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Hi so I really really like this guy. He is crazy hot and is really sweet but he hardly ever notices me. I really want him to notice me so we can start getting to notice eachother but we are both the real quiet type and he is always in a big group. Just never talking that is. So how do I get him to notice me and start talking To me with freaking him out?please help!!
Ps I'm thirteen and don't tell me I'm too young cause I've had three boyfriends since I was 11. I'm obviously female and I have the ability to change my personality to suit if need be. (link)
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Good answer from LoveYourself17. Don't force it. Find out his hobbies, sports, movie likes, etc. Where does he go after school? Does he volunteer in the community? What about church or synagogue?
Now, if you can get your paths to cross on many occasions, and he still "hardly ever notices" you, its probably a no go. Attraction is a strange creature, and people have all sorts of reasons they are or are not attracted to certain people. Don't take it personally. If your really old enough to be dating, you'll already know this.
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I'm uncomfortable with my.boyfriend taking to other girls. What should I talk to him about to let.him know I don't want to be controlling , but I would rather he didnt talk to other girls that he use to talk to? (link)
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Razhie is on the right track. Any good relationship is based on trust. The only person you can every really control is yourself. Controlling others rarely produces a good, healthy relationship.
Don't be afraid to let your boyfriend know how his talking to other girls makes you feel. Your feelings are legitimate, but your insecurities are not healthy for the relationship.
After you've talked to your boyfriend, see how he reacts. If he cares for you, he will be willing to talk it out with you. Perhaps he can share what he talks to h other girls about. If he's not willing to talk and affirm you, the relationship is probably shallow, immature, exploitative or all of the above. If that's the case, it's time for you to start talking with some other boys.
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So my boyfriend and I had sex with a condom and I know I shouldnt worry of any pregnancy but I am still scared I could be ? Should I worry?? (link)
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It doesn't sound as if you are really worried about this act getting you pregnant, but are more worried about what would happen if you were to get pregnant. That's a much bigger question. Have you and your boyfriend discussed what you would do if you were to get pregnant? Have the baby? Get married? Give the baby up for adoption? Raise the baby on your own? Have an abortion? These are no small matters.
These are the real questions. If you are planning on having more sex with your boyfriend, it may be wise to have this talk AND use more than one form of birth control. Don't be scared. Take control of your destiny. Live life in a determined manor.
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Okay. Well i really dont know where to begin but im gonna try my hardest to not make this long.
For the past 3 years, i have been head-over-heels for this guy. Long story short. Im practically in love with my step-brother. please dont judge me i have only known him for 4 years. Anyways, last year i was told by his mom, my stepmother, that he had a gf. O.o what? I tried to play it off because 1)they, she & my dad, didnt know how i felt, & 2)we were in a restaurant. So when she told me this my eyes started swelling up with tears & i ended up running to the bathroom. Okay i get it. You know at that time we havent seen each other for a year & now 2. I eventually ended up telling them & they were okay with it. Recently i got into an argument with my stepmom because she got mad at me over nothing, & i took it personally & assumed that now she hates me because of 'J'. She then apologizes & let me know that our relationship hasnt changed & she then told me that her daughter is inviting me personally to her baby's first bday party. I would absolutely love to go but the thing is that 'J' is going to be there... MOST DEFINITELY with his gf. & me, just by seeing their fb pictures together makes cry like a baby. I dont wanna go if im gonna cause a scene but i do want to go to support my stepsis. You know not only that but i hsvent seen the dude since march of 2010. i might need some 'closure' per say. Ugh i dont know. Please help me decide. I love this guy for no reason & ive been trying for so long to get over it but its just been impossible. What to do? (link)
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Someone has to tell you: you are not in love with him! You are infatuated, smitten, attracted to, obsessed, but not in love.
I hope you went to the party. As soon as you begin to see yourself as someone who can contribute to the happiness of others (instead of just being a consumer), you will begin to discover what love is.
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i am a 21 year old girl and i'm bi-curious. i've been bi-curious for a long time.. i masturbate to girl-on-girl porn, i think girls are hott, etc. i know i'm not fully bi, though, bc i can't see myself actually being in a relationship with another girl. i just wanna fool around and see what it's like to be with a girl. i think the female body is really beautiful and i wanna just see what it's like to be with a girl. i'm terrified of rejection so i don't wanna just walk up to girls at the bar or something and say hey wanna hook up? i was just wondering how to find a girl that would just wanna fool around with a bi-curious girl that wants to see what it's like. am i a sicko for wanting that? (link)
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Braiden has a good stating point, but I'd like to suggest another option. You are 21. You are worried what others might think. Nothing has presented itself yet.
There are small bars/clubs throughout the country that are made for gays and lesbians. They are safe havens and are as safe as any straight bars (so, use caution). They aren't necessarily advertised as such, so you will need to search around. They pop up in cities and rural places as well.
