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What should I do about a 19yo dating a 15yo just to get back at me?
My neighbor is dating my ex-boyfriend.I dated this guy for a really long time. He even stalked me for awhile, and hes only dating her too upset me. I don't care what he does anymore, Ive moved on, but it kills me to see her get used. Ive told her everything but shes 15 and wont listen. My ex however, is 19. I'm not comfortable seeing the two of them together.
My question is, how can her to realize he's only using her?
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YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE HER!
If you just go to the boy and tell him straight out, "Break up with her," he'll just be encouraged to like you more! But whatever you do, don't say something like, "He's using you because he wants to make me jealous," because in real life, people get ticked off about that stuff (been there, done that).
MAKE her listen, for Chrissake!
And, in all honesty, even if she doesn't listen, you should still be there for her all the way (but don't be creepy...).
And if you still want her as a friend when this is over, don't you DARE tell her "I told you so."
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If I were you I would send or say two words to my ex "Statutory Rape".
She is 15 and under the age of consent. He is 19 making a 4 year difference in ages. The difference in age is what violates the law of Statutory Rape. Sex does not have to be involved in violating this law. Then there is also possible charges of child molestation, sexual predator and leading to the delinquency of a minor. All of these are real law full violations of the law because she is under the age of consent and he is 4 years older than her. If by chance you live close to a state line and they have crossed it together then there is the Federal Law of the "MANN Act" that has been violated as well.
Now if sex is involved then the top charge is "Rape." Why because I know no state, or most western countries where the age of consent is 15. Since she is under the age of consent then she cannot consent to having sex with anyone therefore any sexual relation she may participate in, even willingly is "RAPE."
All teenage boys are well versed in the knowledge that dating and having sex with an underage girl can get you 15 years in Jail. If your ex boyfriend has one active brain cell in his head he should head your advice that she is under age and he is breaking the law. Whether you choose to inform the police is up to you.
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Don't give him the satisfaction by reacting. They have to make their own choices and suffer the consequences. Though your neighbor is still a minor and that could have legal complications. I would make sure her parents know that she is dating the 19 year old and leave them to their parental responsibility. You have already talked to your neighbor and that's all you can do.
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Well, I'm not saying go for revenge here but it's pretty sad when a 19 year old is dating a 15 year old.
There really is no need to "get back" at them. It already is pitiful that he would dip as low as dating someone that age. The girl is only 15 years old. Having sexual relationships with a minor is considered statutory rape and he could even be viewed as a pedophile.
Anyway, To give you advice IGNORE IT. You may not be happy to see them together but not only is it up too you, but he isn't exactly giving himself the best reputation by dating a young girl like that. Chill out and move on from it, Ignoring the situation is actually probably the best thing you can do. Why get yourself all worked up over it? Trust me sweetie, You are getting the last laugh not him. A 15 year old? Com'on now....
Laugh it off and be mature about the situation
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Sometimes you have to ask yourself why you are trying to get involved in the situation. Attachment is hard to let go... Honestly, I think if you really feel that this is the situation, and she won't listen to you, then should just let your neighbor be. Eventually, she will figure it out and realize why he's into her.
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