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hello internet im 13f and i have cut myself almost everyday scince i turned 11.i am coated in scars head to toe littereally and tommorow i start gym class we have to wear shorts and a tee shirt.I am not excited and am very worried about it and sad i have to do it in face i just cut pretty deep on my calf and 3 0r 4 cuts on my wrist i ussually cut in 3 bouts a day before school sometimes during if its a hard day as soon as i get home and ussually before bed.they are deep and take a ery long time to heal.i ahve depression and anxiety and im going to a phyciatrist.i am ery worried about school and gym and have terrible anxiety dreams every night.in the dreams i drop a razor blade from my pockeet in class and it is found.these scare me really badly and they rule my life.i get depressed easily too and do get suicidal.last year in gym class one of my fresher cuts showed and people mad efun of me untill i tried to kill myself and i am bullied in school.i start to not enjoy anything for fear and i do sometimes wish i could end it would it be easier?idek please help me (link)
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:'( heres some VERY good advice...
STOP. Look, cutting youself isnt good. I know... Im a fucking rocket scientist, but seriously, there is no reason for anyone to ever cut themselves. It sounds like you have a bad case of this, i suggest that you tell your parents. I know it sounds bad, but you need to. I understand that cutting releaves stress, but there are other ways (healthy ways) to releave stress. Im sure that you are a beautiful young girl, and this is not ok.
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I went out last night with a few people from work (some who came along I hadn't spoken to before) There were a few of us and we all got pretty drunk. We ended up going back to one of the guy's house and after having more drinks we decided to stay over and go to bed.
One of the guys got into bed with me and starting kissing me, we hadn't spoken much during the whole night. He started hugging me and tried having sex with me but I said no. After that he continued kissing me, getting on top of me and kissing my neck. After that we just ended up talking for hours until he noticed I was going to sleep so he pulled me in closely towards him and spooned me. When I woke up this morning he was awake and hugging me. We Haven't properly spoken since apart from him talking about some of the things I said last night. Do you think he seems interested in me or just wanted sex? (link)
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He's in it for sex.... Definatly.
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I have no problem giving advice to others who want to kiss a partner to do it spontaneously and totally believe that's what to do so I don't feel bad about asking about kissing as we can all learn and refine technique.
My situation is a little different. I'm not a teen anymore. As a kid and later a teen I had no experimentation or experience with kissing at all.
I was bullied all my life and spent the last ten years of my adult life dealing with a serious illness.
I'm now an adult and haven't ever kissed a woman be it a peck on the lips or an open-mouth kiss and have the opportunity of potentially doing so soon and am excited but TERRIFIED.
My partner knows of all this but what I want to know is if there are any set rules about the first time with a partner or at all. For example is it expected that the first time is a peck or can you do more than that?
What are sure fire tips to make this come off right rather than embarrassing or put her off for good? My gut instinct is to just go for it and let chips fall where they may. She told me a story once about people she knew that met that way so I think she wants that kind of moment with a guy. Any advice is extremely helpful.
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Ok, you seem pretty uptight about this, and i have a few things to say...
1) RELAX...i know your scared, but the more nervous you are, the potientialy worse kiss your gonna have with her. Plus, you might scare her too.
2) do whatever the hell feels natural. If you want to start with a quick peck, lean back, and see if she wants more. (personal opinion) i definatly wouldnt go for toung action the first time, but generally, more couples start with a quick peck. But seriously, start simple, and then if she is leaning in for more, then give her more!
3) you also have the option not to kiss, dont feel as if you have to, just tell her that your scared. Its ok. (i wouldnt expect you to do this one)
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I really like this guy. He has a great sense of humor and makes me laugh all the time and he is one of those "nice guys". He could go out with any girl and I just don't see how I would be good enough for him, but he flirts with me all the time. I know that that doesn't have to mean anyhing but I'm comfused. How do you tell if he is interested?
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for starters, he likes you. Lol. But umm... Try flirting back. (i personally wouldnt) lick his forehead... Thats just weird, not flirty. Give him hugs. Ask him if you can feel his muscles. Ask hin out even. But he prolly likes you!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and I just haven't found the nickname that totally fits him....any ideas I how to come up with one that fits? (link)
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whatever name you want to call him works. My ex called me snuffleompagis. ( i thought that was sexy ) us guys will pretty much take any name you call us. Just whatever you come up with... Let it come from your heart. Then youll know ots a good name
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Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for a month and a half and we've already gotten to second base. I am completely comfortable with how far we have gone, but what I wanted to know if we are moving too fast physically. I’m 16 and he’s 17, he doesn’t push me about any of it, it’s all on my terms. So are we moving to fast? (link)
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Here are the Bases of Love ( My opinion )
-The Sporting Goods Store
Your single and trying to find WHAT (who) you want.
