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hot and cold
hope someone can help-
this guy we were friends like way back.. then lost contact for ages.. suddenly has been getting close and really giving me all the attention thru texts and dinners... i know for a fact he can be busy... but he does have time to text me like 100 times a day (exaggeration) but u get it, a certain good morning to start the day and definitely a good night to end it...and lots in between...
OUT OF NOWHERE this all disappeared.
fine.. we never discussed what we were or what that was about. we were just nice and sweet.
BUT NOW I MISS IT
and i have no idea what ever happened!!
he sometimes says hello been busy ... then i reply then NOTHING EVER anymore...
so i kinda told him, "should i even reply because youre too busy to text back" and of course NOTHING.
where was the "friendship"?
why did this guy act this way???
i am so confused, disappointed and here i go again- confirming my fear of committment and trust issues are really getting the better of me.
why cant he open up or what?!?!
at least i thought i was a friend he can open up to .. :(
am 34...
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In my opinion, no matter how busy you are you have time to reply to a text. People often use "busy" as an excuse to not do things, and this is what it sounds like to me.
Now, I have no idea what kind of relationship you guys had beyond what is written in the question, but the way this guy is acting, it sounds very much like he liked you more than friends. If I am right, then he is now trying to distance himself so as to be able to move on.
Again, I can't be sure, but I have seen this pattern many times. The guy tries to get close, the girl somehow sees it all as a friendship, eventually the guy realises he will get nowhere and so he breaks it off so as to be able to heal and move on.
Anyway, only you can tell if I am on to anything here. If I am not, well... it was worth a shot :P
Good luck :)
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Sometimes, when you're busy you are busy. Nothing you can do about it, just like his mobile phone might have gotten some complications? A lot of things to consider. If you ever do get in touch with him again, try to keep things a little more in person then on the phone. People are one way through text and phone calls and a whole different story in person. You never know. He might just have been thinking of you like a friend, guys flirt as do girls. When we talk to a cute guy we flirt just like a guy would if he saw a cute girl. We fight about it because we're the same. Try to get into his shoes and I'm pretty sure you'll find the answer. If you liked him a little more than for friends, I'm sorry but he doesn't sound like the dependable type. You're choice I guess. Best of luck! {:
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