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Hope to talk to you soon.
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I'll try to make this quick. Back in August, I started seeing a guy called RW. I thought he was great at first, but then he turned out to be not so nice. At least that's how I feel. I feel like there's a lot I'd like you to know about RW, but all you really need to know is that I wasn't very happy most of the time I was seeing him. I felt a lot better when I started thinking about breaking it off in September.
Long story short, in September, two guys from my past came back into my life. Their names are Robert and Jude and I've had crushes on them both (Robert in 2010 and 2011 and Jude in 2011). I started seeing them both a little over three weeks ago and simultaneously broke it off with RW.
They both have so many qualities that I just adore. They're both extremely handsome, sweet, good hearted guys that make me feel so good and happy when I'm with them. Jude is so charming I could cry and Robert is so funny and so sweet I can't stand it. They both have a lot of the same qualities I thought RW did, but theirs kindness, sweetness, charm, good looks, and senses of humor are much more my style.
I know it's kind of skeezy to see two guys at the same time, but I was trying to decide between them and now, I'm pretty sure it's gonna be Robert. Now we get to my problem. RW will not go away. I was hoping that the break up would be the end of things, but he keeps showing up everywhere. He showed up at an art walk we went to, a he showed up Saturday when I went to a movie with Robert, he showed up yesterday uninvited to a friend's birthday celebration. He Won't go away. He's not letting go of our relationship.
RW has problems that I didn't know the severity of back in August. He has some kind of mental disorder and a bad drinking issue. He's not above using violence (or at least he doesn't seem to be) and I'm a little worried about what he's capable of. I don't think he'd physically hurt Robert or Jude, but it wouldn't be the first time he'd hurt someone. He can do nothing to me because I've got tons of men in my family and group of friends who'd kick his @$$.
What should I do? I need this guy out of my life and away from me Robert and Jude. (link)
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Stalking is illegal, and police involvement is recommended.
They may either talk to him, watch him, pick him up, or even suggest a restraining order.
And if you're afraid of violence, especially, call your local police department for advice.
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I have done like this..but I am getting late in my periods is this causes of this mistake.??? (link)
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Pardon? I don't understand I'm sorry.
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Is it normal to bleed after my bf fingered me? it hurts a little and i just wanna know if it isnt anything serious if i bleed. (link)
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There are a couple possibilities, none of them serious.
If your hymen is unbroken, he make have broken it.
Otherwise, he may have accidentally cut you somewhere"down there". If you bled a LOT, that's probably what happened.
Even a REALLY small cut can make a LOT if blood. Weird as that may sound. Make sure your boyfriend cuts his nails as short as physically possible before he fingers you again and you should be fine.
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My and my bf had sex with a condom, but after he released in it he took it off should I worry about pregnancy ? (link)
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There is risk any time you have sex. If they didnt spill any nor did the condom pop you will most likely be fine 99%. I wouldn't worry, you are in the clear. If you're really worried you can get an after pill to be sure
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Ok so 13/f and I recenttly started masterbating a bit for my own pleasure and because I've been feeling stressed lately. I read online that masterbating was like fingering yourself (2 fingers) I started out with one finger and Ive used one finger for a while now. Today, I wanted to try 2 fingers and in the shower I masterbated and it hurt to get both fingers in my vsgina and I only got the tips before it hurt too much. I didnt want to force my body but I did and I shoved both fingers up my vagina as hard as I could so I could loosen it abit. I pulled my fingers out and I noticed blood on my fingers. I am not currently on my period because that doesnt start for about 2 more weeks and I dont know why I had blood on my fingers and Im keeping a pad on just incase it leaks. Help? Idont knoww why im bleeding! (link)
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You just broke your hymen, honey, it's okay. On the bright side; the first time you have sex won't be very painful (if at all).
And no you aren't broken or anything, just because your hymen is broken. Many girls break their hymen riding horseback, riding a bike, and so on. So it's not uncommon to have a broken hymen, even done this way. Many girls break their own hymen accidentally while exploring their body and masturbating.
So there's nothing to worry about, and it just bleed a little then stops. It won't keep bleeding or anything.
