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invited to party but dont wanna cause a scene.
Okay. Well i really dont know where to begin but im gonna try my hardest to not make this long.
For the past 3 years, i have been head-over-heels for this guy. Long story short. Im practically in love with my step-brother. please dont judge me i have only known him for 4 years. Anyways, last year i was told by his mom, my stepmother, that he had a gf. O.o what? I tried to play it off because 1)they, she & my dad, didnt know how i felt, & 2)we were in a restaurant. So when she told me this my eyes started swelling up with tears & i ended up running to the bathroom. Okay i get it. You know at that time we havent seen each other for a year & now 2. I eventually ended up telling them & they were okay with it. Recently i got into an argument with my stepmom because she got mad at me over nothing, & i took it personally & assumed that now she hates me because of 'J'. She then apologizes & let me know that our relationship hasnt changed & she then told me that her daughter is inviting me personally to her baby's first bday party. I would absolutely love to go but the thing is that 'J' is going to be there... MOST DEFINITELY with his gf. & me, just by seeing their fb pictures together makes cry like a baby. I dont wanna go if im gonna cause a scene but i do want to go to support my stepsis. You know not only that but i hsvent seen the dude since march of 2010. i might need some 'closure' per say. Ugh i dont know. Please help me decide. I love this guy for no reason & ive been trying for so long to get over it but its just been impossible. What to do?
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Someone has to tell you: you are not in love with him! You are infatuated, smitten, attracted to, obsessed, but not in love.
I hope you went to the party. As soon as you begin to see yourself as someone who can contribute to the happiness of others (instead of just being a consumer), you will begin to discover what love is.
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You need to come to terms that your step brother is your family and it will never work out between the two of you. Although you are not blood related you are still family and that is wrong.
Your step siblings are just like your brother and sister only they are married into the family. I would distance yourself from him for awhile and try to get yourself to except that. The way to do so is to try and move on and meet someone else while he does the same.
I encourage you to go to the party, It's good practice.
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sorry hun, im too late to answer in time,i only joined today. if i were you id have gone along, just to say hello and to show your face so you didnt seem rude. i can understand your predicament, it must b terribly frustrating for you love. maybe seeing him again after a couple of years cud help. in such a way that you cud see him in an altogether new light. sometimes us humans want the things that we cant have, (i know that i have a tendency to be a little like that). but please dont think in belittling your situation as thats the last thing id do. just try and look at your feelings frm a different perspective if you can. the world is full of unrequited love unfortunately. it seems i have a tendency to love those who dont love me back. well i wish you the best of luck and i hope things work out 4 you and you find happiness, all the best from oblivion x
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