I've dealt with a lot of stuff. Suicide, abuse, and that girl that's only like 13 and not a virgin. And tons more. I really enjoy getting questions from people, but if you just want to talk for no or any reason, or want a more personal answer, I like it even better when people e-mail me. I'm cool with any topic. I get on my email/ site at least once a week.
P.S: sorry for what looks like bad spelling/ grammar, but really I just have a realllly bad touchscreen. sorry!
E-mail: divergirl123_1@aol.com
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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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Well, out in the street is out of the question.
Going with dad sounds alright, as long as he isn't abusive and if he has a job and is willing to care for you.
However, it sounds like you are the major supporter of your mother and sister, and without you, they may struggle.
Overall, it's all up to you. this situation sounds ike it sucks and I'm sorry.
hope I helped
-scotish gal
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So at lunch today, a girl asked me to go to the back of our classroom but of course my classmates are kinda like my family so they followed me out. They were all on my side even if they thought the girl was pretty. So here's the thing, a person was pretending to be me and texted bad things to the 10th grader and introduced herself as *my (screen)name* and the girl was kinda like hunting me down. But yeah so she warned me that I'm lucky her pride wasn't that big, because if it was, she would start pulling my hair and stuff. trust me, I call people crazy and weird but I would never say such things my poser texted her. One of my friends overheard her saying "she's lucky her classmates are with her because if they weren't I would've grabbed her hair" or something like that. I was so nervous during our argument so she thought I was denying it and lying about it. She keeps putting the "Oh really?" face on her. I really want to report her to the counselor but I'm afraid she would threaten me again (she has like, a lot of people with her in case we fight) And I got like, i don't know 20? Help! I really feel like cutting my wrist a lot and crying. :( I'm nervous because I'm guilty of what my "poser" did and not because I did it and i'm guilty. And, I barely even know this 10th grader. I just knew her when she argued with me. So, why did she believe it? She could've asked me for my phone number and compared it to the the one who texted her. -_- How do I tell the counselor's office? And also, how am I gonna tell them I'm scared of getting bullied more? (link)
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One: I'm not sure wha you mean by 'small'. Like, are you older than her? Does she have some sort of dwarvism? I don't know.
Anyway, back on topic.
Two: This girl and your 'poser' are crazy. Stay away from her. Spread the word that it was NOT you, tell the counselor, and be on the lookout. Just because it wasn't you doesn't mean that's she's not angry, or won't be looking for revenge.
Good luck, and don't feel bad about yourself. Hell, you di'n't ev'n do anything! Keep your chin up!
-scottishgal1
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I really like a girl but she sees me as a brother and at the moment she has a boyfriend and i dont know what to do (link)
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Sucks. Sorry, but unless you want to get all drama-dude,I would just wait it out. Every now and then, SUBTLEY give her reasons why he sucks and you're great. Most people I know fall for that.
Sorry for such a short answer :/
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hope I helped
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I'm a 14 year old girl and.. Hey, well today I just read your comment (and the. Post ofc) and I think the other girl and I have things in common. It's 2 years since I started being insecure and anxious. Idk why but everyone at school thinks they're funnier than me and stuff :L I have been playing the guitar (bass too) for 5 years and they just call it s***. And today I felt like I needed to google my normal day cause I can't really live like that so I'm looking for a friend :) kik: Faridaboo palringo:16088078 and email: darkbeautybass@gmail.com
-F.K. (link)
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Sorry if I'm intruding, but do you know who this was directed towards?
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I've already reported your site to Google and other search engines. I hope they kick your sad sorry butts off the net, or that Obama does something about sites like this, where any idiot can answer a question like "What's the fastest way to commit suicide?" I'm a reporter doing an expose, and believe me I will expose your site and others who are allowing this type of thing to occur! God help you if a parent finds the site up on their child's computer after such a suggestion is made and the teen carries out their suicide attempt in the exact manner as a teenager told them to do.
Isn't the world cruel enough? Where do you people get your values from? Or do you have any at all?
Pull out a bible and try reading it sometime!