And if you bleed again while masturbating or even while being fingered (another person inserts their fingers in and out just as you have done) it is most likely you have just accidentally made a little cut some where in or on your vagina. Even a really small cut might bleed a lot (my ex did that, I thought he broke something inside or something really bad) but it was actually a really small cut on my labia (outer part of the vagina). It bled a lot but it was nothing at all. I freaked out, so while on the topic I figured I'd let you know. put a pad in (not a tampon) until it's done. This will most likely happen to you (as it probably happens to every female at least once).
Keep your nails trimmed, and make sure any partner you have does the same
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my left boob is a little bigger and noticeable to some people who know me very well. i really hate it. i just noticed it when i was close to getting my period. could it be hormones. please help? By the way i am 14 and have only had my period for a few months. (link)
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I'm going to take a shot in the dark and say you're right handed. Why? Because breasts are just fat, and if you use your right arm more than your left, you're exercising the fat on your right side (writing, carrying something, and so on) more than your left. It really is normal to be uneven in your breasts, my boyfriend likes it because it makes it easier to tell which is which (my boobs are named: piggy and cupcake. piggy is bigger than cupcake). If it really bothers you, you can exercise your left side more (use your left hand for simple tasks instead of your right. For example if you have something to carry and you can carry it in one hand, use your left hand instead of your right).
But honestly, it doesn't matter. Your future boyfriend (and/or girlfriend) will not care. No one's perfect, so just go with it! It's alright. Some females have breasts so different that they're different cup sizes even. Know what they do? They get bras that fit (yes they make bras where half is one cup size and the other is a different cup size). So there isn't anything to worry about. And you're still only 14, your breasts will most likely even out more than they are now. For some reason they don't grow at the same rate, I don't know why but there you go. So just be patient, they'll probably even out quite a bit more than they have so far.
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What are some good nicknames for my boyfriend tim?? (link)
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haha, my best friend's boyfriend's name is Tim.
Timmy Boy
Timmy
Timbo
Bumfluff
Cutie
Hun
Babe
Lollipop (if you wanna be sexual)
Popsicle (sexual, again)
Lover
Hunny buns
Tim Tim
Timothy
Steve/George (I forget names so I make names up. Not really relevant but why not, might be fun to call him George... long as he is aware you're doing it on purpose)
Tee
Lil Timmy Boy
Tip Toe TIm
Thomas
Timbit
Tim man
Tin Man
Timi
Timiloi
Timmy the Turtle
T
Timbits
Turbo
Tim the Toolman Taylor
Theodore
Timson
Timothong
Timrang
Big T
Little T
T-man
Mi-T
Ty
Mitt
T-Bag
Timiee (different way of spelling Timmy)
Mr. T
Tater-Tot
T-dawg
Ti
Tilla
T-bone
Timp
Timicali
Timmi tim tim tim
T T
T Mo
Timinator
Timmy Toot Toot
Timwit
I may have had a little too much fun with that...
Enjoy!! :D
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Ok so I am a well known author and I will not tell you who I am obviously, but I need some amateur writers ideas. Im about to write a new novel and I need a good topic. Ive been thinking about writing about either a tragedy/ natural disaster or I could write about finding true love. I love either topic but Im at a loss for words. I do not know how to start or what should be my plot and setting and stuff like that. So, I would love some ideas from great amateur writers and in return if I like the ideas I will mention your name in my book so if you give me a reply please state your first name and your age. Thank you all alot and I will enjoy reading your suggestions. (link)
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I don't know who you are, or if you'll even write this (let alone if I'll ever find out) but my friend gave me this idea for a story and I tried really hard but I couldn't finish it. I got a plot, and a beginning, and then it just sat in a folder unused. It made me sad, so hopefully this can get it to be finished, and not just wasting away, only partially written while I'm working on my current novel...
My name and age: Emilie (my friends call me "Emi) and I'm 18 years of age. I also give you permission to make changes, hopefully not too many if you use the story, and would also much appreciate some how being let known if you do decide to use it. I would really like to read this book, it's just sad that I can't get it written myself.
You can do the story just from "the idea", but since you said you're having issue with your plot and getting started as well I'm going to type up what I have, and cross my fingers that I'll get to see what comes up of it if anything. But a quick note: the grammar and writing isn't the best because I just jotted some stuff down fast and then I go back over it with corrections....
So here goes ----
The title: "Half Breed"
The idea: teenage punk half faerie, half demon girl loses her faerie mother and demon father to an angry demon ex-girlfriend of her father's and has to raise herself. She has a hard exterior but all she wants to do is be loved by the cute lipstick lesbian new girl she meets in GBLT (Gay Bisexual Lesbian Transgender) club she goes to every day.
