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Hi I am the teen helper. I stumbled on this website while on google it really caught my eye so I read on and though this is just what I really need ( but not exactly what I was looking for on google). I have been told I'm really good at giving advice to my friends and I always wanted to make a difference. I am mostly focusing on teens because not only are teens going though a lot of crazy stuff at the time and just really need someone to ask or talk about problems but I am a teen myself.
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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants.
No it\'s not pathetic. It\'s a normal first relationship but you two need to talk more about feelings and encourage him to do the same. I know, guys don\'t like doing that but with a little encouragement it will be easy. And just start the conversation and try to keep it going don\'t worry bout being annoying or saying the wrong thing. If you continue to talk you should understand what will annoy him and how to talk to him with out going over the line. And just ask him if he wanted to ask you out or if he wants to be with you. Don\'t waste your time playing relationship chicken
Do you have any suggestion for a birthday gift that ALL men like? I don't know him that well, but I want to give him something he will really remember. :)
Well for all men is kinda tricky because guys come in all different personalities but if you want to get him something you could do a guys necklace charm. One homemade idea is to take a nut bolt (the donut looking ones) and tie it in the middle of a leather string or tie. If you don\'t like that idea try getting more into, if he likes sports get him a ball cap. If he likes video games get him some little accessory thing that he can use while playing.
I am a 20 year old female. As the title sums it up, I really can't stop lying. I make up stories about almost anything and about the silliest things. sometimes I don't realize that I'm lying but now that I do I see how much it is affecting important aspects of my life. My relationship with my boyfriend is being jeopardized by this, and recently my lies have been catching up to me. I don't want to be this person, any advice on how to stop?
Just try telling the truth. Come clean and what ever your lieing about will just get. Try always telling the truth it will be hard but the more you do it the easier it gets and if you have to keep a secret just avoid answering it by saying its not my place to say. Just apologize and make up for it
k so i met this girl this year in 7th grade and she became my bestfriend and and she became so popular! were going onto 8th now and im always jealous of her , feel like she has a better life than me. the boys are always after her and it pisses me off sometimes. her picture on facebook gets atleast 60 likes all the time, she always gets attention, posts pictures saying im ugly ew and yet she admits shes pretty ! i just dont know . ugh im jealous, i know that im pretty too but when i compare myself to her i feel like shit. but her sister died last year so i cant argue with her that her lifes better.
This perfectly normal just tell her she will understand. You might be surprised what she might say. You may just be out of place with the poplularity, I felt this way once but I realized that these weren't my type of people. I meet some new people and you would be surprised how many more I had in a week. Doesn't mean you aren't popular. Your friend will understand just tell her talk about she may help you out or make you feel better not good idea to keep it in. Hope this helps a little
I'm 13/F and well, there's this guy I really like and he likes me back (13/M). He asked me out 4 times already and I said no to all of them. I mean, he didn't sound desperate, in fact he wasn't desperate at all. When he aked me out the 4th time I told him the real reason rather than saying, "because I'm done dating." I told him I couldn't because I didn't want to get in trouble with my family. The catch is, is that he understands, but says "I love you, I miss you," all those gushy things. I say it back to him of course, but it feels weird saying it back because of what my family would think, like they'd think I'm breaking the promise. I don't know how to say it to my mom without me probably getting in trouble. Will I get in trouble? Can anbody help me? please?
I have been in the same situation as you. Your parents probably don't want you dating till your a highschooler or 16 because there is no real way to see each other a lot and to them it's not real an they are just don't want you to be upset over a boy at 13.
Now, I can tell this guy you like is a good guys since you asked 4 times and understands why you can't go out right now. That is a good thing and it may help if you tell your mom.
If you want to tell your mom you need to get her alone somewhere to talk. Try to get her in a good mood and it may help even more if you can do it right after you made her really proud. Then you need to explain to her the situation. Tell how much it would mean to you if she did let you date him. Explain to how understanding and respectful he has been that may give you a boost if she's iffy about this.
Good luck
Hi, I'm 14/f and my mom & I disagree on which is the best way to dry my hair.
I've been getting relaxers every 3 months for about 6 years now and my hair looks much, much better than it did when I was 8 years old. I've never skipped a relaxer treatment, & I never stopped doing them, and now my hair is straight and much more manageable as it drys.
I have very kinky (meaning tight, tiny curls that are more like tiny crimps) Dominican hair and it makes my hair poof at the roots as it grows between treatments and whenever I wash it, my mom insists on doing my rollers for me since it's better than just blow drying it, which I agree with. But sometimes I wash my hair without her drying it for me & I don't do anything to it but wash it, comb it very gently out of the shower when it's damp & let it air dry. She tells me that when I do that, the relaxer's effect will wear off. Yet when I Google it, everyone says that air drying is the healthiest thing. The lady that does my hair tells me the same thing that my mom tells me, but I think it's just because she wants us to pay extra for when she trims my split ends (and blow drying makes my split ends way worse). Then I realized that all of the ladies who were asking those questions on Google most likely don't understand or have my hair type.
So what do you think? Which is better in my case: drying with any kind of heat, or air drying & only combing?
Thanks to everyone in advance!
