself completely convinced that everyone else was to blame but her, and that everyone should suck up to her (again, I don't know about you, but if this sounds familiar...), and that made her come across as arrogant, as if her friends should worship the ground she walks on because they should by so GRATEFUL to have her. When she got placed in a different track and field even than she wanted, she totally went ballistic, talking about how it was the ONLY reason she did track, and how she was really looking forward to it, so why did the teacher put her on hold until the next meet.
If you ARE doing anything like that, lighten up. People tend to like cheerful people, as a general rule. I know I prefer to hang out with people that aren't only nice, but they're happy-acting, too. I don't expect all my friends to be happy all the time, because that's just not how it works. I get depressed sometimes, and I really depend on my friends in those situations. Also, take the initiative! I made my best friend at summer camp--she was the bunk across from mine and she was homesick and everyone thought she was weird (me too, actually, at first). If I hadn't been there for her that day, I would have been all alone in all the hard times I've gone through, and even in the short fourteen years of my life, I don't know if I could have beared it.
Your siblings? Honestly, you have it easy if they straight-out hate you. I won't bore you with details, but I'm the oldest daughter and I'm always taking the blame for things my sisters do. They get away with so much more than me, and it's really annoying, and it makes me feel like my parents love them more, and it nags me even though I tell myself it isn't true. Don't act helpless around them. You're 23. You're an adult. I believe in you.
Just so you know, I have a grand total of three contacts with activity over the past month, and one of them's my ballet teacher rescheduling a lesson two weeks ago, and I'm content. Make a friend, start small, and be the best friend you possibly can be for that person. When God wants you to meet that person, you will. Just have faith in it.
If you finally made it to the end of this extremely long answer, as an afternote I will add that no matter what you try, suicide WILL hurt. Literally all failed suicide attempts cases admit they regretted it within the first forty-five seconds. Think about your parents--what would they do if you died? I live by the policy that everything happens for a reason, so maybe this is just a stepping stone, a test, and once you pass it, you'll be even better than you were before.
Don't give up! I'm counting on you!
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When a got a sew in weave for the first time, it was really itchy all of the time, especially when I went to sleep and wrapped it. I put oil and stuff in my hair all the ime. I even washed it, but it was still itchy and dry. I finally couldn't take it, so I took the weave out and my hair was really dry and I noticed my hair was shorter. Why was my hair shorter? How can I make my hair grow? (link)
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I'm not sure about why your hair was shorter, but to make your hair grow, just take biotin supplements. (Don't worry, they're neither dangerous or illegal--my mom is a doctor and I got some from her on my hairdresser's reccomendation.) I'm white, so I don't have to get weaves, but when I braid small sections of my hair (for instance, my bangs), the hair always ends up looking rough and dry when it comes out, and I can only imagine what it would be like if the braids were left in for that long. You can use keratin treatment (Suave has a kit for about $15) to smooth it out. It really works--reduced the time it takes to straighten my hair by half.
Hope this helps!!
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Ahh sorry for forgetting the link the first time I asked. =/
Anyway! This girl I follow on Tumblr posted a video with a song in the background that I really like, what is it?
I tried asking her myself but she hasn't answered me. It looks like she hasn't been online for a few weeks. Thanks!
http://like-ships-inthe-night.tumblr.com/post/24650810925/pointless-video-with-green-hair-lalala (link)
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I don't recognize it, but I'm not one for music anyway. If you can get a line or two of the lyrics, just type it in on google. I've done that before... It works because the search engine picks up the content of the webpages and not just the title. Good luck!
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I had a small hole in the middle of behind my two front teeth last night any idea what it could b (link)
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Well, it's probably a cavity, but you never know. I have a similar indent in one of my molars. The dentist said it was just the way my teeth grew, so it might be that way for you, too. But I'd definitely get it checked out, because cavities can get worse over time.
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Ok, so someday I want to go to a boarding school for highschool. (I am in 7th grade) I want to suggest this to my parents, but I am afraid they will say no and not wnt to pay for it. I live in Fresno county and I want to go to a nice boarding school that has uniforms and dorms. Please give suggestions for me for boarding schools too. but anyway, how should I tell my parents what I want to do? this is really important to me. (link)
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I totally catch your drift here. I actually want to be a foreign exchange student in HS, so I've had to do my fair share of convincing, and my parents are STILL somewhat against it. But unlike me, you will actually be able to go home every weekend. Good for you for figuring this out so early, though. Boarding schools are expensive--my parents wanted to send me (way back in once upon a time) and the cheapest one was $23000. Yeah, with three (3) zeros. And that's per YEAR. Remind them that you have two whole years to save up, and that being in a boarding school would potentially get you into a much better college. I'm not joking about that either. If it's an all-girls/boys school, angle from the whole "safe study environment" with "no pressure to be perfect." (Although to tell the truth, girls' schools are breeding grounds for drama and boys' schools tend to have communal showers.) Get this out there as soon as you can so they can save up! That's really important! This is a huge decision, and you should approach it like an adult. (don't be afraid to whine, if neccessary, but don't overdo it) They'll be more likely to agree if you can show your maturity in this situation.