Characters:
Stardust Willow; blonde, blue eyes, waist-long hair, colourful wings, long white flowing dress, mother, faerie, tan skin, no make up
David Storm; black hair, red eyes, pale skin, shoulder-length hair, right eyebrow pierced three times, star tattoo on neck, father, demon
Sapphire Willow-Storm; Black waist-long hair with blonde tips (naturally), she dyes the blonde tips different colours using temporary hair dye every day, purple eyes, pale skin, no wings, [piercings: tongue, lower lip on each side ("spider bites"), and right nostril], seventeen, senior in high school, star tattoo on right wrist, daughter, half and half, wears purple lipstick and black make up
Cady; "Crazy Cady", short fiery red hair, covered in tattoos and piercings, demon, the ex girlfriend
Trinity Zenago: Brown eyes, brown shoulder length hair, human, senior at high school, seventeen, the new girl, pink lip gloss/pink make up
"Crazy Cady" shoots Stardust and David while Sapphire is hiding under the couch and is unseen, she crawls out and calls her faerie grandfather, the only one in the family who doesn't resent Stardust and David for their relationship, to help her and take care of the bodies (telling her they're have a private funeral). Her grandfather lets her stay home from school (human school) to mourn, and calls her in ill.
The next day she goes to school and meets Trinity, who needed to get more school credits and had to join a club, so she joined GBLT club.
GBLT is everyday after school, but clubs are supposed to just meet once a week after school so Mon-Thurs is for the members to socialise and be themselves (but not required to be there, it's optional) and Fridays are the required club meetings.
Sapphire and Trinity stay every day and after talking for awhile, decide to go on a date (movies and snack's at Sapphires's). They kiss.
Grandfather checks up on Sapphire every here and there --- but doesn't live with her.
Trinity goes with to the funeral, after funeral they talk about Sapphire's heritage. Trinity gets frightened, especially by the word "demon" used, and stops going to GBLT. Grandfather consoles Sapphire that she'll come around, and eventually he is proven correct.
What I managed to jot down:
"Quick, hide under the couch." Dad ordered under his breath.
I didn't question it, I knew that tone. I lifted the flap and crawled under the raised couch army-style.
Suddenly there was angry pounding on the door.
Dad's heavy footsteps went towards the front door and opened it.
"You MARRIED her?!" an angry woman yells.
"Crazy Cady," I barely heard my mother's whisper say.
"I can't believe you married a fucking faerie! And not only that, what's this I hear about you having a half breed brat?" she continued to fume.
"Calm down, Cady." My dad tried to soothe.
"David, how could you? I loved you! And I'm a demon, like you! And not only did you leave me, you're with a faerie and having a family on Earth! You traitor! You betrayed your demon ancestors. You tainted your own family blood!"
"I don't care about any of that, Cady. Don't you get it? I love Stardust, can't you see that?"
"But David," she whined, "I love you."
I lifted the flap to see what was happening, and see who Cady was. I saw an angry woman with short fiery red hair, covered in tattoos and piercings, with her hands on her hips.
Dad watched her with his calm red eyes, his shoulder length black hair covered his single tattoo of a star on the nape of his neck which matched the one on the inside of my right wrist.
Mum tried to keep her distance in her long flowing white dress, her colourful wings perked in fear --- ready to fly away at any second. She was clutching her blonde hair, waist long like mine, and watched dad and Cady with wide frightened blue eyes.
Then I saw it; a gun holster on her ankle. She reached for it and I saw dad's eyebrow twitch as he knew he couldn't do anything.
She pointed it right at him and squeezed the trigger as I squeezed my eyes shut. BANG!
Tears streamed from my eyes, but I kept quiet.
"It appears we're alone, now," Cady grinned at my mother.
"Please, don't do this." Mum whispered.
"I have to, now. You wanted to be together. Now you can be DEAD together. 'Till death do you part!" BANG!
More tears soaked the carpet.
"It's okay, you can come out now," She was looking right at me. "I won't hurt you, come, let's talk."
I refused. I didn't move.