A concerned mom (link)
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Listen, Ma'am. Whoever you are refering to, I know that it is of no familiar advicenator I have ever seen in my time here. I once asked how to commit suicide, and I got seven answers tells me not to do it and told me I am too amazing to die. SEVEN. So whoever you're reading advice from, I'm sure they're already kicked off this site for doing so, as we have people called 'moderators', such as myself, who track this kind of thing.
Go. Write that exposé. I hope you take a picture of all of these responses to your question. None of us respectable people would write anything like that. It would have help had you told us the name of that question, so we may do something about it. Also, if every 'concerned mom' got the site they complained about 'kicked off the net', there would be no porn, facebook, or probably even youtube. So good luck with that.
I know this all sounds disrespectful, but trust me, you are being far more disrespectful towards us advicenators. Do you have any idea how many lives we can save? How many suicide questions I see or answer a week? Don't you dare tell us we have no morale. We take time out of our day to answer some of the stupidest questions (my most recent: " can u git pregnant if u dont use a condom? "). And yes, the world is cruel. We know.
Oh, and by the way,I go to church. I go to a prayer group. I do read the Bible (it should be capitalized, by the way), maybe you should and you would understand that you are being ridiculous and rude.
I hope this answered your questions.
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I don't know what to be, but I'm hoping for weird, nerdy, age appropriate, funny, and slightly obscure ideas for costumes. (link)
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Well, depending on your genre of nerdyness, you could be lots of things! Pikachu is one of my favorites.One of the ninja turtles? Maybe your favorite LOTR character or WoW player. I was Hermione once. People loved it. My friend is a total nerd, and she's just going as a doe (a female deer) :) . Lots of stores and websites sell anime costumes, too. One girl I know even did a character from a book she was writingone year! Be original, if you want. But my number one is Pikachu. It's easy and recognizable to most. -Good luck! --Hope I helped.
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My boyfriend bought us tickets for general admission to see Paramore.
What should I be prepared for, what do I wear, and how early do I get there? (link)
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Cool! Paramore is playing in my area, as well. I've been to concerts before, and shows at stadiums and the Savemart Center. Juding by the popularity of Paramore, get there early. 5:30 at the earliest and 6:30/6:35 at the latest. If you have a Paramore shirt, wear it. or just a cute date outfit. Anything, really. maybe not heels,just because it will be crowded and you may have to stand for long periods of time. Prepare for large crowds, don't keep anything in your pockets, (pick-pocketers!) and expect it to be loud. Bring money for food/drink, depending on what the stadiums rules are on snacks and beverages. Dress comfortably, but not too comfortably. Dress nice, but not trashy (Get what I mean?). And have fun!-- hope I helped.
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Please tel the way to die? (link)
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I'm pretty sure we're not even allowed to do that, but.... The best way to die is this:
Live. Hopefully until you're 102. And sitting on your front porch drinking a glass of water while your husband or wife is reading you your favorite book, or when you close your eyes and remember all the things you've been through. That time you almost killed yourself? Nothing but a memory. But that time you fell in love or won that chamionship game or laughed so hard you snorted? Those times are everything.
Suicide is not Death. They are two different people. One takes over you, the other welcomes you in. This is a permanent reaction to temporary feelings. Smile, get help, and live.
-hope I helped.
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I'm 12. My boyfriend is 16. He was my first time. Is that a form of stuatory rape? Could legal action be taken? My principal asked me if I've had my first time because I got in trouble. Could they get him in trouble? I don't want to get him in trouble.. :( HELP!! (link)
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First of all, you need a TON more detail. homnestly, I don't think anyone knows whats going on! Did he force you? Where you drunk? I need moreinformation to tell you.
And second of all, who you think you are? Darling I'm sorry but you're acting like a tramp. You are wayy too young to be having sex. are you even in 7th grade yet? This is illegal. So, yeah. He can be charged. Not trying to judge, but get a grip. And don't 'Whatever you're too old to understand' me. You're nearly my age. You need to get your head out of the clouds and finish elemetary school. I'm sorry for the honestly. -hope I helped.
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Can anyone please confirm that cutting works on relieving the pain?
How do you start, what's the easiest way?
