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:'( this is breaking me apart
well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.
well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?
+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'(
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Keep your head high. When he calms down try to talk to him face to face (It will mean way more). If he loves you he probably so confused right now about you. He probably is upset but yet he misses you and wants to undo it. Try not to talk about it at the wrong time it may go the wrong way. If he loves you he will try to understand and take some of the blame. You also have to understand how that may have hurt him and take it into consideration it will help the conversation when you talk. If he does try to make it work he is either still upset or even more confused. Don't wait to long or he will get a set idea that it wasn't meant to be. But if it's the way you say it is he will try cause he loves you and all the great memories of the time he spent with you are there with him and wants to go back to the way it was. If He is not at all forgiving about it after that then he be in love with you because unlike him you tried to make it work cause you care and you love him.
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it happend 4 years ago. meaning before him. its like your period. you dont get it on time and right away people assume things.. if it happend before him and he still got mad. delete him out of your life beacuse you know whats going to happen next?.. hes going to become jelous and going to act like a monster with you. and anything he does wrong hesgoing to back fire on you and say (oo its beause you didnt tell me either..) trust me :) ive been threw it ..
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Whatever happened 4 years ago should not matter in your relationship. It's the past, Whatever it is it's over and done with. You both were dating for a year and therefore you weren't even with him at the time.
Right now I would advise you to try and spend time with friends and family. The worst thing you could do is sit here and allow yourself to fall into a depression. Of course it's normal to be depressed but getting out will help you and keep your mind off it. I think the quickest and easiest way to move on from a situation is to fully withdraw yourself from it. If he can't trust you, Then you must move on.
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It would help to know what happened 4 years ago that would cause him to say he can't trust. You have been going out for only a year. Anything that happens prior to that is ancient history and frankly none of his business. You are dating, or were dating him and he should only be concerned with your relationship and trusting in and with him.
Frankly I think he is being rather shallow and immature. I really don't care what happened to you 4 years ago and that includes sexually. I would only care that you be true to me now.
If you would like to write me a private message with more detail as to what was so earth shattering as to cause him to break up with you; I may be able to give you more insight into your question. For now though I think he is being shallow and giving you an excuse for something else he wants .
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Well of course he still Loves you!
If you say hes you first love than he still cares about you. He may act like he doesn't care but he is just holding it in.
We may act like its no big deal but ill tell thats its a huge deal.
Hes just mad right now, let him calm down for awhile and talk to him. Tell him that you love him and didnt mean to hurt him.
He's just mad, let him cool down.
Us men WE ACT AND THEN THINK LATER.
He still loves you.
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(LOL ur the same person from earlier i think)
Just take it slow with him. Tell him the truth in every situation (unless he asks you something obviously untrue, like, "Is my mom pretty")(not that I would know, but that's just not the point) and you'll eventually gain his trust again. You sound like you really do like him, and I know for certain those feelings aren't lies. From what you said before, it sounds like he really likes you still. He's just confused and hurt that you've lied to him. Talk it over, and I mean in person--not even FaceTime will cut it, as soon as possible and explain things to him. Don't expect things to go back immediately to the way they were--that's utterly impossible and improbable--but be patient, and maybe they'll turn out even better than before. Just make sure you're always on the same page--don't forget to mention anything important, although I know how easy it is to forget something you want to not remember. Cheer up. If you love each other, you'll pull through. If you don't, well, he didn't deserve you anyway.
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