-The Batting Cages
You know WHAT (who)you want and your tesing it out. ( your hitting on them and asking them out)
-Little Leagues
1st Base: Going Out
2nd Base: Hold Hands
third Base: Hugs
Home Base: Kiss
-Big Leagues
1st Base: French Kissing (tounge action)
2nd Base: Playing a little while you kiss ( his hand on your butt)
third base: Marraige ( I'm Christian, these are my bases)
Home Base: Move in with each other
- World Series
1st Base: Protected Sex
2nd base: Unprotected Sex
third Base: Raise Child
4th Base: Die with each other
OR
- You strike out (Break-up, divorce)
It sounds like you two are prolly at kissing ( thats what most people 2nd Base is. I'd say your fine. Keep taking it slow!
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He's 7, btw.
He occasionally plays on some virtual gaming site for kids, where people can create avatars of themselves, to roam the little "gaming world", with has other avatars. I noticed his character was white with blonde hair, while he is dark skinned with black/dark brown hair, as he comes from a West African family. We live in America, in a small town that's diverse, but predominantly white and asian (specifically, mostly indians and koreans).
Multiple times I'd suggested he make his avatar look like him, and he refused. Weeks later, I confronted him about it and kept pressing him about why he made his avatar look the way it does. He said that he made the avatar to be one of his closest friends, a white boy at school, and even named the character after him. But then I asked him why he couldn't let his friend make an avatar of himself, and he (my brother) make one of HIMself. Then he told me that he wouldn't fit in with the other avatars, who are apparently mostly white, because of him having a different color. He said that he wouldn't have the same friends if he made his character look like him. But I asked him why he thinks that, when in real life he has diverse friends (he tells me he's friends with all the boys in his class) and color isn't important to them, but he wouldn't give me an answer. I told him that he wouldn't want to be friends with anyone who thought skin color was important, but he still didn't budge.
So I have no idea where he's getting this from, because the website has a filter, so I doubt anything racist could have gotten through, and my family says no racist things (as we're not racist), which leads me to believe that he may have been negatively impacted by something at school, or possibly brainwashed by TV (which he watches too much) to feel insecure, somehow? I'm not sure.
After I talked to him he started to cry, but I'm not sure whether it's because I kept pestering him or if it was because I uncovered some hidden pain he felt about his skin color? I have no idea. I don't know whether I should tell my parents about this, either. I'm 18, and I just don't want my little brother to grow up feeling badly about his skin color, for no reason. I never even felt that way at his age. I liked looking different from most other kids, and appreciated all of our differences. I never even knew about any reason to not like my skin color at age 7, and even though I'm more aware of the world now, I still feel the same. I spent my formative years mostly in the Northeast (in a much bigger, and slightly more diverse town, of the same upper middle class socio-economic status), so I don't know if it makes a difference now that we're now in Texas.. I don't know what kids here have been taught at home. We even go to a diverse church, too, cause churches that are predominantly one race just aren't the most comfortable. I like church to be a reflection of the same people I see everyday, not for it to be some kind of escape from the real world, where there is a degree of diversity.
But I'm just worried for my brother. I just want him to have a good childhood and feel good about himself. I don't want him to believe any stereotypes and feel badly about something that has nothing to do with him, personally. He's only responsible for himself and his actions, and can do w/e he wants, regardless of how the media depicts "black boys". If he got this notion from TV, I don't even know how, when he just watches only kids programming. COuld the lack of diversity on a lot of kid shows be the blame? But I've watched my share of TV while growing up, but I don't feel like he does. Am I overreacting, or if not, what should I do? (link)
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I wouldn't worry to much about this. The boy is just trying to make friends. Im white, and my avatar on xbox, is an asian guy with an afro, indian facepaint and a ghile suit on. Let the boy be who he wants to be.
