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My name is david and im 16 and im having trouble asking a girl out, but the problem is that she is my best friend, her name is tiana she is also 16, we have been best friends since 3rd grade and now where sophmore's. i recently broke up with my gf about a month ago for cheating and tiana has been helping me deal with it every step of the way, i started noticing that i liked her when i started dreaming about her in my dreams, and now i just cant stop thinking of her, everytime i meet her at school i get butterrflies, i just cant stop thinking of her. i want to ask her out on a date but im scared she might reject and we might stop being best friends. i dont know what to do i wanna be with her but i dont wanna lose her, i dont want to lose my best friend... SHOULD I ASK HER OR LEAVE IT THE WAY IT IS? i dont know what to think.

Ok, you're 16 so everything that happens right now doesn't matter. Nothing in highschool lasts, and it's not the end of the world when things don't work. Remember that and you'll go far. I met my wife in highschool, we tried dating and it didn't work. When I was almost done with college picked back up and now we're married.

Don't look into highschool love as anything. By the way, gf was cheating? I don't know what that means at a highschool level, but it better not mean sex. Keep that out of the equation until much later. Better for everyone. Like someone here already mentioned, it could do well to wait until you both are older, and see where you each stand. I don't mean 18 years old either.

I would let her know either by telling her, or flirting a little. Little hints here and there, see if you can get her thinking along the same lines. Or just approach her, if you are best friends like you said, and just say what you feel. Peronally, I think it would be best if she knew how you felt, but to suggest to her to wait until you both are grown up and see how you feel about eachother then. Also...

What is more important to you? Her friendship? Or this idea of being together? Keep the friendship and try to spark a relationship when it is actually worthwhile.

Hope it helps, doubt it. Just remember, Highschool drama is nothing to lose sleep over. It truly is ridiculous when you look back at it.

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hi...i got married to this guy in 2011. now i know that he is bisexual... i came to know this by reading his messages in a gay community in his phone.i love him a lot... when i asked him he told me he was a bisexual , he is not involved with any guy after he got married , and he will be with me forever.i dont know if i can trust him or not. i hav't told this to my parents either as they would never get what bisexual is.
can bisexuals be loyal to a women... he says he had sexual relation with more than 50 guys. how can i trust him, he will not do it again.
now he wants me to get pregnant...please help me, i don't know have anyone to talk to.. i love him a lot, i feel like committing suicide nt able to decide what to do.please please please help me.

I think it's right to not trust him. Having a relationship with over 50 guys, that seems like a lot. I don't know what ages you two are, but I could never imagine being with 50 women.

In the courting process did you never ask him about past relationships? It seems only natural that you probably would have. Because you did not find out about him being Bisexual until after you were married, I wonder how well you really know him at all. If he's browsing gay forums and keeping it secret, one questions the motives for doing so. Is he seeking advice online or trying to meet new guys? Does anything in his behaviour seem like he's still seeing other guys?

If for some reason you're okay with him keeping this information from you until after you were married, then power to you, but I wouldn't be. I'd be looking for an anullment unless he could convince me beyond any doubt that he would be faithful forever.

I've got nothing against gay/lesbian/bi-sexuals at all, but the hiding from it does bother me.

I personally think this is more like a gay guy looking to get married to have his cover story and present himself as straight. I'm sorry, that's just what it looks like to me.

Now, with all that out of the way... what can you do? Question yourself, do you really want to stay in a relationship where you don't know if anything is real? Do you love him so much that you can look past this deceit?

Just remember this above all else, it isn't over yet. He probably does love you, and if he could love you, others will too. Give yourself some time, regroup and if it doesn't work out. Get back in the game. You've learned an important question to ask people. I asked my wife before we got married, "Are there any skeletons in your closet that I don't know about?"

I hope it works out, I really do. But if you've been married a year and he's still involved with others online, I'd have to wonder if he's doing more than just stuff online.

Don't wish to die though. Sorry, if I'm mean here.
What does that really accomplish? Nothing. Do something about it, don't just wish for death. I'm not saying to go out and find death either, that's no good. If you're wishing for death, it sounds like you're not too happy with what's happened, so do something about the problem. Death is easy, yes. But it's also final. I'm sure there is some stuff in life you haven't done or seen yet, so do those things. Rather than die, forget your husband and see things you never thought about before. Travel to Europe, join the military, smile at strangers. There is so much you can do, and should do. Focus your efforts into a career somewhere, or focus into creative outlets. Do something for yourself. Instead of wishing to die, learn to live. I've said too much of nothing on here, but I'm trying to keep you up a little. You deserve something good, so make it happen.

Everyone loves you, remember that.
-Andrew

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