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im scared to ask her out!
My name is david and im 16 and im having trouble asking a girl out, but the problem is that she is my best friend, her name is tiana she is also 16, we have been best friends since 3rd grade and now where sophmore's. i recently broke up with my gf about a month ago for cheating and tiana has been helping me deal with it every step of the way, i started noticing that i liked her when i started dreaming about her in my dreams, and now i just cant stop thinking of her, everytime i meet her at school i get butterrflies, i just cant stop thinking of her. i want to ask her out on a date but im scared she might reject and we might stop being best friends. i dont know what to do i wanna be with her but i dont wanna lose her, i dont want to lose my best friend... SHOULD I ASK HER OR LEAVE IT THE WAY IT IS? i dont know what to think.
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Ok, you're 16 so everything that happens right now doesn't matter. Nothing in highschool lasts, and it's not the end of the world when things don't work. Remember that and you'll go far. I met my wife in highschool, we tried dating and it didn't work. When I was almost done with college picked back up and now we're married.
Don't look into highschool love as anything. By the way, gf was cheating? I don't know what that means at a highschool level, but it better not mean sex. Keep that out of the equation until much later. Better for everyone. Like someone here already mentioned, it could do well to wait until you both are older, and see where you each stand. I don't mean 18 years old either.
I would let her know either by telling her, or flirting a little. Little hints here and there, see if you can get her thinking along the same lines. Or just approach her, if you are best friends like you said, and just say what you feel. Peronally, I think it would be best if she knew how you felt, but to suggest to her to wait until you both are grown up and see how you feel about eachother then. Also...
What is more important to you? Her friendship? Or this idea of being together? Keep the friendship and try to spark a relationship when it is actually worthwhile.
Hope it helps, doubt it. Just remember, Highschool drama is nothing to lose sleep over. It truly is ridiculous when you look back at it.
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I had the same problem you do, I know this just seems so scary. but,you gotta ask her out. It seems like you really like her, and it also sounds like she likes you a bit to bro. If you dont, all the anxiety in you will build up and you will eat yourself alive. Asking her is the only way to get it out. In my case i asked the girl out, and she rejected me, she just didnt think of me that way, but she gave me a kiss on the cheek, and told me that it made her feel confident and thought it was great to know that i had the courage to do it. We are still best friends, and she tells me all of her problems. you have a 60 40 shot it sounds like... May the odds be ever in your favor! :) GOOD LUCK
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I think you should try hinting it to her, and see what her reaction is. If you really like her, then give it a shot. The worst that can happen is she'll say no. Be prepared for that.
Not asking her out is definitely playing it safe, but if you have those feelings for her and you don't ask her out, you'll never know what her response could have been. I think it's worth trying.
You can try practicing in front of the mirror, so that you're more confident with what you're gonna say.
I'd like to correct Andrew. David did not cheat on his girlfriend, she cheated on him.
Good luck :)
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It's all up to you. Do you want her to know the truth or do just want to stay friends? If you do ask her out and she says yes, than you need to be faithful and trustworthy. DO NOT CHEAT ON HER! She already knows you did it once to your ex-girlfriend. This is a very tough situation, but all I can say is trust and follow your heart.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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If I were in the situation I would probably remain friends with her. Dating someone is a chance you take, Some end badly and some don't. I would not want to jepordize the friendship by taking it to a new level. You could even hold off on it because the truth is you'd be more likely to work out when your a little older then 16.
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