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My name is david and im 16 and im having trouble asking a girl out, but the problem is that she is my best friend, her name is tiana she is also 16, we have been best friends since 3rd grade and now where sophmore's. i recently broke up with my gf about a month ago for cheating and tiana has been helping me deal with it every step of the way, i started noticing that i liked her when i started dreaming about her in my dreams, and now i just cant stop thinking of her, everytime i meet her at school i get butterrflies, i just cant stop thinking of her. i want to ask her out on a date but im scared she might reject and we might stop being best friends. i dont know what to do i wanna be with her but i dont wanna lose her, i dont want to lose my best friend... SHOULD I ASK HER OR LEAVE IT THE WAY IT IS? i dont know what to think. (link)
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I had the same problem you do, I know this just seems so scary. but,you gotta ask her out. It seems like you really like her, and it also sounds like she likes you a bit to bro. If you dont, all the anxiety in you will build up and you will eat yourself alive. Asking her is the only way to get it out. In my case i asked the girl out, and she rejected me, she just didnt think of me that way, but she gave me a kiss on the cheek, and told me that it made her feel confident and thought it was great to know that i had the courage to do it. We are still best friends, and she tells me all of her problems. you have a 60 40 shot it sounds like... May the odds be ever in your favor! :) GOOD LUCK
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so like me and my bf are gonna have sex he's like super experienced so what should i do i have no idea . tips on what to say, how to move? detailed the better. any good sites? also all the girls say he's huge and really good. he's 4 years older than me. thanks!! (link)
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the guy you wanna lay, sounds like a male prostitute. Sorry, he just does. he's obviously had sex with other girls, and if i were a girl, i wouldnt go for it. RED FLAGS!
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hello,am from iraq,i just wanna ask about having sex for the first time!! will i get hurt? (link)
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Are you married? if you arent, later down the road, you will be hurt when that special someone waited for you but you didn't wwait for him. stay safe and wait till you KNOW he's the special someone. After marrage is the best time. Good luck!
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I am 19 years old, female, from a family background of muslims (surprise, surprise).
I'm pretty much not allowed to wear what I want because everything I want to wear is considered inappropriate.
For example, yesterday I wanted to wear a skirt that is PAST knee-length, and only shows the lower shin area... which is half way to the knees. No big deal, right? Wrong! My mom just looked at me with this shocked look in her eyes, and said that we're going on a family picnic and that it's just not nice or appropriate.
And then she started drilling me on how my clothing is not appropriate or "long enough". She wants me to find tops that are like up to my knees. Like seriously? seriously?
And then she continues to tell me how my cousins also think my clothing is inappropriate as well since one of them called her and told her that I was wearing inappropriate clothing and that she did not feel comfortable.
And this cousin of mine wears a burqa that covers her face so clearly we both have different ideas on what is appropriate.
Last time, I went to a sleepover at her house. And when I got dressed to go to the mall, she started yelling at me for my clothing. I was wearing chiffon top with a tank top underneath, but from the back I guess the tank was low that you could see my bra straps so she started freaking out, and yelling at me. And telling me that what I'm wearing is not appropriate, and I can't wear what I want to because it's not appropriate, and that I'm at her house. And when I told her I was wearing a tank top underneath, she called me liar. Until I ripped it out from underneath to show her. Which actually made her shut up with an "Oh..."
Anyways, I'm angry, frustrated and really annoyed. I'm 19 years old, I think I'm old enough to make decisions on what I want to wear without having people attack me or belittle me because it's not up to their standards.
I usually don't say anything or argue back to my cousin out of respect, and because we're really close. But honestly now, I don't think I'm interested in having to deal with her. She's a total bitch in general, and starts arguments for no reason.
Anyways, for the future. Would it be better for me to confront her and tell her to back off and mind her own business?
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first of all, yes you are legaly an adult. wear what you want to wear. I wouldnt tell your mom this; " Hey, bitch back off, i'm and adult and i govern myself."
Maybe tell her this instead: " mom, i'm not your little girl anymore, you cant always be there for me, and you cant always make desisions for me. its time to face that fact, and let ME be who I want to be" :) good luck. my mom is overprotective too. I feel your pain girl.
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So I've been talking to this guy for about a year off & on. I'm 13 & a female. Yes I'm young, but my maturity level is VERY HIGH. The guy I've been talking to is everything I look for in a guy, he isn't like the others. But he is 15. Now remember you donot know me, but anyone that does knows I'm very mature for my age. & this guy I like he isn't asking anything from me. He's not a virgin, but he's only had sex ONE time. With someone he was with for awhile. Anyways, what is your opinion opon such a an age difference? (link)
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Im 17 and I am a virgin. but, i think an age difference in your case is fine. 3 years or less is o.k. but over 3 is not safe. However, if you DO get this guy, dont act slutty, guys hormones will go crazy, and your gonna lose your sacred gift of virginity. take it slow.
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im 9 years and want to know how to get him to touch my boobs im 100% sure i want to please tell me im in love pluse my boobs are big and sexy!!!!!so please help (link)
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umm... your 9. why do you already care about your boobs? And i agree with andrew. you should wait until you are 1. In HIGHSCHOOL at least, untill you worry about this subject and 2. 9 year old boys arent in the stage where girls are attractive. I'm 16 and i still havent touched a girls boobs. a time will come when a guy is touching, sucking, licking, bouncing and screwing you and your boobs. But not for a LONG time. try talking to your parents about this.
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