Go. You don't need to be the "aggressive" partner to find relationship. Go with a good friend if that would make you more comfortable. If someone is attracted to you, rest assured they will make a move. Be honest with them. Don't pretend you're something you're not. See where it takes you.
Not everyone is lucky enough to have friends and family that would understand and accept your curiosity. In that regard, be careful. This may be a dalliance or it may be a lifelong change. Don't burn any bridges in the process.
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I had sex with My boyfriend and it was My first time. And we didn't use protection but it was quick it was like for 2 mintues I made him stop. Beacause it hurt really bad . And I usually have my period around the 13Th or 15th and I'm really scared. Could I be pregnant? like. Ive been stressed every since we did it. and we had sex around the 10th. Or 11th im. So paranoid and I have no type if appetite what do I do pleasee help (link)
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Rena Chan's advice is right on, as usual. Yes, you could be pregnant, but worrying about it won't help. Wait, and get the tests.
You need to ask yourself (and your partner) some basic questions. How serious is the relationship? Will you have sex again soon? What would you do if you were to become pregnant? These are crucial questions that need to be answered as you face the future.
Now, the mechanics. You said you "made him stop" because it "hurt real bad." This is not unusual for a first time. If you decide to continue to have sex, you will need to address this.
One of the most effective first steps is to be sure you have proper foreplay. If you don't, your vaginal canal (and labia) will lack lubrication and penetrations will be hurtful. Proper foreplay is different for every one. At its best, it is a set of emotional and physical acts that create desire and arousal for both partners. Under normal conditions, a woman will become "wet" and the penis will easily slide in and out of the woman, even if she hasn't had much sexual activity.
Before going to the next step of coitus (sexual intercourse), I would highly recommend non-penetrative acts that will prepare you for the real deal. Learn how to do foreplay. Learn how to pleasure each other orally, with mutual genital stimulation, touching, massage, love talk, mood setting, aroma, etc.
Explore your bodies. Take it slow. Don't worry about orgasm. Work on pleasure. Work on having fun, enjoying the experience, and exploring the wonder and mystery that is sex. It's a journey, not a destination.
Be warned, though. Sexual intercourse is a strong and powerful force. It creates a human bonding that nothing else can. Give it the respect and awe it deserves, and you won't be disappointed. It's a spiritual path. Keep on it, and you will be constantly surprised and rewarded.
(If this doesn't work exactly as you wish, there's always warming jelly. If you have a Dollar Tree in your neighborhood, buy "Warming Touch" in the meds section. It's $1.00 and works as well as the much more expensive KY products. You don't need much. A tiny bit will do. Be sure to use it as a part of your foreplay.)
Enjoy!
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it all started having sex on day two after we met. it was all fine until i cheated for a whole month with my best friend. i got pregnant by my boyfriend but i had been stopped seeing my best friend. My boyfriend and i have a daughter, he doesn't know about me and my best friend having sex after me and him got together. I think he cheated also because he is super jealous, cant even go outside with my daughter without him doubting. Should i tell him? (about me and my best friend) hoping that he tells me why hes so jealous? (maybe he cheated too)!. i want to get over this because now theres screaming and hitting going on in the house. when we wake and and we go to sleep its juszt argue and argue (link)
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I'm not sure I agree with much danger wrote.
I would not tell him. He may know, but if you tell him he will have to deal with it. And, if "hitting" is part of the response, you could be in danger.
You need to truly evaluate this relationship. You have a daughter together, so sacrifices need to take place for her well being. But, it doesn't sound as if you have a very good relationship to begin with.
I would suggest you work on building a better relationship together and forget about easing your own guilt. At the same time, you need to understand why you were unfaithful and deal with it. Don't hurt him to make you feel better.
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when im having sex with my boyfriend and i go on top and ride him . as soon as i start rideing him he cums and i dont get my orgasm how can i stop him from cuming so fast. and we can finish at the same time. (link)
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Hopefully, you've worked this out already.
The obvious answer is to start out by working on pleasuring you first. Make it fun. Start slowly and let your boyfriend know what you like and how you like it. Be honest, but let him know you are going to be honest. Men, unfortunately, have very fragile egos when it comes to sex. Emphasize what you LIKE, (not what he's doing "wrong").
Go from there. Be creative. Sex is fun. Make sure you are relaxed and are actually having fun.
Realize too, that finishing "at the same time" is vastly overrated. It can take many years of wonderful practice to get that to happen on a consistent basis. And, once you achieve that on a regular basis, you might find it's not that great. Remember, great sex is about wonder, and surprise and the unexpected.
You now know how to make him come quickly, so make that the finale. Maybe he can help you with two or three orgasms before that. Wouldn't that be fun?
