I used to be a really depressed teenager, I had relationship problems, I still have family problems, I know how it feels to lose someone to suicide..... Lets just say I had a lot of problems with pretty much everything and I still have problems that I am still dealing with, but if someone has a question to ask me I will try my best to answer it, I will not judge you no matter how young or old you are.
We all have problems.
No matter how big or small.
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Location: Honolulu,Hawaii
Age: 16
Member Since: May 18, 2012
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14/f
Does anyone know a Pimp in New York thats looking for hoes. I want be a prostitute, but I cant find a pimp. Please dont judge me. Thanx (link)
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Sorry but I can't help but just laugh at this......
Really? Your looking for a pimp! And your only 14?
Cmon, there must be something wrong in your head.....
SORRY-
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nickname for boyfriend (link)
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Ok he are some name I've been called and that I heard...
-Boo
-Pooki
-Babe or Baby
-Hunk
-Sexy
Haha Idk,asshole? Jk. Call something that'll make him blush.
:D
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Hello! This might be a long post, just as a heads-up. I'm a freshman in high school, and I feel really lonely. A lot of people think that I am a "nerd" and they basically ignore me. I'm a little shy because when I was in elementary and middle school I was bullied really badly. I used to hide during recess and shut myself off from the rest of the world. I still feel like there is a chasm separating me from everyone else. The people I sit with at lunch pretend to be nice to me, but I really don't fit in with them. My school is so small that there is nowhere else to go. I joined several clubs at school, but I just feel rejected even more. It just makes me even worse when everyone else is enjoying their lives, hanging out, dating, playing sports, going to parties, and I'm just rejected. Being bullied and ignored just feels so old that it's almost normal. I
don't want to go through four years of this. I just wish that I could actually connect with people again. That someone actually cared that I exist. I just live through schoolwork. My parents push me to do well in school, and I do. But hours and hours of geometry and chemistry just makes me feel empty. I don't want to live this way anymore.
13/female (link)
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Hey I kinda know how you feel. Although I'm a pretty tall and big guy and most kids used to joke on me because I am very quiet and kinda shy in public, I have never bullied though I strongly dislike Bullies and I am Very sorry to hear about you being bullied.
When I first became a freshman in highschool when i was 14, I lost mostly all my friends because they joined certain crowds and became dirfferant people. I literally had about one or two friends who where my childhood friends. I became very shy in my freshmen year, I didn't know what table to sit at during lunch so I just sat on a bench and ate awkwardly by myself. I hated school and didn't want to go.
When I became a sophmore I joined Sports such as wrestling , archery, paddling and basketball, sure I freakin sucked at basketball and archery but I had teammates who helped me out. As the year passed by I made some good friends that we have Stuff in common, I become more in shape and I became less shy and more confident. I'm still kinda shy though.
A very good way to make friends is sports or teams such as Drill team, Archery team Etc. You don't have to be good at the sport, you will have teammates who will be by your side to help you improve.
Try and be more confident in yourself and speak up a little.
Hey I still don't sit on the lunch tables, instead I still sit on the bench outside with a couple of buddies you like.
I HOPE I HELPED A LITTLE!
-David-
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ok so in 5th grade like 3 years ago me, my bestfriend,her brother and my guy friend played truth or dare at night. we did alot of dirty stuff like kissing the guys and letting each other see our private parts. im moving to 8th grade now and i have a new bestfriend i met last year. she is trustable but i feel like i should wait more to tell her about that night. i only told her we played truth or dare and we did stuff i wouldnt like to talk about and i have a feeling she knows what it is . is it okay to do that stuff ? im still a virgin , but i feeel like others done worse than me so i dont feel that bad . what should i do about the trust issues help me ! teenks (: (link)
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Well to start things off
I think that you shouldnt have shown womenHood to anybody at such a young age.
And if your new best friend is who you say she is then I think you should tell her, aslong as she isnt the kind of girl who tells Everyone Everything.
If you have known her for a year and you Trust her to keep your secret Than you should tell her if you strongly feel like you want too.