She knelt in front of the couch, "your daddy and mummy were foolish. But you haven't don't anything wrong... Yet. I'm sorry you had to see that, I truly am, but I had to do it. I didn't wish for you to have to see that, I'm sorry." Then she got up and left, leaving my parents on the floor behind.
When she was gone, I climbed out and just cried until I ran out of tears.
Good luck with your writings [what ever book you choose to make] author with out a name.
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14/f
Hey everybody. FIRST OFF- I am not talking about now, I am talking about when I'm older!!
Various resources have scared me away from childbirth, and I was wondering- is it as difficult to adopt as I've heard? I plan on adopting a young child if I ever decide to adopt. I know that adopting an infant is a huge production, but what about a small child?
Also, which is more expensive (adoption or childbirth in a hospital)? Can anybody tell me approximately how much either would cost?
Also, are childbirth and pregnancy as horrible as I've come to learn they are?
Any answers are much appreciated, thank you! (link)
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There are three options for having a child:
1. Traditional (the infant goes through your vaginal opening)
2. C-section (the doctors perform a surgery to remove the infant from your womb)
3. adoption
Adoption is VERY expensive, but so is having a baby. year by year, the price is about the same. But the difference is a lot of the time giving birth is paid for by your insurance whereas adoption isn't.
As for the pain: don't worry too much. I mean, how bad can it be if people have like 12 kids traditionally?
In the hospital, if the pain is really bad, they will give you different choices of methods of removing the pain. My aunt's daughter basically slid out on her own without giving my aunt any pain at all, whereas I basically tortured my mother from the inside. It's different for each pregnancy. My brother wasn't too bad and my sisters were fairly easy. And I'm the middle child, not the oldest. So she got pretty easy, horrible, then two more easy ones.
When you're in labour, you can be given an "epidural" which they put in your back and it removes any pain from there down. During the nine months, you can be given both advice and medication to help the pain from your doctor. You get checked every so often, mandatory, so when you go if there's any issues or really bad pain just talk to them and they'll suggest something.
Yes, there are a lot of horror stories. But it's the 21st century now. Things are a lot different now than in the 1800s. in the 1800s you had to endure it all, and now you don't have to.
Although I am completely for adoption, and giving a home to children who need it, I suggest you have a traditional birth.
If you choose a C-section birth, you will have so rest for a lot longer than if you have a traditional birth. So I would say to try for that, rather than a C-section (unless something goes wrong and you need to have the surgery).
By the way, if I am correct: you don't get put to sleep for a C-section. You are awake during it but numbed.
Hope I helped!
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im 17 and my bf is 19 we have been together since i was 15 and we really want a baby right now, but i cant seem to get pregnant. idk what i should do, i know we can do it, we are both cery responsible and he has a full time job and im finishing school. but i cant get pregnant, idk if maybe my body is just doing the right thing and not letting me get pregnent but i really want a baby. more than anything in the world i want a lil baby girl (or boy) idc what i get. (link)
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I know how you feel, trust me I do (my boyfriend and I basically have ants in our pants we want a little one so bad... Especially when I'm menstruating and my hormones are going crazy).
When I was your age (which was only a couple months ago!) I wanted one so bad. When I turned 18, I wanted one even more! I was legal! I could have one without my boyfriend getting in trouble!
So that's the first thing I feel compelled to say: wait until you're 18. If you have an infant, while under the legal age, your boyfriend may get in a lot of trouble depending where you live.
Another thing I think you should do, is have your own place (the two of you) and get your diploma. Finish your diploma before you have the kid, because you can always go to college but going back to high school isn't as easy (and for some it's really embarrassing). Have your own place, not only for the baby but for the both of you. You may love each other, but what if you have some issues living together. You should work those out before adding more stress into the situation. (i.e. the baby).
Estimate about how much a baby costs a year, you can do so with some research online (you can google such things, and factor in anything and everything). Does your boyfriend make enough a year? for clothes, food, furniture, doctor visits, and so on? Or would the two of you not have enough to go on (pay for the bills; electric, water, rent. pay for clothes, food for you and him, or anything else that there may be to get). The money is the only thing stopping my boyfriend and I, the rest is pretty much worked out.
Are the two of you able to miss a lot of sleep? waking up every couple hours to take care of a screaming infant?