Your right, letting your hair air dry is the best thing for your hair and it also helps if you comb it a few times while drying. Blow drying it will make it frizzy and dry a lot of the time. The kinks are from letting it dry on your shoulders. Nothing wrong with your hair, it's completely normal. Not need to fret
which is the tablet to end my life so easily
Before you do or say anything more think. Think about your dreams it maybe tough but you need to keep going. killing yourself won't do anything but put giving up your dream forever. Think about your family and the people out there that would cry everyday for you. Each life is special. Think how hard it would be for people to lose you. You may not feel like anyone out there cares about you but there are no matter what. You don't need pills. You need to keep your head up, think, and get out there. Make a difference. Sit down with someone having a bad day. Volunteer somewhere. Talk to people here their story. Listen to someone. Enjoy life. Do something that makes you happy. Happy you can do it and happy that you did do it. There are little things to enjoy. Don't end your life because right know could be a beginning of a new you. Don't do it and you be happy you did.
Why when you love someone so much and you and this person have been through just about everything together do they just expect for you to just give up so easy bc they did? How do you give up on the one person you love most?
I know how you feel. It's hard but the best way is to find something that amazes and helps you so much that you completely forget about it like books, movies, parties, or maybe a friend or someone that you always forget about things. I know it's hard but you need to try something. Caring is the hard part but make yourself self distant from them
well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.
well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?
+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'(
Keep your head high. When he calms down try to talk to him face to face (It will mean way more). If he loves you he probably so confused right now about you. He probably is upset but yet he misses you and wants to undo it. Try not to talk about it at the wrong time it may go the wrong way. If he loves you he will try to understand and take some of the blame. You also have to understand how that may have hurt him and take it into consideration it will help the conversation when you talk. If he does try to make it work he is either still upset or even more confused. Don't wait to long or he will get a set idea that it wasn't meant to be. But if it's the way you say it is he will try cause he loves you and all the great memories of the time he spent with you are there with him and wants to go back to the way it was. If He is not at all forgiving about it after that then he be in love with you because unlike him you tried to make it work cause you care and you love him.
So, 13/f and I met this dude. 16/m and I haven't really met him offiicially or seen the guy. I just try to imagine him. Lets just say his name is Mike. When I think about his REAL name the thing that comes to mind is blonde hair blue eyes and let the rest fall in place. Well, we talked over the power of the internet and he sounds really nice and harmless. I don't know who he really is or what he looks like we met by chance on this really cool website and happened to hit him up about it. I think I like him, he sounds pretty harmless to me, but that's just the internet, he might be some homeboy trying to get a life. Who knows he might even a 50 perverted year old dude who is lonely and stupid. So, how do I get to bring up the subject of what we look like in a convo while chatting?? Is 3 years older than me way out of my league?? I mean, IDK if he's in a relationship wit someone, but I want to get some ideas. Can you guys give me some please?? Thanks so much.
First things first you are 13 and meeting someone on the web is really pointless because you have a whole field of guys out there you could meet. It maybe accident that you meet but it really shouldn't mean much because people can say things easier when it's not to your face.
Second he is three years older, trust me not good idea. I hate say that I been there but I have bad idea at this age. I was like you and was just considering then I started thinking clearly. It was really stupid of me at the time. I understand it's alluring but the more you think about it the weirder it will seem. Important thing i learned from it. Trust me bad idea.
Third and final: huge safety reason there. Like I said before it is so much easier to say stuff when your not looking at the persons face this could be very dangerous if ends up not being the person he claims to be don't take the chance.
Listen to everyone else who are commenting they are right
Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me.
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! It's not worth it everyone has bumps in the road but they make you a stronger better person for it. You work harder to improve your life. You have dreams like for college don't throught it all away you can make it through. Study to pass the test. Find people that you really like I use to think I didn't have friends but I was looking for the wrong people maybe you are to. Don't do it your family loves you there are people out there who care about you. Look up see the silver lining it may not be as bad as it seems please don't do it. Please speak to someone don't just desided to kill yourself. You are a person a creation of god and it may not seem like he is there helping but he wants you to be strong because he is using you in a plan to make a better world this may sound corny but it's true. DON'T DO IT!!!!!
My parents are worried about me but i don't care bcoz i suffered a lot when i conveyed my love life with my lover to them. they dont even cared to listen to me.
Iam having 10-12 large of whisky daily to get sleep
I had tried even with call girls to get satisfied but it doesn't work. to forget my love life.
Holla13 is completely right your life just don't end because of the girl. You have your life in front of you and the more you get wasted, your life gets wasted. Get your mind off her or try to understand what happen but in the end you want to feel good about what you are doing. Don't do anything you will regret you really need to understand it will give you an ease of mind. Drinking could cause a lot of trouble for you both your health and later on in life. If you have a record of drinking at all you lose any scholarships and a chance to be on the A+ program and these days you really need things like that. I know you are hurting but you are gonna be hurting much worst after its all though.
ok, i like this boy but i get way to nervous around him. i start sweating, stuttering, and i cant stop staring at him. i really dont know what to do and i cant avoid him because he comes over my house sometimes. someone please help me?
Don't worry picture him just a friend and when he talks to you act normal when you talk to him. if it is to hard to look at him while talking then try to look off just a little bit not much or else he will get the wrong impression. If you want him to like you then give little hints that you do like him but don't make it odvious or it may give the wrong impression. Then when you start talking more and open up to each other tell him how you feel about him.