I'm not saying that you HAVE to her. I'm just telling you that if she is trustworthy to hold a secret, Than you can decide yes or no.
If it helps you feel better, I have done some REALLY stupid things when I was in a kid that I have to live with, I would rather die then give that secret to Anybody. But I told my best friend and she said that she wouldn't Tell anybody what had happen to me. That is why our bond is so strong. Because we tell eachother Everything and we Trust eachother strongly.
Do what you feel like doing, tell her or not.
Only if you want too.
GOODLUCK!
-David
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well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.
well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?
+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'( (link)
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Well of course he still Loves you!
If you say hes you first love than he still cares about you. He may act like he doesn't care but he is just holding it in.
We may act like its no big deal but ill tell thats its a huge deal.
Hes just mad right now, let him calm down for awhile and talk to him. Tell him that you love him and didnt mean to hurt him.
He's just mad, let him cool down.
Us men WE ACT AND THEN THINK LATER.
He still loves you.
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hey! how long the penis should be to make a perfect sex! or to make her gf feel good? (link)
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6inch and up is Considered normal.
Anything below 6 is considered small
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Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me. (link)
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Dont kill yourself it is not worth it.
there are people in the world that do care about you, you have family that loves you also, so please dont kill yourself it'll do nothing but hurt the people that love you. And your a great person that just needs help to get back on her feet.
Look at me an example; My life SUCKED like you wouldnt believe And excuse my language but I have also been through ALOT of Shit in my life. Alot of people in this world has been through some really bad stuff and some people even ended they're life because they couldnt handle their problems. I DO NOT want you to end up like them, nobody wants you to end your life, I sure as hell dont want you to end your life.
Life is a Test, most people pass and some also fail.
Life aslo sucks too, But Life also Great. You just haven't experienced the Great part yet.
And just keep studying for those test and You'll pass.
YOU ARE NOT DUMB. You are smart, you just to study hard and believe in yourself. HECK anybody who graduates high school is Smart by Me.
You seem like a GREAT person and anybody will be lucky to have you as a friend. Hell I would be lucky to have you as my friend! My friends are ridiculous.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont kill yourself! There are people that love you!
Keep in touch!
- Sincerely David -
GOODLUCK!
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Lately, I've been really struggling to control my anxious thoughts and compulsive tendencies. I recently started working at an internship and have great difficulty forcing myself to go due to the anxiety I feel by the social obligation it requires. As a result, I am often absent during the week. I am always worried about what people think of me or if people are judging me. During times of great stress, I feel like running away. This is irrational and unrealistic seeing as my savings have been greatly reduced in order for me to finace working at this internship, which happens to be unpaid. I'm not currently on medication nor am I seeing a therapist because I don't have health insurance. Another factor that concerns me is my age. I am twenty-six years old and still living with my parents. I feel like I'm not advancing or progressing in life because of my anxiety. I often seriously think about running away but I know this is irrational, illogical and unrealistic given that I don't have enough money to support myself. I worry that I'll never fully be able to care for and support myself like everyone else does. Everything in life, especially social interaction, is very difficult and strenous for me. I currently have $250 in my savings account--I know most of the responses will try to dissuade me, but I would like to know if there are any options I can pursue in order to move forward with my life. I'm thinking about possibly going into the airforce; I know it would be a great challenge but they provide housing and a stipend every month for food. Plus, I'd be earning money and living independently. (link)
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You should try some marijuana dude, totally helps your anxiety decrease.
It makes you calm and alot less stressed.