You said you've been trying to get pregnant, but you can't. I have a friend who got pregnant, but had a miscarriage. She did everything right, took care of it and everything. The only problem was her body wasn't ready, even though she was. So the fact that you can't get pregnant may be that your body isn't ready to have a child for nine months yet, and so you need to wait. As much as it sucks, you have to.
But on the bright side, when you're 100% ready and you still can't get pregnant: you can talk to your doctor about fertility medications. Then you will be prescribed some pills (most likely) that you can take that will boost your chances of pregnancy significantly.
Until then, you can talk to me about what it's like to take care of kids. I have two little sisters that I take care of 24/7. I don't pay for them, they are paid for, but I cook for them and I have raised them since they were born. I can't tell you much about pregnancy itself, just what I've learned not felt, but I am able to tell you what I go through every day taking care of them. They are now 6 years old and 7 years old.
Emicharlie@gmail.com is my E-mail if you have questions or anything about what it's like. And eventually, I can tell you any tips and tricks I've learned about getting pregnant. Like the dates you should have intercourse to increase the likelyhood, and such like that.
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Okay I have had two children. You think I would know this answer but I don't. I was on the depo shot for a year. It was causing very bad pain in my stomach so I switched to the pill. I missed I think two pills one of the times I took it later in the day. I am continuing to take the pill. I got my period the end of January like the 21st. It lasted 2 days very light spotting and just stopped. It is to early to take a pregnancy test. Here are my symptoms.
-I have been going to bed earlier at night.
-Extreme headaches.
-nausea (no vomiting but pretty close)
-pain in breast.Around nipple doesn't look darker but mine never were when i was pregnant.
-When I stand up I will have to pee so bad I cant even hold it.
-I haven't weighed my self but I feel bigger or bloated.
- My stomach will feel like its stretching sort of.
Thank you for your time. (link)
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I have high doubts whether or not you are pregnant, but if you are it is too early to tell.
You have not vomited, so it leaves me even more doubtful (even though not every pregnancy has vomiting).
My guess is you are just adjusting to the pills, and so I believe you should wait.
I just saw that you posted this in February.. So unless you gained more symptoms, you have probably decided you weren't pregnant.
But, since it's July, if you still think you are: you can take a home test, using the first pee when you wake up for the most accurate testing.
Good luck!
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My daughter thinks I expect her to be perfect in everything. I don't mean to convey this message. I just want her to do her best and maybe this is seen as wanting her to be perfect. Everytime I try to help her with something or give her advice, I receive a big backlash from her. Again, she tells me I am not her coach or I want her to be perfect. I am just trying to be a helpful mom. Any suggestions? (link)
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Perhaps you could try to sit her down and talk to her, if you haven't already. Try to explain that you don't want perfection but rather you believe she has a lot of potential and hope to see her perform at her fullest. Also, perhaps you could tell her how you're there to help, and want for her to succeed at the highest possible and that if you could assist her in achieving to a point even higher than she is now, because you believe you have more wisdom because you have a generation of experience and are able to portray your knowledge, perhaps she can get even more knowledge by listening than she would without you.
You've gone through the teenage years, though perhaps without the same technologies, emotionally and psychologically you've had experience with it.
You may not be perfect nor know all the right words, but the fact that you're truly trying is all that can be asked of YOU. She's not the only one who thinks perfection is asked of her, perhaps you're trying to be the perfect mother as well. All you can do is try to be there when she needs you, and help her when she can. Through the teenage years, all girls rebel against their mother. I'm sure you have as well, thinking your mother said or meant this or that, then when you grew to adulthood and had one of your own you began to understand when she had done or said.
It's not much different in this situation, so just be patient with her. Let her understand herself and the changes she's going through, then she'll be able to understand those around her. Including her loving mother.
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What to do when Oral sex with a smoker makes vagina smell like tobacco (link)
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Have them chew gum, or brush their teeth,
Perhaps you could suggest romantic activities, like food in the bedroom. Then you can bring in foods that can mask the smell more.
Then after intercourse, you can use feminine wipes to get rid of any extra smoke smell that may be left.
I keep feminine wipes by the bed, we use them any time my boyfriend and I have sex. It cleans up any mess that may be there (some "jizz" inside or outside my vaginal opening, for example) and he will use one on himself. They're scented, too. Perhaps you could make a habit of that?
Hope I helped, if all else fails perhaps them quitting or an alternative to cigarettes (electronic ones, for example, don't leave a smell) could be used.
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