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first time sex w/ experienced guy
so like me and my bf are gonna have sex he's like super experienced so what should i do i have no idea . tips on what to say, how to move? detailed the better. any good sites? also all the girls say he's huge and really good. he's 4 years older than me. thanks!!
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the guy you wanna lay, sounds like a male prostitute. Sorry, he just does. he's obviously had sex with other girls, and if i were a girl, i wouldnt go for it. RED FLAGS!
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I'm kind of nervous for you. This guy is four years older than you which make me wonder about your age. And he's had sex before. If I were you, I would have a problem if a bunch of girls were telling me how good the guy is in bed. That means that they have either slept with him or they found out from somebody else which means he might be a bragging as to what he is doing with these girls. DO YOU NOT SEE THE RED FLAGS HERE? All I'm saying is be careful. PLEASE BE SURE THAT THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT TO DO AND THAT THIS GUY IS WHO YOU WANT TO DO IT WITH. DON"T BE SO QUICK TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY. Keep in mind that your body is special. Make sure this guy respects you, your emotions and your body. Hopefully you know this guy really well.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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Just relax, the first time will be quite painful, especially if he is as huge as everyone says, so don't tense up or anything, just do what feels right and stop if its too bad (trust me, I had to stop my first time.)
But, as you do seem younger than most adults would like, make sure your ready to have sex, when you loose your virginity it's gone forever, and from my experience you should make sure you care about this boy before anything happens. If you want to go ahead and do it anyway the only advice I can give you is foreplay is important, it warms you up and readies you for what's to come and sets the mood.
During actual sex, that depends on what you both like, guys don't like girls to be stiff while they do whatever, so move with him, your body will help him know what you like and what you don't. if he's on top (which is likely for your first time) don't worry too much, you'll probably naturally move with him, if your on top you have a lot more work to do, if you just rock your hips back and forth on him that should do the trick just about, until you get into your own rhythm.
Also being silent isn't always appreciated, I myself get embarrassed by loud screams of passion so I tend to make quiet noises and whisper what I want to him, which works twice as well imo but its whatever you both want :)
If he is very experienced, be cautious about his behaviour. Some guys are good at saying all the right things, just to get what they want, and a virgin is a good pull for these guys because you will be tight and feel extra nice (which is one reason why when you get older, guys go for girls with less sexual partners). Another thing to be cautious of is STD's, and guys HATE getting tested for these, no idea why. I've never met a guy who was honest when he told me he was checked before we slept together, because I'd of walked away straight from the go if they said they hadn't, which has led to me needing treatment myself, so please be EXTRA careful there.
Now, the 4 year age gap, I understand concerns but you know you best, if you find it suspicious then move on, if you believe there's nothing wrong with it then okay, 4 years isn't so bad when your older but at a younger age its alot because of the amount of growing people do from childhood to adulthood,4 years could mean a world of differences, so consider that as well.
If you believe he cares for you and you change your mind about the sex, I'm sure he'd wait until you are 18, where the 4 years means almost nothing (funny how that works isn't it?) but trust your instincts most of all and be careful :)
goodluck x
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Woops; Keep your panties on young lady. You say this guy is four years older than you. If you are under the age of 16 or 17. You are under the age of consent in most states, that is if you live in the U.S.
Should your parents or anyone else find out that you are having sex with someone his age and disapprove, which I believe they would. They can send him to jail for many years even life in some states. The charge would be Statatory Rape. Even though you may be willing to have sex with him; being younger then the age of consent you legally cannot consent to having sex therefore he is from a legal stand point raping you. Hence the term statutory rape.
Now if you should be above the age of consent there is the differences in your age. Because he is 4 years older then you and you may be younger than 18, that would make you still a minor. The top charge would be child molestation,
There is no reason in the world why someone 4 years older than you should be looking to have sex with you. This is totally wrong. He should be dating women or girls his own age. To my mind he is, or at least is, a child molester in the making.
By dating girls so much younger than him he is either very immature or unable to relate to people his own age.I am baseing my remarks on the fact that you have not given either of your ages. Which caused me to make some assumptions.
The 4 year age differance tells me this boy is at least 17 years of age or older. By your writing style I'm gussing you are 14 or 15. Your body may be capable of sex but you are really way to young to be having sex. What precautions have YOU taken to prevent pregnancy? You can't depend on him. Condoms are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. That is a 2.5 in 10 chance of getting pregnant and contrary to what a boy may tell you. You can get pregnant from your first sexual experience.
If he is as experienced as you say he is; has he been tested recently for HIV AIDS or STDs. Do you want your first sexual experience to infect you with an STD or HIV? Did you even think about asking him to be tested and showing you the test results? Your a virgin it's a pretty sure bet your clean; how sure can you be about him?
I know you don't like what I have written here but I am looking out for your safety. He is not in love with you the way you may be with him. In fact you could be in danger.
My advice is to leave him and find someone else. I would even encoourage you to talk to your parents about him. There is something wrong here. If you were my daughter I would report him to the police and let them investigate. That is how strongly I feel that he is a preditor. Is he or will he hurt you. I don't know and I truly don't want to read in the newspaper that some young girl was hurt by someone 4 years older than her and have to wonder if it was you.
So take my advice: Don't have sex with him, don't go out with him any more and talk to your parents about him before he hurts you or anyone else.
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