Would it be better for me to just die?
How would i hide it?
I'm feeling really bad, and this is the only thing stopping me from suicide... i don't know what to do.
Thanks for any answers (link)
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Oh my, please don't! I cut myself for so long and every day I regret it. I really do. People look at them and treat you differently. And forget bikinis (if you're a girl) ! I have had depression since I was little and I know that it's horrible to deal with. But no one should have to go through what you have to, whether it be self-shame or bullying or abuse. It was bullying for me. I got called ugly so many times a day I lost count. I would leave class just to go hide in the restroom so they couldn't speak to me. But they would write me notes and yell at me at recess, and everything was so unbearable that I tried commiting suicide. Suicide. Isn't that an ugly word? No one should die because of an ugly word. I want to die because of a beautiful word, like love or old age. Ok,maybe they're not that pretty, but they're nicer than suicide. After months of therapy, I still get the occasional jab in the self-confidence, but I have never felt so beautiful in my life. Don't do this. Trust me, nothing is worth it. Today is not your day. You're hot. You're pretty. You're handsome. Whatever or whoever you are, you are better than this. You'll make it.
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She's such a mystery !!!! i'm 17 and she's 15 ,we're having sex (sometimes unprotected sex) but i'm quite sure she's not pregnant , i'm absolutely sure...
anyways she pukes everyday!! if not puking, it's a headache! if it's not a headache it's a puke, and so on and so forth...
so pleaseeeeeeee if you can discover what the HELL is wrong with her you would be the smartest human being and my savior!
oh by the way (PS) , she had gastric in her stomach but that was treated and healed...
THANK YOU MY SAVIOR whoever finds out...
Hugs and High Fives to all answers
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Seeing as none of us are doctors here, I don't think you'll get a straight answer. And I know you're positive she's not pregnant, but get some pregnancy tests or see a doctor. Try to only have protected sex, though. I know most places in the US have Plannned Parenthood, so it (condoms) should be free for you. Otherwise, that sickness you mentioned might be coming back. I would see a doctor. -hope I helped
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I'm a 13 year old nerd girl, and I need to know how to get a nerd boy to like me, or at least how to tell them I like them. (link)
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If you mean like actual nerdy Wholock girl, then I can help! Just talk about likes and dislikes. Ask him if he watches Supernatural, or what his favorite book is. ask what he's going to be (if anything) for Halloween. Just talk ! But you know, not too much. Maybe smoothly get some friends together and go out to the movies. Good luck!
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Are there any age requirements to buy Midol? I know I could just ask someone just in case, but if I'm already out and shopping I might as well pick it if I'm able. (link)
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Of course not! Well, at least not in the US. It's basically just specialized advil. It's not like it's a condom. Period symptoms are something you can't help. feel free to buy some.
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Do you think 80 tylenol and say about 20 robax and some anti-deppressants will do the job for me? (link)
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What is your story? Email me please. (check my column for my email). what ever your tale may be, it's not over yet. how do you expect to find your knight in shining armor, or your beautiful princess? Someone out in the world- my self included- wants to hear your happily ever after ending. Not the one about you becoming so hopeless that you took your own life. No one deserves a story that's cut short. Please talk to someone about this. You deserve that happy ending.
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So I'm in grade 7(13 years old) and I'm the grade 3 prefect. Today a few girls came to me and told me that this girl, anika is telling them to show her there "private parts" and writing sex on there bums. Then they said they caught anika and dakota kissing. I also found out that dakota was forcing anika to have sex(they all girls and they all in grade 3) when I spoke to anika she was crying so much and she said "but someone else is making me do those type of things" when I asked who she said she doesn't know.. My friend asked her if its someone on bbm and she didn't say anything.. Then my other friend asked her if she meant that the other girls are lying and she said yes. I'm a bit worried about when she said someone else making her do those things because I was sexually abused for 4 years and by her saying that was just a bit worrying and my friend also thinks so. I just wanna know what I should do about this and if you think she's getting abused. Thanks (link)
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Tell an adult!! This sounds reallly serious. Tell the third grade teacher.This could be a big deal. These girls are all being sexually abused in some way. Tell them all to stop They're only third graders!! ---hoped I helped!
