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Help, I don't know how to talk to my mom about this guy I like.
I'm 13/F and well, there's this guy I really like and he likes me back (13/M). He asked me out 4 times already and I said no to all of them. I mean, he didn't sound desperate, in fact he wasn't desperate at all. When he aked me out the 4th time I told him the real reason rather than saying, "because I'm done dating." I told him I couldn't because I didn't want to get in trouble with my family. The catch is, is that he understands, but says "I love you, I miss you," all those gushy things. I say it back to him of course, but it feels weird saying it back because of what my family would think, like they'd think I'm breaking the promise. I don't know how to say it to my mom without me probably getting in trouble. Will I get in trouble? Can anbody help me? please?
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It's very normal for a girl your age to want to date a guy it very understandable what you should do is ask your mom..mom may I please start dating? And I highly doubt you will get into trouble for asking because you aren't doing it behind her back your disrespecting her wishes I've been in your place and I told my mom and she was very happy I told her before I started to date now I I'm in a happy relationship hope this helped :)
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Alright, first of all you won't get in trouble. This is absolutely normal at you're age, what you're mom doesn't want is an older guy who probably would only want one thing and we all know what that is. No parent want their child to be tricked. So instead, be honest with this guy and if you're saying I love you, you better mean it. Saying "I like you" in a situation like this is probably even better than saying "I love you", know why? Because you're being truthful and guys usually like when you say things from your heart, not your head. When you find some alone time with your mother, sit down and explain how you like this guy. No don't ask, "Mom can I be his girlfriend?" Just say, "Hey mom, I really like this guy, can I invite him over so he can meet you?" If she says no, don't fret. Give it some time, and try again. Worst thing she can do is say no. Don't be afraid to open up, and always be truthful to your family, doesn't matter if you will "get in trouble". Best of luck! [:
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I have been in the same situation as you. Your parents probably don't want you dating till your a highschooler or 16 because there is no real way to see each other a lot and to them it's not real an they are just don't want you to be upset over a boy at 13.
Now, I can tell this guy you like is a good guys since you asked 4 times and understands why you can't go out right now. That is a good thing and it may help if you tell your mom.
If you want to tell your mom you need to get her alone somewhere to talk. Try to get her in a good mood and it may help even more if you can do it right after you made her really proud. Then you need to explain to her the situation. Tell how much it would mean to you if she did let you date him. Explain to how understanding and respectful he has been that may give you a boost if she's iffy about this.
Good luck
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