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In Love!!
Ok, Im in love with this girl Renee. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I went away with her for a weekend and I was really happy... she was really happy.. We kissed and stuff. We fell asleep in each others arms. The next day when we were heading home she was kind of distant. I noticed it and asked her if she was having second thoughts. she said she didnt like me as much as I like her and that the feelings the felt that night had gone away.. I still love her, deeply, I think about her all the time, and we still talk, but I dont want to love her but I cant help it and its killing me, I'm afraid if I stop loving her, I'll stop liking her all together, and I really dont want that to happen.. Im not entirely convinced that her feelings for me are gone, I think she is just hiding them, not wanting to be hurt... but I'd never hurt her!
What can I do? Should I just keep trying to get over her? Should I persist? Could my theorys be true that she is just hiding her true feelings? HELP!!
17/m
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You're theory could definitely be true. Maybe she's been hurt in the past. I know I'm like that.. I mean, I'm one of those girls who has trust issues in a way. Like I'm always afraid I'll be holding people back if they're around me. Either that or I'm afraid I'll get hurt and I cant afford anymore hurt right now, but I don't know why I feel/think this way.
Maybe that's how Renee feels. It's just something inside that pulls at you..you just have to be the best person you can be for her, respect her (which you do)..and like you said, never hurt her. But I know exactly what you're saying, and she could very well be hiding her feelings she has for you. But at the same time she could be telling the truth. It's a complicated situation...and if you love her, like truly love her, then cherish her whether she loves you back now or not..because you never know what could happen in the future.
lots of luck --
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Your theory could be true. She could honestly be hiding her feelings for you. What you need to do is ask her for the truth. Ask her if she is afraid to be with you because of her fear of being hurt. Let her know that you would never hurt her. Explain to her that you have feelings for her, and that you felt a connection with her that weekend. Overall, you can't make a girl like you. If she insist that her feelings aren't as strong as yours and that she still doesn't want to be with you, then you have to let her go, as hard as that may seem. For yu to stop caring about her, you have to stop spending so much time with her. Your heart needs time to heal and get over her sudden rejection of you. Talking with her only time will only add fuel to the fire. I am hoping for the best in this situation.
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She's the only one who can give you a definate answer. Have you been out since the weekend trip?
feeling do not usually just go away over night.So unless she has always felt this way that part just doesn't make sense.
I would ask her out again.If she won't go, then I would just forget her and date someone else.I really don't think she's hiding her feelings, she may have always felt the way she does. Sorry.
Talk about it and get to the truth.It will take time to get over and you may have to keep your distance for a while until you get over her.Good luck:}
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you need to move on.. there are other fishes in the sea. why not try a new hobbie, you'll have fun, learn how to do the hobbie and maybe meet someone in the process
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If all boys were as compassionate about getting the girl as you, the world would be a better place. She is probably just afraid to be hurt. It's natural, you can't gurantee that you'll never hurt her, it's not a promise you can really keep. But you can try to keep her happy, and if you love her like you say you do, she should be able to feel it too. I hope she comes back to you. You seem like a great guy.
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I think you should pull a 'hopeless romantic' on her. Show her that you're not going to give up that easily. Buy her flowers next time you see her, write her a song/poem, just do something that shows how much you really care for her. She'll realize that it would be stupid to let go so easily.
Good luck, and keep in touch. I want to know how this thing turns out! =D
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Get her to tell you the truth, find out if she has feelings for you like you do for her because if she does then you could go out. If she doesny feel the same then that cant be helped just move on and just be friends with renee, You can be great friends if you dont want to go out. Dont over do it dont keep going on about it give her sometime to think weather she wants to be in a relationship with you or she shes you more as a friend. Give her some time and space to think things through girls are sensative this way.
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Just enjoy the time you do have with her. If she is not settled in your feelings about you, then this is probably why she said what she did. She is trying to be honest with you. Give her time and space she needs, and she may come back. But you have to give her freedom to choose.
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Keep going after her !! If she is hiding her feelings then she'll know that your true and you really do love her and your not just playing the "dating game" ..
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heyyy i hope this helps i dont know this girl but im sure she is just scared that you might hurt her i think thats what every girl goes through when they finally find someone they truly love but i think i agree with you that she might just be hiding her true feelings. I think she is just scared of whats to come. Maybe you should just spend time away from her for a while and see where things go from there. Hope I helped feedback please-KaYyLa
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