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Hi im 14 train alot and am athletic im looking for a good first sex with any girl xxxx i will sext and show my face and give number just realy do want to have good sex xxx answer me back if u want the same thing aswell ;)
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Ya-- email me first tho, kk? --
THAT is what an idiot would say. Grow up and find a girlfriend in real life please. Sorry for the crit, but you'll regret having sex later on. I know you will. I'm your age and I regret everything.Sure it feels good while your doing it, but it's not right.. sorry. Everyone regrets , male or female. Wait for marriage, don't be pressured or pressure anyone, don't do drugs., etc. Also, How do we know you're not some 64 year old rapist? If you're not, I'm sure you're cute, but go out in the sun if you wanna get laid, not on here, please. We help people. We're not protitutes.
--Hope I helped.
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Im 14 athletic build and want to have sex with a girl in manchester ill sext first and get to know them but want to realy try it with any girl any age xxxx
What should i do xx ??
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You should go to school and learn to spell really and use periods. Sorry, but, hey, this is coming from a girl your age. Not many girls just want to have sex at fourteen... unless (let's be honest) she's a slut. When you eventually getmarried and do it on your wedding night, your wife is going to ask if you're a virgin or if you lost your virginity to her. And if you say no... I am 100% positive it will hurt her emotionally. It's a much bigger deal than just being horny and doing it. For God's sake, just wait and mature a little longer! A few years fro'm now you'll either regret losing your virginity, or be glad you never did! Sorry but not sorry. ---Hope I helped.
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I recently met a guy, we sort of clicked and we and sort of became friends.. Well not really, I'd say acquaintances. We've only hung out twice (the second time was a disaster).
He's asked me to hang out with him a few times, and I was busy and the last time he wanted to hang out. I said I had already plans but I'd hang out, if they changed and that I would get back to him later.
Which I didn't, and I forgot. And he hasn't texted me now in over 3 weeks. Grr, do you think he's pissed and doesn't want to hang out, and what should I do? (link)
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He may think you lost interest. But this happens to me all the time, and the guys just respond with, Hey I am so sorry I got grounded, been super busy lately, etc. But this is what I use when that happens to me- ' Hey, sorry about not being able to hang out, but if you're up for it I'm available --whatever day you're available here-- , if you wanna hang out?' ---- Try that. If he doesn't respond or says no, he may have lost interest. sorry. --hope I helped!
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(Yes I'm aware this isn't a "food" site but this is really my only option. Sorry if this question offends/bothers anyone in any way.)
Hello, so I'm a new vegan and I don't really know what to eat... I know to avoid animal products such as meat, milk, etc., but I'm finding it very hard to find foods.
I'm not really much of a "cook" person, but I suppose I can be. Can you all help me with some recipes, vegan name brands, and stuff to eat? I already eat fruits and things. Thanks :) (link)
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Don't listen to anyone who says being vegan is unhealthy! My cousin's girlfriend is vegan, and she almost always places in her Iron Mans! But, it is hard to keep up with (I stayed with them for a weekend). I honestly don't know any recipies, But I know some foods. Almond milk is vegan and veryy good, as are certain 'Fiber Well' cereals. --hope I helped.
ps: Oreos are vegan friendly!!
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Hey everyone! Well, here's the thing. I am reading books and I used to not read at all but I do now. I read the genres of horror,cancer related issues, suspense, and teenage bullying stories. If anyone has any book suggestions I would highly appreciate it. Thank you! (link)
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(No descriptions, sorry!)
Horror- Any Stephen King Book, but my number 1 would be 'Cell', by Stephen King. It's not his best, but it's very phycologically scary. If you want pure horror, though, I suggest 'It', also by Stephen King. It will keep you up at night.
Cancer/ Health- My Sister's Keeper. I heard this was really good and sad.
(recommending these next ones just because they're really good)
And if you're a girl, and you want suspense, but kind of sifi, I suggest 'Pivot Point', by Kasie West, I think. It's almost like a X-men with more girls. :) --hope I helped.
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