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Okay, I'm 13/f and I have a Best Friend, 12/M and he's my only Best Friend. I know some of you guys might expect I need a girl friend, but I don't. I really don't like having girl friends because it causes drama, and fights and I can't stress myself over that. Anyways, I kind of have this thing where every girl says, "OMG, you're so popular, pretty, you have it all, every guy likes you, and you're so perfect." I know I'm not those things. I don't like hearing those. I mean, sure guys like me even older ones and they all hit on me. I don't appreciate it when they do that especially if they have a girlfriend of their own!! I mean it's very flattering they like me, but I don't know what is it I'm doing to make them hit on me. So, I talked to my Best Friend, and he's dating also, and he hit on me last night. I felt terrible. I don't know what to do. I feel like they are all just using me so they can get something out of me. I know they can't and they never will. A lot of them, have asked me out and I've turned them down. I never really dated, kissed anyone, I never gone beyond the point of hugging. What do you guys think? I love my Best Friend he's like my brother to me. It only seems like they hit on me while they're dating then, the guys dump their girl(s) then ask me out! That's really stupid. I don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
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I think you should tell your friend that it makes you feel uncomfortable when he hits on you and that he should be hitting on his girlfriend.
Boys will be boys......Where stupid.
Lol goodluck.
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Please help. I read that you know how to cope with suicide, but I know for sure I do not. My best friend broke up with her boyfriend. (she was forced by her father to break up with him.) And now she only talks to me and she's telling me she's cutting herself and considering suicide i'm really scared please help. (she is 14) I tought you could help because you are nice in your advice and your name even sounds nice :) lol any way, little details: she's kinda mad at me right now cuz I have a bf, and she has so far cut up the length of her arm but she hasn't said what with. (link)
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Sorry for not responding for a while, but if it still helps then my advice to you is that you NEED to tell somebody, i can already tell that this situation is too much for you to handle by yourself.
Your best friend is going through something really tough right now, she is heartbroken for being forced to break up with her boyfriend by her dad, this situation i kind of understand because this has also happened to me when i was also 14 , i had i Girlfriend named Leilani and i really really liked her almost to the point of falling in love with her, we where together for almost a year until her parents found out we had to break up , i felt like dyeing because i couldnt be with her anymore i started talking to my school counselor about my situation and he really helped me get through my depressed state.
Your friend is at the point of cutting herself, and you cant really help because she is mad at you so you dont really know what to do. You need to tell someone about your best friends situation before she really really hurts herself, now dont go and tell someone who would yell at her because that wont really top her from cutting herself itll just make things worse, you should tell someone would would understand your friends situation and try to help her get back to her feet.
I hope your friend gets better.
KEEP IN TOUCH
- Sincerely David -
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Hello David! It's alexisgirlie! I was very touched by your kind words. I'm glad that I could help you. You are very brave, and I'm proud of you. I have a question to ask you. How are you doing? How do you cope with so much? You're really my hero! (link)
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Hey Alexisgirlie I would love to answer your guestion.
You see ever since I read your advice and a few other of the columnist advice it really got me to open my eyes, you showed me that if I dont do something about my current situation then I would still be weak and lonely.
I have been doing alright, I have been talking to my one of my closest friends and she has really helped get through my problems. I ended my relationship with my girlfriend and it hurt because I have really strong feelings for her but I found out she wasnt as loyal to me so ended it because I didnt want her to hurt me anymore.
Im still working on my anger problems and I still have some suicidle thoughts but not as strong as before.
Thank you Alexis for helping me, you have really opened my eyes.
Keep in touch.
-Sincerely David
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Kay I'm 13 btw.
My ex-stepmom was just horrible, and the way my dad handled her upsets me. So much I started cutting. It's been a little over a year and when I think I'm over, a burning rage just consumes me, and I can't think. I get snappy with everyone and I always end up cutting. Like whenever I see my dad or he talks I get so upset, and I've had thoughts of killing him. Like I'll be cutting my dinner and he turn around and the thought " I could kill him" just enters my mind. It happens alot lately too, like I was babysitting and the kid was shooting my bow and was getting the arrows, and i thought about how I could kill him. My friend thinks i'm bipolar beacuse one second im happy the next I'm biting my tongue so i dont scream.
Lately i can't talk to anyone about anything though. thats explained in a adifferent question tho (link)
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You see i'm kind of like you in some way, im only a couple years older than you but I know how you feel, I myself still have an anger problem ever since i was 12 years old, the whole thing started when my dad started to become an alchoholic when I was 10 years old, when 11 years old I started noticeing bruises on my moms face and neck and only a couple months after he started hitting her in front of me and my sisters, he used grab my mom by her hair and punch in her face, he used to kick on the floor, spit in her face, he pretty much did anything to hurt her.
since I was a witness to that, I started to miss school, I used to get into at school, I just didnt want to talk to anybody.
