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I like this guy and don't know wat to do. Read more to help. Please!!!
Hi so I really really like this guy. He is crazy hot and is really sweet but he hardly ever notices me. I really want him to notice me so we can start getting to notice eachother but we are both the real quiet type and he is always in a big group. Just never talking that is. So how do I get him to notice me and start talking To me with freaking him out?please help!!
Ps I'm thirteen and don't tell me I'm too young cause I've had three boyfriends since I was 11. I'm obviously female and I have the ability to change my personality to suit if need be.
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I myself am kind of shy. But when that outburst of confidence comes, I do not hide it. I advise you do the same. Keep it simple. Smile from across the room, when you have the chance say hi and so forth. Once you feel confident and secure enough go to him. Yes i know he's in a big group and you might not be accepted but your after him, not his friends. It doesn't hurt to be friendly, but don't worry if they don't like you. Be nice and be fun. Sit down at their table, do stuff that involves him and talk to him! Just standing there won't make a conversation. Example, Say your all at lunch. You see him with his friends at their table. Go over and say, "Hey you guys mind me sitting here? I don't want to sit alone ." Even if there's empty tables, I'm sure they won't point it out. Try to sit as close as possible and make conversation with everyone. Then talk to him. Ask everyone their names and then you can talk about what they like to do and he'll be forced to do the same. It may sound scary, everyone's scared of rejection but if you don't try you'll never know! And don't change for anyone, being yourself is one of the best things to do. Best of luck! {:
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Good answer from LoveYourself17. Don't force it. Find out his hobbies, sports, movie likes, etc. Where does he go after school? Does he volunteer in the community? What about church or synagogue?
Now, if you can get your paths to cross on many occasions, and he still "hardly ever notices" you, its probably a no go. Attraction is a strange creature, and people have all sorts of reasons they are or are not attracted to certain people. Don't take it personally. If your really old enough to be dating, you'll already know this.
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I would maybe try to get a chance to hang out with him. Either you can somehow find a way to become friends with one of his friends if you can't get anyway to hang out with him or if one of your friends is somehow friends with him then get them to have a small party. Then you could have a chance to hang out with him, like have not many of his friends come so that you guys have a chance to talk with him. If you can't do that message him of facebook to start talking to him. That is how I became friends with a lot of my guy friends cause it is easy to get a conversation started and talk a couple times. Then get his number and maybe try to meet up with him at some sports event or party. This way you will be able to talk to him and get to know him. This way he will also get to know you and maybe even like you. Hope this helps :)
-Logan- F/15
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Well darling, don't change your personality for him. If he doesn't like you for you then ignore the bastard, lol it's your bestie ELMO;)
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okay, for starters I was right in that position a few years back, and i thought the exact same thing. now, being older i realize that a) boys deffinetally aren't mature at 13... b) if you think that you and this boy will develop a relationship you could try to come out of your shell and like FB message him or just strait up go talk to him in the hall between classes. c) and dont ever change for a boy, they're not worth it.
Monica.
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I know what you're going through. I'm also 13 and a female, and there has been a time where I find a really crazy cute hot guy at school my age or 14yo. Anyways, seriously, you keep chhanging your personality like that and that guy apperantly asked about you, each guy will SAY DIFFERENT things about you!! Then, HE'LL BE FREAKED OUT. Just try to get him alone, or start by smiling at him as you pass by the hallway to start getting noticed. You do that for a while, he'll ask you a question, or if he smiles back at you that's when you talk. Anyways, that's what I do all the time, I'm always myself and no one says anything differnt about me when a guy asks questions about me wit me exes. I've only had 2 boyfriends since I was 11yo. Just be you. If he doesnt like you for you, then he's a jerk and you deserve someone better. Be you and talk to him. Don't be shy you be the first to break down the wall, then after that he'll help you break it down too.
°MC°
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Well don't ever change your personality for a guy. Something is wrong if you have to change WHO YOU ARE for a guy. So you like this guy and don't know what to do. Well, you could TALK TO HIM. There's nothing wrong with trying to get him alone, or you could just do it in front of the whole group but that might be to much for right now. But what I'm trying to say is that there are always questions like this on this website and I try to tell all of them, don't hold back the truth. Just tell that person you like them before it's too late. But you have to talk to him yourself. DO NOT send a friend to talk to him for you. If it helps you could practice what you want to say to him in a mirror, or you can just be spontaneous. I wish you the best of luck.
~Andrew~
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