|
my bf doesnt like to talk bout our future anymore
HI pls help meh out .. i have a bf n we have been dating for bout 9 months ..at the beginning he used to talk bout all .. how we should have kids n we should marry ... n then .. after we had sex .. not saying only after sex .. but for a month .. its been weird ... everytime i talk bout that he is like .. we ll c .. dont know ... dont think too much .. n then i was like so ur not planning to marry meh n he said i ll be bored to death if we talk bout this .. so i cant talk bout anything i like ... since we r going to uni in bout a month in completely different country .. do u think i should break up with him or should i try to continue it with him? i cry sometimes .. cause wat he says just hurts meh sometimes .. n i m a vry emotional girl .. so m worried .. does he wnts to continue .. n yesterday he asked meh ... if we break uo will we still be freinds .. n all i said was maybe .. so? wat shall i do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Leave him.
He's going to end up leaving you when you guys go to different countries.
He's trying to give you signals without giving it away. Read the signs and don't be naive.
No girl deserves to have to wonder what the hell she did wrong- and I DON'T want you to think that. You haven't done anything wrong.
It just seems like,
1. He's bored with the relationship.
2. He cares for you, but doesn't want to be with you.
You need to let him go and stop letting him drag you around.
Of course though,
We don't know your relationship based off the information you gave us.
Maybe he doesn't want to leave you.
Have you tried asking him 'Why did you ask me about us breaking up and still being friends?"
tell him straight up- if you don't wanna be with me, tell me now-stop playing with my heart.
Good Luck
]
oh babe, how i feel for you! i too am a very emotional woman and have been in your situation very recently. when we got together he was all for spending our lives together, marriage, the whole lot. i was totally honest with him, im bipolar and it can be difficult to be around me sometimes. but he said he wasnt like other men, but he lied. in the last 3 months hes avoided talking about the future, he cleverly changes the subject. 3 nights ago though we talked and he said he still wants us to grow old together etc, but hes been quite distant. then this morning he packed his stuff, said "i love you, but i cant do this. i thought i could, but i cant, im sorry but its over". so my advice to you is if your guy is avoiding talking future issues and one or both of you are off to uni, then i would jump ship now sugar. read the signs, they are all there. maybe u should take the initiative and suggest to him that putting your relationship on hold or ending it would be best for you both. do this face to face if you can and watch his reaction. this will tell you all you need to know. good luck for the future babe, hope everything works out xx
]
I'm really sorry to say this, but I'm almost positive he wants to break up with you. Judging from what he asked you about still being friends if you break up, he wants you to be the one to end it.
If you're having doubts about whether he really cares about you and wants a future with you, then, if you don't want to end it, you should talk to him. Maybe you shouldn't go out of the country with him, if you're so uncertain.
But to get straight to the point, I don't think any girl should have to deal with a boyfriend who makes her cry from him saying mean things. Loving someone shouldn't be about stuff like that.
Since he asked you if you'll still be friends, that means that he really does like you as a person, but maybe not as a girlfriend anymore. If you do break up, don't give up on him! Still be his friend (even if that's a degradation of your pride) and maybe someday you'll get back together again. Or, who knows, maybe you'll meet someone even better who won't ever make you cry.
Good luck!
]
More Questions: |