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Do you think he's WAY TOO old for me??
So, 13/f and I met this dude. 16/m and I haven't really met him offiicially or seen the guy. I just try to imagine him. Lets just say his name is Mike. When I think about his REAL name the thing that comes to mind is blonde hair blue eyes and let the rest fall in place. Well, we talked over the power of the internet and he sounds really nice and harmless. I don't know who he really is or what he looks like we met by chance on this really cool website and happened to hit him up about it. I think I like him, he sounds pretty harmless to me, but that's just the internet, he might be some homeboy trying to get a life. Who knows he might even a 50 perverted year old dude who is lonely and stupid. So, how do I get to bring up the subject of what we look like in a convo while chatting?? Is 3 years older than me way out of my league?? I mean, IDK if he's in a relationship wit someone, but I want to get some ideas. Can you guys give me some please?? Thanks so much.
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To be honest I really don't think it is a good idea to meet someone over the Internet. One time I met this one guy online and he was super nice. Then he asked me to friend me on Facebook so he sent me a link. I looked up the link and it was a blank profile, no friends, no picture, just the name that he told me. It was obviously super shady so I don't think he was real. It is super easy to fake being someone on the Internet, so I would just watch out and probably not fall in love over the Internet unless some how you could see a real picture or like video chat him or something to make sure he was real. (I probably wouldn't video chat him though)
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Well meeting people over the intrenet isnt really a good idea because he could be a she, he could be lowing about his age and anything he ever said to you, it's not very safe, and to be honest I don't think it's a good idea for you to be with him but it is your choice I'm just trying to help thanks for reading this and hope this helps you in your case have a great day (:
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Meeting people on the internet is very risky. All the more reason to meet people IN PERSON. This guy probably is a harmless 16 year old boy, but you don't know that for sure. Plus he is too old for you. Keep in mind he'll be 18 and legally an adult when you're 15. In society, that's a huge gap. It's okay to be friends with 16 year old boys that you KNOW. But not strangers.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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First things first you are 13 and meeting someone on the web is really pointless because you have a whole field of guys out there you could meet. It maybe accident that you meet but it really shouldn't mean much because people can say things easier when it's not to your face.
Second he is three years older, trust me not good idea. I hate say that I been there but I have bad idea at this age. I was like you and was just considering then I started thinking clearly. It was really stupid of me at the time. I understand it's alluring but the more you think about it the weirder it will seem. Important thing i learned from it. Trust me bad idea.
Third and final: huge safety reason there. Like I said before it is so much easier to say stuff when your not looking at the persons face this could be very dangerous if ends up not being the person he claims to be don't take the chance.
Listen to everyone else who are commenting they are right
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Believe it or not, The internet is the number one place where pedophiles pray on young people. Anyone can become convincing if they try hard enough, I am 27 years old and I'm sure if I tried hard enough I can be a convincing 16 year old too. Do not trust him, Do not send him photo's or give him personal information about you.
At the age of 13, You are a bit too young to be involved with a 16 year old. (I'm referring to actually meeting someone here) While 3 years doesn't seem like a huge difference it really is at your age. The difference is maturity.
I honestly think your best bet is too meet someone in person and stay away from the internet. You do not "love" or "like" him. You like the idea of him, You like what he has tell you. It is almost impossible to fall for someone you do not even know and never met before. I really encourage you to be smart, Back off on being personal and DO NOT trust him. Remember, Once you leak personal information on the internet you can't take it back.
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The worst thing about the internet is that its easier to connect with people on an emotional level and this is dangerous. I would not trust this guy fully as there are many predators who use these ways to attract young girls like yourself. If you are still curious about him and who he might be try asking if he would like to 'skype' or talk over cam and see how he responds to it. In this day and age everyone has access to a webcam if they're chatting you up online and if he seems to 'dance' around the subject, write him off, he's hiding something. But never allow yourself to be pulled into anything he says and drop your guard no matter what.
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DONT trust him, i have been dumb in the past and talked to guys and stuff and it turned out they were preadtors using fake pictures of there like nephews and stuff, people lie alot on the internet, like to much, watch this movie called trust. its on netflix. i think it will open your eyes to talking to people on the internet who you dont know who they are
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Don't trust this guy. The chances are, he's not who he says he is. I know lots of cases of people being raped and killed through such meetings. Besides, I don't think you should date a 16 year old.
I was sexually abused a while ago, and I am still suffering awful trauma. Save yourself that awful pain, and get rid of him.
People lie online, and they may seem totally harmless and charming. This guy can be a 30 year old criminal for all you know. Please be careful, for your own sake.
Good luck :)
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