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Basically since I lost my virginity I have never been able to reach an orgaism during intercourse I have tried so hard to find how I like it but nothing works I have only had an orgaism during sex twice and I'm now 19. My partners have to go down on me before sex to satisfy me otherwise I'm left frustrated. It has started to really get to me! How can I try and figure out how my body like it to make me reach that point and I think its starting to get to my boyfriend. (link)
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I LOVE what Michelle suggested! Did this work? Engage your partners with the problem. If the men are worth anything, they should jump at the chance of helping you orgasm. Don't look to porn for help. Remember, porn isn't about orgasm. It's about the camera capturing the act.
Help out the Advicenators and give us a progress report....
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Hey well this is kinda awkward but here is goes
Well my vagina has a thingy that hangs out of it not heaps but it is noticeable to me and there is no way of getting rid of it. I'm 15 and I'm getting into that stage of letting boys touch down there but I'm kinda of embarrassed about it I'm worried they will be like eww gross!!
Help pleeeeeaaaaaassssseeeee :( (link)
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Flare is absolutely right! You have nothing to be embarrassed about. Letting boys "touch down there" is a wonderful, special gift you are giving them. It is magical and a privilege for them. If they see it any other way, don't let them go there. It's a sacred place. You control access.
In a more technical response, the labia is, among other things, meant to protect the opening of the vagina. It is the gateway to the most sacred part of your existence. When another human enters, it is the closest two can ever be. Don't treat it lightly.
If you are really confident, you might explore your own sexuality and learn how to manipulate your clitoris to orgasm. Then, when you let the "boys touch down there," you will be able to teach them to pleasure a woman. This would be quite a gift (to both the boys and the women who come after).
Of course, like anything, be careful. You probably don't want the reputation of being the great sexual teacher. Only be with boys you care about and trust. And, finding that is probably the hardest part.
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Okay so my pussy will open but not very wide.I want to go from my finger to a toy.But I can not get it in.I'm 14 and My mom always comes in the store with me(not that I know what to buy) Help. (link)
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I have to go with Imperfectionist on this one. You are 14. Exploring your sexuality through masturbation is natural and normal. You don't NEED a toy, vibrating or not. You probably can't get the toy in because you aren't lubricated enough. You don't want artificial lubrication, either. Explore your sexuality. Sexual pleasure is in the mind, not some sex store. Slow down. Enjoy being 14. You'll have plenty of time for quality sex in the years and decades to come. To prepare? Eat healthy food. Stay away from soda, chips, sugar and drugs. Make your body a temple, because it is!
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When I'm giving my boyfriend a hand job, what should I say to him to make it more exciting? (link)
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There is nothing more exciting for a man than turning on a woman. Let him please you! Telling him how much you enjoy what he does is the best thing you can say. Keep it truthful. Don't conjure up porn responses. He'll know you're faking it. ASK him what he likes. He might not be able to tell you, but at least he'll know you care.
As far as mechanics go, you will want to caress the penis slowly and lightly, keeping him hard. Giving him access to your breasts, kissing him lightly on the lips with occasionally probing your tongue into his mouth will help excite him and keep him hard.
Keep it slow. Caress his ball and use your fingers to put pressure directly under the scrotum to increase the tension. Move down to the corona (that little ridge) and continue to keep it slow and somewhat unpredictable. Be aware of his reactions. If he starts to get limp, slow down and let him explore you and give you more pleasure. Again, this is always a big turn-on.
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okay so like I wanna give my bf a handjob but i need to be able to do it without lube. uhmm and like i dont wanna use spit cause that would be awkward soooo ya how can i give a handjob with no lube????? (link)
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It's not clear why you "need" to give the hj without lube, but let's assume you have a good reason. Let's also assume he's circumcised. If you are creative, there are a lot of solutions. To begin with, men produce seminal fluid that not only delivers the sperm, but also helps lubricate. You will want to caress the penis slowly and lightly, keeping him hard. Giving him access to your breasts, kissing him lightly on the lips with occasionally probing your tongue into his mouth will help excite him and keep him hard. Keep it slow. Caress his ball and use your fingers to put pressure directly under the scrotum to increase the tension. Before long, this seminal fluid will begin to ooze out. Slowly use it to become your lubrication. Start by just lightly smearing the fluid over the head glans. Move down to the corona (that little ridge) and continue to keep it slow and somewhat unpredictable. Be aware of his reactions. If he starts to get limp, slow down and let him explore you and give you pleasure. This is always a big turn-on. This method is slower, but can be a lot more fun, so enjoy it!
While it may take a while the first time, each subsequent time should produce lubrication faster.
Another solution is to use baby powder. Again, keep the touch light. You can have faster action - but don't squeeze too hard. In this case, the seminal fluid might be a hindrance. When it leaks out, it could cause friction (mixed with the baby powder), so be careful. Baby powder has the additional advantage of having a very aphrodisiac smell. It reminds us of when we were tiny babies, safe and loved and cared for.
Another fun alternative is to use a condom. A lubricated condom can be slipped into his pants and on his penis and you can jack him off without anyone knowing and easily dispose of the jizz when he comes. Even a non-lubricated condom can reduce the painful friction enough to make it enjoyable.
Hope this helps...
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