As for recommendations, I have NO IDEA WHATSOEVER. Just look up "boarding schools near Fresno county" or something. Also you can look for reviews and get quite a few results. Christian boarding schools are pretty common, and they're probably more safe, so I'd start with that (unless you're an atheist).
Good luck!
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Hello im 18, female. well me and my ex boyfriend dated for around 1 year, and we had a break like 2 weeks ago, then we got back. but he finished it with me :(
Basically i always tell my boyfriend everything, and on saturday night he found out something about me from when i was 14, (sexual) and well i didnt tell him, he got really put off and told me that im a liar, he said that he dont trust me.
Yet i tried to explain myself and nothing, he said that it 'grim' being with a liar :( how without any trust we wont work. But honestly theres just certain things i cant always tell people.
I love him, im his first love our break up has been so hard when he said 'were finished' :'( i dont know whether he regrets it or not. But it hurts like hell, i have no idea if we'll ever get back, i have lied to him before , but i always fight for this rs to make it right, i know i committed a mistake but il do anything to make it right.
we aint spoken since he ended it... do u think it hurts him that he ended it? like i know he loves me, everything was going so amazing when we got back :'(
i miss him, please tell me what i can do?
thankyouu
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OF COURSE IT HURTS HIM!!!
Didn't you just tell me, and I quote, "I know he loves me, everything was going so amazing"?!?!
I broke up with my BF, I felt basically no attachment to him, and my heart still felt like it was breaking. So I pretty much know he's feeling bad.
As they say in zen movies, "The answer is within." Girl, you already have this figured out. Just tell him what you told me just now, and I'm more than certain he'll understand.
One more thing, and this is REALLY IMPORTANT!!!
I don't know what he found out about your past, but WHATEVER YOU DO, don't you DARE say ANYTHING along the lines of "I thought it wasn't important," or, "I was trying to forget about it," or, "I really have changed!" or, "I just looove you soooo much and I didn't want to looooose you!" (depending on the situation, sorry to be harsh, but I had to make a point there)
THIS WILL ONLY MAKE HIM MAD.
Instead I suggest TELLING TRUTH, THE WHOLE TRUTH, AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH, because in the end, that's all that stands. If it made you embarrassed and you didn't want him to hate you, TELL HIM. Tell him what happened, why it happened, and why you didn't tell him, and he'll understand. Don't be worried. He loves you, remember.
(Be quick about it, too. Boys won't stick around forever, no matter what they say in Trashy Romance Novels.)
(THIS PART IS AFTER YOU ASKED ANOTHER ? EARLIER)
You really need to think about this. Do you WANT to get back with him? Do you miss him? Or, and I sometimes find this helpful, look at it from another point of view--would life go on without him as my boyfriend? Would I be okay without him? You have to take all things into consideration with this. But if you do end up together, don't lie to him again! Being in a relationship with someone means trusting that person with everything, and the reason he's being cold to you is probably because he doesn't know whether he can trust you or not. Gaining his trust again will definitely be hard, I won't try to sugarcoat it, but you can do it! Just be yourself, and tell him anything you'd want him to tell you.
Hope this works!
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My neighbor is dating my ex-boyfriend.I dated this guy for a really long time. He even stalked me for awhile, and hes only dating her too upset me. I don't care what he does anymore, Ive moved on, but it kills me to see her get used. Ive told her everything but shes 15 and wont listen. My ex however, is 19. I'm not comfortable seeing the two of them together.
My question is, how can her to realize he's only using her?
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YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE HER!
If you just go to the boy and tell him straight out, "Break up with her," he'll just be encouraged to like you more! But whatever you do, don't say something like, "He's using you because he wants to make me jealous," because in real life, people get ticked off about that stuff (been there, done that).
MAKE her listen, for Chrissake!
And, in all honesty, even if she doesn't listen, you should still be there for her all the way (but don't be creepy...).
And if you still want her as a friend when this is over, don't you DARE tell her "I told you so."
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