By the time I was 14 years old my anger problem got really worse, when I got into fights it was differant from the other fights when I was younger because I was out to literally kill the kid, I tried slamming their heads into concrete, when I get get irritated I start getting pissed for no reason, and when I was angry at somebody then my anger was turned to rage.
By the time I was 15 I was pissed everyone for no reason, especially my dad, I was always fighting with my dad, not just arguments but real fist fights, just a couple months ago I flew my fist into a window just because I was yelling at my mom about dinner, now all the nerves in my right hand are completely dead and the doctor said I might never get my feeling in my hand back.
What im trying say is that if you dont get help soon your rage WILL get worse, dont wait go to a therapist it actually helps, please talk to someone.
I do not want you to end up like me, a suicidle teenager with HUGE anger problems
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Iam planning to present a surprising to my girl friend during her birthday, the gift has to be memorable and ever lasting. So i thought of to engrave my girlfriends picture in crystal which would be surprising. (link)
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if you are going to give your girlfriend a crystal gift then my advice to you is to go for it, I'm serious that is a really really great gift, and I will give you 2 reasons why it's a great gift
1) you put good thought into it
2) there is a picture of her on CRYSTAL, I mean what girl doesn't like crystal.
I think that is a really great gift to give her.
You are a really thoughtful boyfriend to give her something like that, it will show her that you care about her.
GOODLUCK!
-David-
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I am 30 as of may eighteenth of this year. I was a recovering drunk and addict in aa for 1.5 yearz intil a month ago. I live in atl ga. I lost the great job through no action on my part on friday and the girl the next day. My beautiful flower. I have neen a fuckup all my life. I put forth great effort this time to have the world snd the people in it take a sbit on my face. I am going to kill my self in the am. I am going to steal alot of money. Get alot of crack and alot of booze. I am going out into a small.patch of woods near my place vet really f'd up and cut huge chunks out of my wrists. This is no joke nor is it a cry for help, if anything this is a declaration of intent. To wbom ever reads this our world is a nasty place and full of nasty people. We dont cberish anything but greed and deception. We use words and emotions carelessly. Be true, kind and genuine. Dont tell.someone that you love them unless its a certainty. I love you mom D.C. and i love you to brother....... sorry but i will.not alow my self to be a piece of loser shite any longer. I R.H.C. have had enough. Bye (link)
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I'm 16 and I was on the verge of killing myself just a couple days ago. I cant tell you that I know exactly how you feel because then I would be lying, but I do know how it feels like to be shity and to feel like the world is against me. you're right the world is a cruel and disgusting place to live in. but the people who live in it is what makes it better. I'm not trying to tell you to not kill yourself but all I am asking for you is to think. think hard of what you are doing, think of your mom, think of your brother, think about the people that love you. if they were to find out you killed yourself then they would feel so heartbroken and so depressed that you're gone. if you need help talk to me or talk to AlexisGirlie, she is a really good columnist that could help you, she helped me and talked to me about my problems. please don't end your life there is a lot of people that love you and care about you. -Sincerely David-
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this sounds pathetic but i am a 16 year old virgin, and all my friends go out drinking all the time, and alwayd get new clothes, i dont know where they get all their money from, but i was thinking, i have the confidence! i might become a prostitute to earn some extra cash to join in with the things my friends do, what do you think? (link)
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Im a 16 year old. I really recommend you do not sell yourself to assholes guys just to have cool stuff. One reason why is because you r still a virgin, 2nd reason is because you could get a std, and 3rd people will probably think your a slut(no affence). Your 16, you are old enough to apply for a job. Minimum wage probably 235$ every two weeks. DO NOT sell your virginity to some ugly fat douche bag just to impress your friends. Youll look dirty.
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